[Rampager2000]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Hope it helps.

Good write up.

And yeah, I understand. It's just, I dunno. I know where I want to be in a few years and it kills me to not be there. What I want to do, the things I want to have, or even the people I'd like to be around are all three unsuccessfully being filled.

It'll happen one day.

Good discussion OGPT.

[smokeage]

I got new page raped. Please refer to the bottom of the last page for my *****ing and moaning.

[R2-D2]

I think you should hang out again and be more aggressive. don't talk feelings, that makes it awkward. just make a move. if she's not interested, she'll stop you and it'll be awkward, but that's still less awkward than the "I have feelings for you" rejection. she may not have feelings but be sexually interested. give it a try

[smokeage]

Originally Posted by R2-D2

I think you should hang out again and be more aggressive. don't talk feelings, that makes it awkward. just make a move. if she's not interested, she'll stop you and it'll be awkward, but that's still less awkward than the "I have feelings for you" rejection. she may not have feelings but be sexually interested. give it a try

Well, the "feelings" approach was going to be a little more blunt than what you were insinuating. Pretty much, "You're ****ing confusing me. Make up your mind or we need to stop hanging out." I estimate like 10 whole seconds of awkwardness from that lol.

But point still taken. I'll try to reinitiate tonight's plans and be more aggressive. I figure if she doesnt bail on tonight after what I did last night I still have some form of hope.

[empire112234]

Originally Posted by smokeage

Beta post incoming...

So this chick I fell for hard like 2 years ago just came out of left field the other week. I tried to play it tough and not pay her much mind because I got led on BIG time last time I barked up this tree. My plan went well until at one point she was obviously hanging around waiting for me to jump up and acknowledge her which I didnt do. After she got tired of waiting and left the group of friends I was with started giving me **** for being "blind" to her being interested in me. At this point in the night I am pretty ****ed up so without much convincing I begrudgingly trudged off after her and decided id give things another try.

When I first met her I made the ****ty mistake of following her around like a puppy dog for the weekend so I tried to make up for that even after I caved about trying to make something happen Friday night. The rest of the night went alright; No awkward moments and it seemed like I had more interest from her than I did before. (Being a dick- 1, being a nice guy- 0)

Sunday rolls around and the event is over. I'm still trying to keep my distance for the most part; Letting her come to me. Out of nowhere she shows up with a beer and we sneak off onto the field to smoke some tobacco. We parted way after that but I didnt go out of my way to say goodbye to her when we left.

So I wait for her to text me which she does within a day or two of the event. She goes out of her way to tell me her next day off (Today actually) so I invite her over for beer, tobacco, dinner and a movie figuring that makes my intentions of sexytime pretty obvious. She agrees, lots of smiley faces, so im feeling pretty good about my second shot.

She ends up texting me almost every day after that. I try to be a little flirty but am also trying to avoid a texting conversation. She asks me if im going to be up when she gets off work at like 3-4 on Friday night so I tell her maybe and to hit me up. She ends up just going home and passing out. Sunday night (last night) I get a similar text but with her promise not to bail this time. Again, Im feeling pretty good about my second chance.

(I think im doing better than most who post in here for help up until this point.)

So we hang out last night and absolutely ****ing nothing happens. I'm not the type of guy to just lean over and kiss a girl but if im interested they know plain as day. I rely on some kind of reciprocating signal from the girl to give me the green light and then ill start making heavy moves. I wasnt getting negative signals when I would do something but her reactions were comparable to a mannequin. She didnt leave until like 5am so she said she would see how today went considering our plans.



And thats where im at right now. We were supposed to hang out today but with last night it obviously leaves an opening to bail on the plans for either of us. I'm not sure if I should: 1. pursue today's plans and give things another shot, 2. do another freezeout or 3. do the one thing ST says never to do which is just lay everything out on the table because honestly I have no interest in remaining friends with someone I am interested in like that. Id rather scare her off and have to deal with awkwardly seeing her every couple of months than continue torturing myself on an almost daily basis.

tl;dr- Go **** yourself.

She made her interest pretty apparent and you didn't do anything. Act on it next time. Girls are horrible at giving signals.

[dub CRISP]

[smokeage]

Originally Posted by empire112234

She made her interest pretty apparent and you didn't do anything. Act on it next time. Girls are horrible at giving signals.

I made my interest clear and gave multiple chances for some form of sign it was appreciated. I'm sorry but if I wanted a one man show id just go jerk off.

On another note, she has not replied to my text so far. We will see how that goes.

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by smokeage

I made my interest clear and gave multiple chances for some form of sign it was appreciated. I'm sorry but if I wanted a one man show id just go jerk off.

On another note, she has not replied to my text so far. We will see how that goes.

I think you are looking wayyy too much into this. You're doing fine with just hanging out with her. Just be "friends", so to say and have fun. That's what relationships should be about, no? Don't worry about her and what she thinks of you. If a girl is interested in you, she hangs out with you. (inb4 except for when you're "friendzoned") I'm sure she knows you are interested in her. Don't ruin in and talk about HOW MUCH you like her. Just go with the flow of things. Push/pull. Make things exciting for her. Be yourself. You're putting too much pressure and too much of your own identity into whether or not this girl is interested or is receiving that you are interested in her.

Things I do;
-If she is ticklish- own that ****. Put your hands where you aren't supposed to. It's sometimes a gamble, but just gauge by her response.
-Make fun of her about some of her mannerisms. Not in a rude way, of course, but just in a humorous and jokingly, "you're so weird for doing that" way. It's sort of like a "neg", but it shows that you are being accepting of who she is, because she is probably self-conscious about it. However, don't fake this sort of thing. It's always very obvious and unattractive if done wrong. But don't be afraid to try. Remember, you're the catch.
-Show some vulnerability; but don't say everything all at once. If you always lay everything out there, all the time, it leaves less for her to get to know of you; and that takes time to develop. Progressively show more of yourself as you two go along. However, never make it her problem. Girls want you to take care of them and protect them, not the other way around. There is a difference between leaning on and off of each other in bad times vs. "I have all of these issues".

[pastel (Banned)]

just make a move dude.

i swear, 98% of the girl problems on here are dudes looking for signals. make a move and her response to that is the signal.

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

Good write up.

And yeah, I understand. It's just, I dunno. I know where I want to be in a few years and it kills me to not be there. What I want to do, the things I want to have, or even the people I'd like to be around are all three unsuccessfully being filled.

It'll happen one day.

Good discussion OGPT.

Welcome to the club. I hate the waiting game. I have my futures vision in my head, but the time and energy it takes to get there is.... frustrating.

[smokeage]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

I think you are looking wayyy too much into this. You're doing fine with just hanging out with her. Just be "friends", so to say and have fun. That's what relationships should be about, no? Don't worry about her and what she thinks of you. If a girl is interested in you, she hangs out with you. (inb4 except for when you're "friendzoned") I'm sure she knows you are interested in her. Don't ruin in and talk about HOW MUCH you like her. Just go with the flow of things. Push/pull. Make things exciting for her. Be yourself. You're putting too much pressure and too much of your own identity into whether or not this girl is interested or is receiving that you are interested in her.

This is more or less the perspective I was looking for. I'm apprehensive about just hanging out and being friendly because this is pretty much exactly how things went last time. Lots of queues saying to go for it but when I actually press forward I dont even get a smile. I pretty much just get left with blue balls and an urge to drink way too much beer every time we hang out and it ****ing blows because she is a serious catch.

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Things I do;
-If she is ticklish- own that ****. Put your hands where you aren't supposed to. It's sometimes a gamble, but just gauge by her response.
-Make fun of her about some of her mannerisms. Not in a rude way, of course, but just in a humorous and jokingly, "you're so weird for doing that" way. It's sort of like a "neg", but it shows that you are being accepting of who she is, because she is probably self-conscious about it. However, don't fake this sort of thing. It's always very obvious and unattractive if done wrong. But don't be afraid to try. Remember, you're the catch.
-Show some vulnerability; but don't say everything all at once. If you always lay everything out there, all the time, it leaves less for her to get to know of you; and that takes time to develop. Progressively show more of yourself as you two go along. However, never make it her problem. Girls want you to take care of them and protect them, not the other way around. There is a difference between leaning on and off of each other in bad times vs. "I have all of these issues".

I do these. Like I said I do flirt with the girl but I swear to god its like she doesnt even notice most of the time.

Is no reaction a good one or a bad one? lol

Originally Posted by pastel

just make a move dude.

i swear, 98% of the girl problems on here are dudes looking for signals. make a move and her response to that is the signal.

If she ends up coming over im just going to shove my tongue down her throat when I meet her at the door.

Is that good enough for you? lol

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by smokeage

This is more or less the perspective I was looking for. I'm apprehensive about just hanging out and being friendly because this is pretty much exactly how things went last time. Lots of queues saying to go for it but when I actually press forward I dont even get a smile. I pretty much just get left with blue balls and an urge to drink way too much beer every time we hang out and it ****ing blows because she is a serious catch.



I do these. Like I said I do flirt with the girl but I swear to god its like she doesnt even notice most of the time.

Is no reaction a good one or a bad one? lol

Well it's not a call for anyone here to make. You need to start owning your own wants/needs. Sure, she may be a serious catch, but maybe not YOUR catch. Don't forcing something if it isn't right.

It's hard to judge what "no reaction" means without having been there. You were there, how did you perceive it? If you are constantly putting yourself out there for someone, and they don't appreciate it or give back, just move on. It's not worth the time/effort for that. All in all, if it wasn't the reaction you wanted; it wasn't the reaction you wanted. However, remember too, nothing/nobody/no relationship is perfect. Just keep hanging out and make good judgement calls as you go.

[bubbleboy016]

Originally Posted by Ly$ol

You got vtec bro?

Bimmer.

Working my *** off to pay it off so I can start an S54/6spd swap.

[viking002]

Finally got with the chick I've been trying to get with for a while. I feel accomplished

[colors]

Originally Posted by pastel

just make a move dude.

i swear, 98% of the girl problems on here are dudes looking for signals. make a move and her response to that is the signal.

Haha i feel the exact same way. and it definitely applies to me as well.

Originally Posted by smokeage

If she ends up coming over im just going to shove my tongue down her throat when I meet her at the door.

Is that good enough for you? lol

should really do it though.

Originally Posted by viking002

Finally got with the chick I've been trying to get with for a while. I feel accomplished

[smokeage]

She ended up not coming over after her work meeting thing.

I'm just going to run with Familiar's advice. It wasn't the reaction I wanted, end of story.

So back to ignoring this chick like I was before. I should have never listened to my friends two weeks ago lol.

Funny part is she could be reading all of this because she has posted in here before but IDGAF. #YOLO?

[Rampager2000]

Really? Who? Who?

I live close enough, I'll come get her off your hands for ya.

[smokeage]

Her name is Palmela Handerson but I warn you, she plays hard to get.

[Mr.Familiar]

smokeage- if you like her, and know why you like her, don't go out of your way to ignore her. Keep her on the hook and perhaps give her another chance. Just because she didn't come over tonight, isn't necessarily a signal that she isn't interested. Be patient, but at the same time, be uncompromising, in a sense. It's hard to explain. End note: just do what you want as long as you're not hurting anyone.

[smokeage]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

smokeage- if you like her, and know why you like her, don't go out of your way to ignore her. Keep her on the hook and perhaps give her another chance. Just because she didn't come over tonight, isn't necessarily a signal that she isn't interested. Be patient, but at the same time, be uncompromising, in a sense. It's hard to explain. End note: just do what you want as long as you're not hurting anyone.

I guess im jumping to that conclusion because I dont want things to replay like they did last time. That **** sucked for me and the freezeout made things much easier.
I also want to point out it had little to do with her not coming tonight.

I'll sleep on it and maybe ill find a good median. After one more beer of course.

Mr. Familiar, . Already feeling better about the situation but that could also just be the beer and tobacco lol.

[earlsweatshirt (Banned)]

Originally Posted by dub CRISP

relevant