[rusballer]

yeah i've just gave her time, but i thought a month was plenty.
idk i think i'm probably have to confront her about this soon. do you
have any advice on how going about on this??

[fireisgood4u]

Originally Posted by rusballer

yeah its been a month and she like treats me as a friend, but things haven't gone back to how used to be. i'd rather be her friend then not talking to her at all and its pissing me off. she seems fine and acts if nothings wrong in the world. shes always a very happy person, but i just hope are friendship is gone ughhh. its very frusterating. thanks for the advice.

Do not, I repeat do not get upset over a woman. If she was a true friend she would have realized your feelings but told you it wouldn't work, rather than cutting you out of her life. (unless you came off as creepy). **** her.

[SharkMachine]

Ok, so theres this pretty *****y, stuck up girl that I know. Were in the same history class, and she started liking me, we hooked up and went pretty far one night, and it seemed like it would happed again after being around her at school the next week. We were in a group for a school project, I wanted a different subject, so i changed groups. This girl went insane, and will not speak to me now. When I try she just says "dont talk to me". I would never want to be close to a girl this stupid, but I kinda still want to hook up with her. What should I do to make her start talking to me again? Just wait it out until she cracks?

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by SharkMachine

Ok, so theres this pretty *****y, stuck up girl that I know. Were in the same history class, and she started liking me, we hooked up and went pretty far one night, and it seemed like it would happed again after being around her at school the next week. We were in a group for a school project, I wanted a different subject, so i changed groups. This girl went insane, and will not speak to me now. When I try she just says "dont talk to me". I would never want to be close to a girl this stupid, but I kinda still want to hook up with her. What should I do to make her start talking to me again? Just wait it out until she cracks?

ya just dont talk to her.

Eventually she will get pissed because she is an attention whore, and when she gives you **** for ignoring her. tell her that she told you not to talk to her.

If you want to mess with her, walk up to her and ask "So are you cool enough to let me talk to you yet?"

[p8ntballr1125]

Ugh, im getting mixed signals. So I went to the game tonight with this girl and her friend. We were having fun and everything but she seemed to get 'mad' at me for alot of things. Then we go and sit in the bleachers. It is cold as ****, and we are pretty much cuddling together. Then she leaves without telling me, but we meet up a little bit later and talk a little bit.

Im just frustrated with the fact that I CANNOT make a read and see whats going on.

[N$$balla]

ok,

so i have a girlfriend, we love eachother to death, but she doesnt like being pressured

me and her made out for like, 1 minuite and a half earlier, then she just stopped, and she didnt want to anymore, i said it was fine, and we aren't mad at eafchother, i just want to more.

what can i do?

[notsolegato1]

Originally Posted by N$$balla

ok,

so i have a girlfriend, we love eachother to death, but she doesnt like being pressured

me and her made out for like, 1 minuite and a half earlier, then she just stopped, and she didnt want to anymore, i said it was fine, and we aren't mad at eafchother, i just want to more.

what can i do?

whatever she is comfortable doing.

[N$$balla]

o ****

my fcriend just called me, saying that she's mad that i put my tounge in her mouth, but she did it to me too!

she might break up with me

o god, what should i do NOW?

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by N$$balla

o ****

my fcriend just called me, saying that she's mad that i put my tounge in her mouth, but she did it to me too!

she might break up with me

o god, what should i do NOW?

Dude, no offense but I would drop her. Like it's hot. She doesn't want to make-out with you? Come on. She is way too much of a prude. No girl is worth that in my opinion.

But, it is your decision. If you think she is worth it, keep her. If not, let her go.

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

Ugh, im getting mixed signals. So I went to the game tonight with this girl and her friend. We were having fun and everything but she seemed to get 'mad' at me for alot of things. Then we go and sit in the bleachers. It is cold as ****, and we are pretty much cuddling together. Then she leaves without telling me, but we meet up a little bit later and talk a little bit.

Im just frustrated with the fact that I CANNOT make a read and see whats going on.

Well, unfortuntely we cannot tell what she is thinking either by your post. I would simply give this suggestion: pretend like she wants you. One concept in picking up girls is controlling the frame. Basically you live in YOUR reality, and everyone else is a guest.

If you act like she is interested, the theory is that she will be more interested, because you are controlling the reality or the frame. Hey, it may sound silly but I don't see how it can hurt.

In the meatime, try doing some reading and maybe you can learn some of the signs girls give when they are attracted to you. I won't bother with typing them all here because there are probably hundreds, but I am sure there is some list somewhere.

EDIT: Because I care so ****ing much about you guys: http://www.mysterymethod.com/forum/s...&highlight=IOI

Now take these with a grain of salt. Bleached and I both agree that an IOI to one person is common courtesy to another. For example, many people consider a girl asking you your name is an IOI, and under the right circumstances it is, but sometimes it is just being polite.

By the way, you have to join the forums to view the entire thread. Just do it.

[SabuIsGreat (Banned)]

Here's my problem:

A couple months back, I broke up with my girlfriend. She was pissing me off, etc etc. Well, long story short we ended up staying friends and became good, close friends. So this weekend I come home from college, and I go into work to talk to her and said "oh hey you can come to dinner tonight with us if you want and then come over and we can go out or whatever". She goes "oh, well I was gonna go to the movies with John...". Now, John is this ****ing tool that was one of my old friends brother in law (I'm 22, this ***** John is 18 or something) who never wants to do anything but go to Applebees on Friday and watch movies. And while me and the girl were dating, we hated them because they never wanted to do anything. Now they're going to the movies together? WTF is that bull****? So then later she comes on AIM because she NEVER calls me and goes "oh I made plans for tonight because I thought we'd be spending the whole day Saturday together". OK, so I can have one day to hang out with you out of the couple I'll be home? Thanks for nothing. And I gurantee IF we hang out tomorrow she'll pull some bull**** and leave at 10 because "oh I have to work in the morning", yet she has a 7 AM work meeting tomorrow morning and tonight she's sleeping over some fat skanks house, and I bet they'll be up all night. It's like if you're gonna act like you have to force me into your schedule don't even bother. My biggest problem is that she's being brain washed by Best Buy into thinking that she's of some important status when she sits in a room all day doing nothing. She admitted so herself as well. So now I have to deal with this 18 year old who thinks she has to work so she can afford every little luxery because she's going to become some CEO of a company when the reality is she does nothing and is just a number. And to boot (after working so much) she complains to me that she's broke. Way to go priorities.

The whole situation is driving me asbolutely ****ing insane because it seems like she'll just dick with me when I'm home. Right now I'm honestly depressed as hell, and it seems like she doesn't even give a ****. I left her a message expressing how I feel but it's just like I'm guilt tripping her for a temporary result, she wont change because she's so set in stone. She's stuck in this blue collar mindset that she HAS to work, and school, and hang out with every single one of her friends. Why? I have no ****ing clue why. Why would you force yourself to try and do it all ALL the time?? I think if I had to bend over backwards every day just to try and please everyone it'd get pretty old pretty quick. If I could get a girl on campus and forget her I sure as hell would, but I'm pretty shy and meeting chicks is not my thing. I dunno, any serious advice that could cheer me up big time is much needed and appreciated.

[12345421]

Originally Posted by SabuIsGreat

Here's my problem:

A couple months back, I broke up with my girlfriend. She was pissing me off, etc etc. Well, long story short we ended up staying friends and became good, close friends. So this weekend I come home from college, and I go into work to talk to her and said "oh hey you can come to dinner tonight with us if you want and then come over and we can go out or whatever". She goes "oh, well I was gonna go to the movies with John...". Now, John is this ****ing tool that was one of my old friends brother in law (I'm 22, this ***** John is 18 or something) who never wants to do anything but go to Applebees on Friday and watch movies. And while me and the girl were dating, we hated them because they never wanted to do anything. Now they're going to the movies together? WTF is that bull****? So then later she comes on AIM because she NEVER calls me and goes "oh I made plans for tonight because I thought we'd be spending the whole day Saturday together". OK, so I can have one day to hang out with you out of the couple I'll be home? Thanks for nothing. And I gurantee IF we hang out tomorrow she'll pull some bull**** and leave at 10 because "oh I have to work in the morning", yet she has a 7 AM work meeting tomorrow morning and tonight she's sleeping over some fat skanks house, and I bet they'll be up all night. It's like if you're gonna act like you have to force me into your schedule don't even bother. My biggest problem is that she's being brain washed by Best Buy into thinking that she's of some important status when she sits in a room all day doing nothing. She admitted so herself as well. So now I have to deal with this 18 year old who thinks she has to work so she can afford every little luxery because she's going to become some CEO of a company when the reality is she does nothing and is just a number. And to boot (after working so much) she complains to me that she's broke. Way to go priorities.

The whole situation is driving me asbolutely ****ing insane because it seems like she'll just dick with me when I'm home. Right now I'm honestly depressed as hell, and it seems like she doesn't even give a ****. I left her a message expressing how I feel but it's just like I'm guilt tripping her for a temporary result, she wont change because she's so set in stone. She's stuck in this blue collar mindset that she HAS to work, and school, and hang out with every single one of her friends. Why? I have no ****ing clue why. Why would you force yourself to try and do it all ALL the time?? I think if I had to bend over backwards every day just to try and please everyone it'd get pretty old pretty quick. If I could get a girl on campus and forget her I sure as hell would, but I'm pretty shy and meeting chicks is not my thing. I dunno, any serious advice that could cheer me up big time is much needed and appreciated.

Well you have to ignore her and make her come to you. If she doesn't talk to you anymore then she wasn't a very good friend. Since it's really late just watch some porn and then practice meeting new people tommorow. (Try to find someone you have something in common with the the conversation is more casual)

[Blackdog455]

Ill repost this........so i hung out with the girl i like today...i had fun but when i dropped her off at her house i felt bad for some reason...or that i forgot something. I realized this feeling when i was driving away...i wish i new what it was/is or what not...i feel bad and i dont know why...i feel as if i hurt her but i dont know...

[SabuIsGreat (Banned)]

Originally Posted by 12345421

Well you have to ignore her and make her come to you. If she doesn't talk to you anymore then she wasn't a very good friend. Since it's really late just watch some porn and then practice meeting new people tommorow. (Try to find someone you have something in common with the the conversation is more casual)

I'm actually talking to a buddy of mine back at school, we're trying to figure out social places I can go to meet women since I'm not into going "to the club" or any of that. I want to meet a nice young woman who respects me for me.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

There is an acronym in the PUA community. It is used when someone needs help getting over one-itis.

It goes something like GOFTOG.

"Go Out and **** Ten Other Girls."

it's the rule of 10. you go sleep with 10 other women and after that if you still miss the original girl you can try to get back with her

Originally Posted by random hero

ok...so i stopped dating this girl and have somewhat moved on...we still talk every once in a while, but we havent really talked for a week or 2....so i moved on and started talking to other chicks...like a lot. i guess she checks up on my myspace cuz when she realized the comments i was getting she instantly im'd me and has been very talkative since yesterday...my philosophy is that shes an attention whore so i'm not going to do anything with her until she trys to do something with me...than we'll go from there. am i going in the right direction with this? btw i'm still gonna talk and hit on other chicks until she makes a move...

Put her in the line up with the rest of the women. Treat her exactly the same as the other girls... this drives ex's nuts because they think they'll get some special treatment because you have history... then when you treat them just like the girl you met at the bar last night, it'll drive her up a wall.

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

Ugh, im getting mixed signals. So I went to the game tonight with this girl and her friend. We were having fun and everything but she seemed to get 'mad' at me for alot of things. Then we go and sit in the bleachers. It is cold as ****, and we are pretty much cuddling together. Then she leaves without telling me, but we meet up a little bit later and talk a little bit.

Im just frustrated with the fact that I CANNOT make a read and see whats going on.

Why do you need a "read" on the girl?? Isn't the fact that you like her enough of a reason to take action? Push forward, she can either come along for the ride or get left behind.

Originally Posted by SabuIsGreat

I'm actually talking to a buddy of mine back at school, we're trying to figure out social places I can go to meet women since I'm not into going "to the club" or any of that. I want to meet a nice young woman who respects me for me.

you'd be amazed how many repsectable women you will meet at high class clubs and lounges. Sure there's always some skanks and gold diggers there, but there's also alot of women out celebrating or just having girls night out. Hell i hate to dance, i dont even like the music they play in clubs. But get me out with a couple of my friends and a few drinks and it's always a good time and i ALWAYS meet decent women.

I have close female friends... but i never find myself in a situation where i'm upset over who they hang out with (even if he is a douche bag) or when they don't pay me enough attention. My solution to both of those problems is to, #1 tell them that i think the guy is a douche bag, and #2 ignore them if they're being flakey. But it sounds like you're truly upset about this matter... which leads me to believe you still have some lingering feelings or jealousy issues with this girl. The other thing that leads me to believe this is that your brought up places to meet new women when we were talking about your friend?? What do those have to do with each other? Anyway, i'm not trying to get offensive here, just something for you to ponder... maybe consider what the root of all of this is??

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

lol while were at it, i'm laying here in bed and my neighbor is sitting out on her porch with her boyfriend... wally! i can hear her screaming her head off at this kid asking him where his pants are and who he cheated on her with... and wally is sitting on the front porch in his boxers, drunk off his *** crying his eyes out... i can't stop laughing. So for all of you STer's.... it could be worse.

[N$$balla]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

Dude, no offense but I would drop her. Like it's hot. She doesn't want to make-out with you? Come on. She is way too much of a prude. No girl is worth that in my opinion.

But, it is your decision. If you think she is worth it, keep her. If not, let her go.

but dude, it's not up to me.

what can i do to make her not want to dump me?

[fireisgood4u]

Everyone here just needs to drop the niceguy way and take up PUA, or at least some of the aspects. Life's complicated enough, why make it even more so with women.

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by N$$balla

but dude, it's not up to me.

what can i do to make her not want to dump me?

I am saying that you should let her dump you. She is going to break up with you because you made out with her for less than a minute? Come on man. You don't want to stay with her. You aren't going to find your true love in high school. The chances are slim you will stay with your high school sweetheart through college and after that. Be with someone that you can have fun with while in high school. That's my $0.02

Originally Posted by fireisgood4u

Everyone here just needs to drop the niceguy way and take up PUA, or at least some of the aspects. Life's complicated enough, why make it even more so with women.

Troof. Some people just want a quick fix for their one-itis here though. They don't see the advantages.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by N$$balla

but dude, it's not up to me.

what can i do to make her not want to dump me?

You can't MAKE someone not want to dump you. Her action is influenced by your prior actions, which is kind of hard to change. I suppose you could appologize but there's nothing to appologize for. Besides in the long run i think you would just lose self-respect by appologzing.

Also, consider this. I had my first girlfriend when i 13. That was nine years ago. And it's not like the world has taken a big sexual conservative swing in the last 10 years. Even at 13 i don't remember anyone ever getting bent out of shape about making out. I can understand if she didn't want to have sex or give you a blowjob or something but making out??? come on! This girl is a little nutty! If she wants to break up for you sticking your tongue in her mouth, you're better off without her because there are only going to be more problems further down the line

Originally Posted by fireisgood4u

Everyone here just needs to drop the niceguy way and take up PUA, or at least some of the aspects. Life's complicated enough, why make it even more so with women.

Most people don't care about being a PUA. They want a solution to their little problem and want to go on their merry way. People don't like to work for things, they don't want to read all these books and learn all this **** just to solve their woman issues, they'd rather just have someone give them the answer, because it's EASIER. The world isn't like us. People like you and me are few and far inbetween... which is good because we are only our own competition. A quote comes to mind for this...








"WHAT? what an idiot! good! good man more for me and you!"

[Crazdelight]

PUA? ... getting ready to be flamed haha... inform me.

[Bobeo]

Get ready to be flamed? Haha.