[paintballer3]

guys i was recalently told that i need to wane my self off of datting girls. I know that this sounds funny, but i honesly have a new date ever other week. must i just say no to, some say no to me. But my problem is that i think it is starting to take a tole on it me, mentally and emotionally. I am just trying to hard to find the right girl or should i just keep trucking?

last long relationship broke up pretty bad (i broke this one up)
then next week went on a blind date with this one girl, sucked hard core (i broke this one up before it even started)
just got told that we should be freinds (i thought it was fine, until she broke it up)

that was this semester only
4 weeks into it

all of my really close freinds tell me to stop for a little bit, but just wanted your imput

[Big_Dangerous]

Now here's my dilemma - bearing in mind that i'm in college so there has to be a high level of maturity with suggestions.

Obviously I'm attracted to a girl, She's in my bio class but I have yet to meet her or introduce myself. I really am terrible about just walking up to someone and introducing myself. Clearly asking her out with out really getting to know her is not a good idea, but then if i get to know her and I fall into the "friends zone" I'll be kicking my self because I don't want a Friend.

[Big_Dangerous]

Originally Posted by paintballer3

guys i was recalently told that i need to wane my self off of datting girls. I know that this sounds funny, but i honesly have a new date ever other week. must i just say no to, some say no to me. But my problem is that i think it is starting to take a tole on it me, mentally and emotionally. I am just trying to hard to find the right girl or should i just keep trucking?

last long relationship broke up pretty bad (i broke this one up)
then next week went on a blind date with this one girl, sucked hard core (i broke this one up before it even started)
just got told that we should be freinds (i thought it was fine, until she broke it up)

that was this semester only
4 weeks into it

all of my really close freinds tell me to stop for a little bit, but just wanted your imput

I wish i could get women to go out with me that easy, hell i'm in college at 19 and I haven't had a legitimate girlfriend yet.

[komodo-117]

Paintballer3:

I'd take a break, check out all of my options before jumping into anything again. It's not like every girl is just going to up and leave suddenly.

Oh, and, you have my favorite avvy in all of the nation.

[komodo-117]

Originally Posted by Big_Dangerous

I wish i could get women to go out with me that easy, hell i'm in college at 19 and I haven't had a legitimate girlfriend yet.

Thats because you over analyze stuff.

Just talk to her. Dont worry about falling into the freind zone. Talk to her just a tiny bit, enough to make conversation, nothing more. Then the next day, ask her out. Get her attention just enough so she knows who the hell you are, gets an idea of what kind of person you are, but leaves her wanting to know a bit more.


It takes a bit to get in the freind zone. You do have a bit of a buffer room believe it or not. It is not like you are walking a tightrope. It is possible to talk to someone and get to know them for weeks, and not be in the freind zone, and others the moment you say "Hi", they throw you so deep in the zone that it feels like the entire defensive linemen from your football team are holding you back. It all has to do with your attitude, and how you conduct yourself. Yes, by all means, talk to her, get to know her a bit. Do NOT overly talk to her. She is in your bio class, so keep your chatting INSIDE that bio class. If you see her outside of class, dont like ignore her, but act as if you have better things to do, and she has to fight for your time. This way, you arent seen as that freind whome she can talk to, and see you as something special as JUST a freind (which happens a LOT).

I say just make small talk with her for about a week, but keep a suave, cocky/funny attitude. At the end of the week, as her on a date. Chances are, you will be someone new and refreshing in her life, and she'll jump at the chance to get to know you better.

That post probally makes no sense, but my contact fell out, and I forgot I had just handled hot sauce when I was putting it back in...so I'm crying right now...makes it hard to see wtf I'm typing.

[paintballer3]

dude it really isnt that hard to hook up with a girl.

here is somthing that i do when i want to talk to a girl (i am 19 and in college too) that is in one of classes. Walk out of class by your self and try to walk near her. Turn towards her and say either, "man that test was hard", "i am just dumb, or are you notting understanding anything else."

there you opened a channel for talking to her.
talk then interduce your self to her.
the most important tihng is to never push any thing. that last thing you want anything to look is un-natural

then next class, if the conversation went really good then she will either say hi or make eye contact with you. You then make a little wave at her. Try to look cute when doing this

slowly take it from there

[paintballer3]

Originally Posted by komodo-117

Paintballer3:

I'd take a break, check out all of my options before jumping into anything again. It's not like every girl is just going to up and leave suddenly.

Oh, and, you have my favorite avvy in all of the nation.

thanks on the advice
thanks for the props on the avvy

[komodo-117]

Originally Posted by paintballer3

dude it really isnt that hard to hook up with a girl.

here is somthing that i do when i want to talk to a girl (i am 19 and in college too) that is in one of classes. Walk out of class by your self and try to walk near her. Turn towards her and say either, "man that test was hard", "i am just dumb, or are you notting understanding anything else."

there you opened a channel for talking to her.
talk then interduce your self to her.
the most important tihng is to never push any thing. that last thing you want anything to look is un-natural

then next class, if the conversation went really good then she will either say hi or make eye contact with you. You then make a little wave at her. Try to look cute when doing this

slowly take it from there

Never openly call yourself dumb though to start out a conversation. While it may not seem significant to you, it shows a lack of confidence in yourself to her, that is unappealing. If you MUST do something along those lines, say in an optimistic, cheery voice, "Man! I tanked that test! I hope the teacher has a hazard suit because I bombed that ****! Lemme guess, you got aced it?". It just sounds better, and you are putting her on the spot by asking if she did better than you. Then just work off her response to that.

[Evil_Dreamer]

Originally Posted by paintballer3

guys i was recalently told that i need to wane my self off of datting girls. I know that this sounds funny, but i honesly have a new date ever other week. must i just say no to, some say no to me. But my problem is that i think it is starting to take a tole on it me, mentally and emotionally. I am just trying to hard to find the right girl or should i just keep trucking?

last long relationship broke up pretty bad (i broke this one up)
then next week went on a blind date with this one girl, sucked hard core (i broke this one up before it even started)
just got told that we should be freinds (i thought it was fine, until she broke it up)

that was this semester only
4 weeks into it

all of my really close freinds tell me to stop for a little bit, but just wanted your imput

dude just wait it out. focus on school or paintball or something else. I dated a girl for a year in middle school. after we broke up i didnt have another girlfriend until junior year.. and that only lasted a month. I mean yeah i knew some hot chicks... but they were ****s. I knew i deserved something better so I just didnt have a girlfriend.

[Evil_Dreamer]

Originally Posted by komodo-117

Never openly call yourself dumb though to start out a conversation. While it may not seem significant to you, it shows a lack of confidence in yourself to her, that is unappealing. If you MUST do something along those lines, say in an optimistic, cheery voice, "Man! I tanked that test! I hope the teacher has a hazard suit because I bombed that ****! Lemme guess, you got aced it?". It just sounds better, and you are putting her on the spot by asking if she did better than you. Then just work off her response to that.

ahhahhhhhha. thats a good one. you gotta start somewhere with talking to her. you can even just ask her how long shes been at the college and what she plans on doing...

[Big_Dangerous]

Originally Posted by paintballer3

dude it really isnt that hard to hook up with a girl.

here is somthing that i do when i want to talk to a girl (i am 19 and in college too) that is in one of classes. Walk out of class by your self and try to walk near her. Turn towards her and say either, "man that test was hard", "i am just dumb, or are you notting understanding anything else."

there you opened a channel for talking to her.
talk then interduce your self to her.
the most important tihng is to never push any thing. that last thing you want anything to look is un-natural

then next class, if the conversation went really good then she will either say hi or make eye contact with you. You then make a little wave at her. Try to look cute when doing this

slowly take it from there

Yeah I was thinking of maybe sitting progressively closer to her each day, but then i thought that really wasn't a good idea, we normally sit on the same row, but at completely opposite ends. I don't think telling her i understand nothing in the class is really a good idea because I'll either look like an idiot or she'll see right through to what I'm doing. The test thing might work because we have one on wednesday, but it would be nothing short of a miracle that we finish at the same time. As i'm looking at my options it seems the only shot i have is actually sitting near her to initiate a conversation - this is my least favorite option.

As i read this back i do realize i over analyze it big time. I guess it's better to over analyze than to under analyze.

[Big_Dangerous]

Originally Posted by Evil_Dreamer

ahhahhhhhha. thats a good one. you gotta start somewhere with talking to her. you can even just ask her how long shes been at the college and what she plans on doing...

I'm not as concerned about what to say, I just need an opportunity to talk to her so we can get to know each other.

[Hookipabound]

Well there is this girl, I will call her molly, Ive known molly from freshman year. I consider her my best friend that is a girl. Im debating to ask her out, here is like what I would say, Btw I live in hawaii and she likes a dude on another island, so yeah he can gtfo my internets. Anywho read this

Hey molly how was your day, well listen(pulls her somewere were no one can see us) I really need to talk to you(Grabs her hands) I need to seriously confess something to you, I think im falling for you, I can say 1000 things right now just about you, I would do anything for you Im the only person who knows you and would never turn his back unlike your other ****ed boyfriends in the past, I would give you my life I love you so much, i really want a relationship with you cause I think we would be perfect, And i value our friendship alot so you know im serious when im doing this, I always have been told to never regret something.I love you and hope you make the right choice.

Think that would catch her over?

Edit* I know im a grammar whore but im tired and cold at the moment.

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