[SimplySour]

Originally Posted by Noob Baller123

Why do you have to get yourself banned to not come back here anymore?

Because when he called me immature the other day, he was really the immature one. Who doesn't have the will power to say no to the internet

Originally Posted by Young_Grasshopper

Ok, it's a bit of a story, but please bear with me. I'm a freshman at college, I recently met a girl at a shuttle stop (campus to freshman dirt parking lot). She started talking to me, and we talked for a good 15 minutes straight, asking each other questions before we got there and I asked her for her phone number, which she gave to me. Two days later, I texted her and asked her if she wanted to hang out or go out for lunch. She said hang out, and then I met her at her dorm where she introduced me to her floormates. It seems they were all expecting me, and she made a few sarcastic/playful comments like "it's not like we haven't been talking about you or anything". We went for a walk where we got to know each other a little better. The next day, I went over and hung out with her and her floormates (I know what you're thinking, that she just sees me as a guy friend) but the entire time she was sitting really close to me (shoulders and hair touching), and we went to eat something with her floormates and she would playfully push and grab me if I walked the wrong direction. And the entire time at the restauraunt she stood really close, to the average person it would look like we were together. When we were finished, we would walk back to my dorm, she would hug me really tightly for a few seconds, and then we would just say "goodnight, text me tomorrow".

A few days later, we went to her sister's HS volleyball game, and she introduced me to her parents, grandma, and mom's friends. They all seemed excited for her, as if we were together or something. And before we left for the movie, her mom told me that the girl's dad puts on a tough face for the boys, but he's not really like that. When we left I gave her family hugs (which I thought was weird considering I just met them and I had only known the girl for ~2 weeks). Then we went out to see Inception. 5-6 times throughout the movie she leaned her head over really closely (hair touching) and asked me questions about the movie that were pretty obvious.

Here's the weird part:

Yesterday, I went running with her, we got back to her dorm and hung out with her floormates. When we went to say goodbye, I said "I really like you, and I want you to be my girlfriend". She looked kind of uneasy, so I asked "are you already with someone?". She said "yes.....sorry", and then paused for a few seconds, hugged me tightly, and then said "text me tomorrow".

My question:

Should I text her? Before anyone asks, she knows I'm not gay, and normally I wouldn't say this, but I felt like she was really into me and practically throwing herself at me. Also, would it be weird if I asked her to hook me up with one of her floormates (I had seen her before around campus, and she seemed into me as well)? Thanks guys.

Well maybe she's into you, but she's with someone else who isn't around. Or maybe shes just lieing to piss you off, who knows. Maybe just play it by ear, if you ask to get hooked up with a friend, she'll wake the **** up. Or you can do the "I need to stay away for a little bit, cause I like you and I don't want it getting worse" bit. where you just stay away for like a month or two and do your own thing.. and then see where it goes. I say fall back and let her come to you.

[512]

You had a ****load of opportunities to make a move on her grasshopper and you never did.

[ImTheScatman]

Originally Posted by Dikkens

Ouch.

First off, you didnt escalate. At all. She initiated every single physical contact you guys made and you didnt do anything about it.
Second, WHYYYY did you tell her that, especially before you made any physical contact or gave her any physical action to show her you were interested? You dont go saying **** like that.

I think youre friend zoned now. Hit her up, and hang out. This time dont act like a *****. Make your move at the right time, and gauge her reaction. It might be too late now, so dont wait any longer. If she pushes you away, congratulations, youre friend zoned. Go for the friend and dont do what you did last time. If she doesnt push you away, continue to pursue and stop acting like a *****.

Originally Posted by 512

You had a ****load of opportunities to make a move on her grasshopper and you never did.

this. you should at least make a move and get to 1st or 2nd base before you start the "relationship" talk.

[ion.reaper]

Originally Posted by Young_Grasshopper

Ok, it's a bit of a story, but please bear with me. I'm a freshman at college, I recently met a girl at a shuttle stop (campus to freshman dirt parking lot). She started talking to me, and we talked for a good 15 minutes straight, asking each other questions before we got there and I asked her for her phone number, which she gave to me. Two days later, I texted her and asked her if she wanted to hang out or go out for lunch. She said hang out, and then I met her at her dorm where she introduced me to her floormates. It seems they were all expecting me, and she made a few sarcastic/playful comments like "it's not like we haven't been talking about you or anything". We went for a walk where we got to know each other a little better. The next day, I went over and hung out with her and her floormates (I know what you're thinking, that she just sees me as a guy friend) but the entire time she was sitting really close to me (shoulders and hair touching), and we went to eat something with her floormates and she would playfully push and grab me if I walked the wrong direction. And the entire time at the restauraunt she stood really close, to the average person it would look like we were together. When we were finished, we would walk back to my dorm, she would hug me really tightly for a few seconds, and then we would just say "goodnight, text me tomorrow".

A few days later, we went to her sister's HS volleyball game, and she introduced me to her parents, grandma, and mom's friends. They all seemed excited for her, as if we were together or something. And before we left for the movie, her mom told me that the girl's dad puts on a tough face for the boys, but he's not really like that. When we left I gave her family hugs (which I thought was weird considering I just met them and I had only known the girl for ~2 weeks). Then we went out to see Inception. 5-6 times throughout the movie she leaned her head over really closely (hair touching) and asked me questions about the movie that were pretty obvious.

Here's the weird part:

Yesterday, I went running with her, we got back to her dorm and hung out with her floormates. When we went to say goodbye, I said "I really like you, and I want you to be my girlfriend". She looked kind of uneasy, so I asked "are you already with someone?". She said "yes.....sorry", and then paused for a few seconds, hugged me tightly, and then said "text me tomorrow".

My question:

Should I text her? Before anyone asks, she knows I'm not gay, and normally I wouldn't say this, but I felt like she was really into me and practically throwing herself at me. Also, would it be weird if I asked her to hook me up with one of her floormates (I had seen her before around campus, and she seemed into me as well)? Thanks guys.

You can't just go out and say that to her randomly after two weeks and little to no physical contact. Escalation is key.

[ion.reaper]

also, double post here. but LOLLLLLLL

dashJPdash (Banned)

[SimplySour]

Originally Posted by ion.reaper

also, double post here. but LOLLLLLLL

dashJPdash (Banned)

[komodo_117]

The fact that I've been getting laid on some horrible, lazy, downright ****ty game has me convinced that some of you are flat out socially retarded.

But forreal though, smooth just hasn't been in my vocabulary for the past however many months. I really need to pull my head out of my ***.

[esteban mendez]

pull your head out of your ***, corbin

[whiteyg0tgame]

Originally Posted by Young_Grasshopper

Yesterday, I went running with her, we got back to her dorm and hung out with her floormates. When we went to say goodbye, I said "I really like you, and I want you to be my girlfriend". She looked kind of uneasy, so I asked "are you already with someone?". She said "yes.....sorry", and then paused for a few seconds, hugged me tightly, and then said "text me tomorrow".

My question:

Should I text her? Before anyone asks, she knows I'm not gay, and normally I wouldn't say this, but I felt like she was really into me and practically throwing herself at me. Also, would it be weird if I asked her to hook me up with one of her floormates (I had seen her before around campus, and she seemed into me as well)? Thanks guys.

****ing incredible!

[PaintballAlways25]

Originally Posted by komodo_117

The fact that I've been getting laid on some horrible, lazy, downright ****ty game has me convinced that some of you are flat out socially retarded.

But forreal though, smooth just hasn't been in my vocabulary for the past however many months. I really need to pull my head out of my ***.

Seriously same here, I knew my game was going to be terrible considering i just got out of a 3 year relationship, but lately I find my motivation to be lacking considerably. I see decent girls at college and had opportunity to strike up conversation, but for some reason I think "why bother putting the effort in when I have no desire to progress with her" hence i just go to class and leave. I'm worried about my lack of sex drive lol

[Noob Baller123]

Sounds like you both need a new ****in' haircut

[PaintballAlways25]

would that attract the skanks?

[komodo_117]

I actually do need a haircut. I'm gettin pretty shaggy. Kind of want to grow it out real long though.

And I'm not really questioning my sex drive as much as I'm questioning my ability to give a **** about women. I'm kind of getting tired of random hookups and really want a relationship, but it's so hard for me to give any respect towards the girls around here, let alone find one that I could stand to be around for longer than it takes to bust a nut in her.

[Young_Grasshopper]

Originally Posted by Dikkens

Ouch.

First off, you didnt escalate. At all. She initiated every single physical contact you guys made and you didnt do anything about it.
Second, WHYYYY did you tell her that, especially before you made any physical contact or gave her any physical action to show her you were interested? You dont go saying **** like that.

I think youre friend zoned now. Hit her up, and hang out. This time dont act like a *****. Make your move at the right time, and gauge her reaction. It might be too late now, so dont wait any longer. If she pushes you away, congratulations, youre friend zoned. Go for the friend and dont do what you did last time. If she doesnt push you away, continue to pursue and stop acting like a *****.

I didn't know she had a boyfriend, after all the physical contact I thought the least I could do was tell her I like her (I didn't tell her I love her, that I want to get married and father her children or some other weird ****, just that I like her). And know that I know she has a boyfriend it's kind of awkward. I just talked to a female friend who said she's using me because she likes the attention (I don't mean to sound like a tool but I've been told I'm a good looking guy)

[Young_Grasshopper]

And she just texted me asking if I still want to go on a run. Lol how do I respond? Just ask for her floormates number?

[Jlausen]

Originally Posted by whiteyg0tgame

Those stages are sometimes pleasant... other times awkward. Another thing with long distance relationships is the amount of time they take. Since you see each other less and you interact with each other with the normal daily grinds you actually to to know each other slower and the relationships typically progress much, much slower.

P.S. JP, don't be so mopy

Yeah I don't mind it. Sometimes I contemplate bringing it up but it's good how it is. She's coming down next weekend, gonna throw a party. I'll probably go back up there next month for a weekend, so it's not like we'll never see each other.

[PaintballAlways25]

Originally Posted by komodo_117

I actually do need a haircut. I'm gettin pretty shaggy. Kind of want to grow it out real long though.

And I'm not really questioning my sex drive as much as I'm questioning my ability to give a **** about women. I'm kind of getting tired of random hookups and really want a relationship, but it's so hard for me to give any respect towards the girls around here, let alone find one that I could stand to be around for longer than it takes to bust a nut in her.

In my case, my relationship sucked and all i need is to bust a nut in a girl lol my concern is the fact my motivation to do so is non existant, and i dont know why. But i understand where your coming from, I can respect guys much easier than women just because girls around here bring so much bull**** with them

[MrSmartyParts5 (Banned)]

Originally Posted by edudcixlsyd

You've all ruined this thread

This.

[komodo_117]

Originally Posted by Jlausen

Yeah I don't mind it. Sometimes I contemplate bringing it up but it's good how it is. She's coming down next weekend, gonna throw a party. I'll probably go back up there next month for a weekend, so it's not like we'll never see each other.

Do you still drum?

[whiteyg0tgame]

Originally Posted by Young_Grasshopper

I didn't know she had a boyfriend, after all the physical contact I thought the least I could do was tell her I like her (I didn't tell her I love her, that I want to get married and father her children or some other weird ****, just that I like her). And know that I know she has a boyfriend it's kind of awkward. I just talked to a female friend who said she's using me because she likes the attention (I don't mean to sound like a tool but I've been told I'm a good looking guy)

Originally Posted by Young_Grasshopper

And she just texted me asking if I still want to go on a run. Lol how do I respond? Just ask for her floormates number?

You're missing the point. You should not have said you liked her. At all. Not even a little. You should have said nothing. You shouldn't have said what you said. It doesn't matter what you could have said that would have been more crazy. The fact of the matter is, you shouldn't have said anything relating to what you ended up saying to her. Get it? I hope you do. So!

Go for a run with her. Pretend you never said such a stupid thing. And act like everything is normal. Don't try to be a bitter prick (that lost the first round of the match) and ask for her floormates number. Why?

1- Because you come off as a bitter prick and it's immature.
2- Because you should ask her floormate for her number if you really want it.

Ugh. I'm frustrated. You never tried to kiss her, you never did anything, not one little thing, back to her to see if she liked you. Basically, this is just a comfortable and friendly girl that you totally misinterpretted. Don't you get that?

Advise if you like her:
-Act like you never said anything to her and that she does NOT have a boyfriend.
-Initiate close contact, cuddling, hugs, etc. Stop making her do the work.
--If she returns she may be interested in you and you can escalate to a kiss.
-Play a little hard to get and try to make her a little jealous.
--Give her something to work for and she'll work for it!
-***DO NOT TALK ABOUT EMOTIONS/FEELINGS/ANYTHING***
--If you start hooking up with her consistently, then you can go for it (consistent = ~1month often)

[Jlausen]

Originally Posted by komodo_117

Do you still drum?

Yeah dudee, I didn't play much for a while but I got back into it, and I'm playing with a band now. I don't want to say I'm "in" because we've played once but it's looking good.