Do something interactive... bowling, go-carts, mini-golf, billiards, wall climbing, etc. Avoid things like the movies (where you can't talk to each other) and only dinner (where you're forced to talk).
Interactive first dates do a few things:
1. Like Whitey said, they are excellent icebreakers and easily allow the 2 people to connect on a common event that they shared.
2. They aren't the norm. The norm for first dates, for most guys, is dinner and movie. Women aren't that stupid, they know this too, and to them you're just, "Another average champ"
3. They build comfort, even if you don't have an in depth conversation with your date, you're building comfort. She see's the date as a way for the two of you to just go out and have fun just being together. The more her frame changes from "Is this guy trying to date me using the same routine every other guy uses?" to "He's a lot of fun and I like being around him, I'm not really sure if he wants to date me, but i'm kind of curious" the better chance you have of getting with her.
4. They are usually a lot of fun, regardless of whether or not you intended to actually have fun, you usually will.
5. The comfort built will also build slight curiosity in her mind, "He's a lot of fun to be around, but I want to know more about him personally" which will layout the foundations for a second or third date.
You have to, have to, have to build comfort before you can build attraction. - In a sober environment, this could take a date or two. Rushing into something semi-romantic/cliche as a first date and trying to clique/connect with your date on a deeper scale immediately is going to most likely make her uncomfortable and more likely to throw up shields. Chances are, if you are in that scenario, then your game isn't good enough to recognize those shields/**** tests and will fail them and ultimately be either A) friend zoned or B) left on the side of the street.
Interactive first dates do a few things:
1. Like Whitey said, they are excellent icebreakers and easily allow the 2 people to connect on a common event that they shared.
2. They aren't the norm. The norm for first dates, for most guys, is dinner and movie. Women aren't that stupid, they know this too, and to them you're just, "Another average champ"
3. They build comfort, even if you don't have an in depth conversation with your date, you're building comfort. She see's the date as a way for the two of you to just go out and have fun just being together. The more her frame changes from "Is this guy trying to date me using the same routine every other guy uses?" to "He's a lot of fun and I like being around him, I'm not really sure if he wants to date me, but i'm kind of curious" the better chance you have of getting with her.
4. They are usually a lot of fun, regardless of whether or not you intended to actually have fun, you usually will.
5. The comfort built will also build slight curiosity in her mind, "He's a lot of fun to be around, but I want to know more about him personally" which will layout the foundations for a second or third date.
You have to, have to, have to build comfort before you can build attraction. - In a sober environment, this could take a date or two. Rushing into something semi-romantic/cliche as a first date and trying to clique/connect with your date on a deeper scale immediately is going to most likely make her uncomfortable and more likely to throw up shields. Chances are, if you are in that scenario, then your game isn't good enough to recognize those shields/**** tests and will fail them and ultimately be either A) friend zoned or B) left on the side of the street.
Some one read Magic Bullets or loves the attraction forums ha.
all good stuff though
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man, do I feel like **** today. Fuuucckkk.
save a couple days, ive been feeling great the last few months. i think im finally shaking off depression / getting my life figured out. or, im just getting better at game.
either way, my confidence has been through the roof when im out in unfamiliar situations lately, whereas i always struggled before. good signs are good.
i moved from nj to florida for awhile. it was cool, but i was surprised how much i missed the winter, the leaves changing color, and the pace of nj. it's such a different feel, and endless summer its fun, but it does get old.
Then again, if you pay 3000 dollars or whatever to go to a seminar on how to get girls, that's going a little too far. Youre basically paying 3 grand for confidence. Just take a shot, it's cheaper.
you're correct about the high price, but the rest of that was worthless.
you can buy, swallow, pop, drink, create, or fake confidence. it has to come from within.
all a shot is actually doing is lowering the amount of oxygen getting to your brain, and although it does lower your inhibitions it also makes your finer mental processes go to ****, like reading and showing body language. alcohol is for fun, and should never be used as a crutch for your lack of personality.
honestly California is overrated. LA is a filthy piece of **** that everyone thinks is so glamorous. there are only selective places in California that are actually what people think they are.
I realized that I don't need her to be happy, and that other people can do that just as well. It's just a shock getting used to being single at first.
Now that you are realizing this... just never forget it!
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man, do I feel like **** today. Fuuucckkk.
I have an idea, smoke weed *insert sarcastic tone that cannot be relaying via internet*
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Mystery is kind of a huge douche, but you can't argue with his results.
What the **** is up with these ******s and not using their real name. **** man.
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Then again, if you pay 3000 dollars or whatever to go to a seminar on how to get girls, that's going a little too far. Youre basically paying 3 grand for confidence. Just take a shot, it's cheaper.
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all a shot is actually doing is lowering the amount of oxygen getting to your brain, and although it does lower your inhibitions it also makes your finer mental processes go to ****, like reading and showing body language. alcohol is for fun, and should never be used as a crutch for your lack of personality.
What I see here is - if you kick good game after a few drinks you have confidence/insecurity issues. If you still can't kick game after drinking then you lack a personality.
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honestly California is overrated. LA is a filthy piece of **** that everyone thinks is so glamorous. there are only selective places in California that are actually what people think they are.
Ohhh, bitter much?
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You live in one city in a massive state. And in that one city you probably live in one socioeconomic status. I think that's called bias, but I'm not positive.
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