So, I lost this girls number, Tara, and I wanted to text and tell her happy birthday. So i looked at my recent message numbers and I just took a guess at a number I thought was hers. However, i accidently ended up texting Erica. Now, Erica and I were talking a lot the beginning of last summer, but things never really evolved, because of her. While I was talking to Erica last summer, I made it clear to her I was also interested in Tara. That could be why things never evolved between us, but I don't know. Anyways, I didn't think things ended poorly, but I guess they didn't end great either.
M: hey is this tara?
H: Nope. Its Erica.
M: oh hah. My bad. Wrong number.
M: Well, so im not being rude, how are you, havent talked to you in forever
H: Yeah cause this is wayyy less rude. Wasn't she the one you had a thing for when you were telling me you were into me? Ha.
M: Hah, yes kind of. But I assure you it isn't like that. I don't even live around there anymore. But im bein serious, how are you, other than peeved right now
H: Haha. Im good. How are you?
M: feelin like a million bucks, I'm livin at the beach now. I cant wait for spring/summer!
H: Yeah i bet
M: What are you doin this afternoon/early evening? Im gonna be comin through on my way to Baltimore, you should join me for food
H: Haha what? Did Tara say no?
M: I dont care either way, im stoppin to get food later, you can join me if you want or not.
And i lost Taras number, I was just trying to tell her happy bday
H: Well id like to but its my brothers last day in town before he deploys
M: Alright. Well if you visit the beach, hit me up. 10min from oceanfront, 15min from mccarthur mall!
M: Haha, yes, thats where mccarthur mall is.. good job
H: dont start. its not like i need to go far away to shop. haha.
M: hah, whatever. Malls back home suck cock in comparison to here. Thats not why you visit the beach anyways. you visit the beach for the ocean.. and the beach.
H: indeed. so dont joke on me for questioning where mccarthur is.
M: I was complimenting. Do you always get defensive when ppl compliment you?
H: Eh. Only people i dont trust
M: I'm sorry to hear that, cause you cant trust a lot of people in this world. So you should try to take compliments better
H: Im a pretty trusting person. I give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove me otherwise.
M: Glad to hear it. Lifes better when you filter out those ****s, isnt it?
H: are you calling yourself a ****?
M: No, you're callin me that. Thanks ho, lol.
H: I call it like I see it.
M: Pot, kettle, black? maybe?
H: how so?
M: It doesnt matter. Your perception of me doesnt effect me one way or the other, and vise versa. Anyways, the offer to chill if u come to the beach is still there, later.
H: Chill your nips. All I was saying is things didn't work out as expected.
M: The past is the past, it really doesnt matter. Trust me or not, its your call. Just thought id offer to meet up since we were talking.
H: Well definitely let me know next time you're coming through.
M: You do the same
- It was pretty clear that she didn't trust my intentions and she thought I was just running game on her. She probably thought she is a secondary and she probably doesn't like that spot.
- Its a lot of fluff, but this is how its always been talking to her. Shes pretty sharp when it comes to power retention. I thought I did a fairly good job of avoiding arguments, not apologizing for the past, and not letting her control the conversation. I italicized the points where i think I turned the conversation and kept things in my favor. Its not "A" class stuff, but I think I did a fairly good job of breaking the ice after 8 months, haha.
- I'm not 100% sure, but I think I may have changed her mind about us talking / hanging out again.