[Conqueror]

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CQ

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by rusballer

okay so now it has been 2 days since we've talked and i don't know how to approach her because she generally is a quiet person. i dont' know how to start a conversation with her without making it awkward since we haven't said anything to each other since homecoming. i using can pick up conversations pretty easily with generally everyone but this one is hard.
if you don't know what the hell i'm talking about refer back to my earlier posts on the page before.

thanks

No it's not. You're using that as an excuse not to talk to her because you're scared it might not go well. You know as well as i do you can talk to her just like you could anyone else. You're just nervous! So go do it!

Originally Posted by rusballer

so your saying i should try to get her on a date after talking for 5hrs?
sry if thats not what your talking about i'm not a total ******* im just loaded with hw and can't think straight.

Not necessarly a date. But serious forward progress. Maybe an informal date or meeting some place alone together. If you wait around much more than that it is going to become stagnant and you will fall into the friend trap

Originally Posted by PaintThrower123

ok, so ive known this grl for about 4 years and have been starting to like her....about 2 weeks ago i snuck out with my friend to go chill with her and her friend....so my friend ends up hooking up with her friend, and me and the grl go in the back and just chill on her bench together....she was flirting with me ALOT and was all over me, she took her shirt off and **** too, went into the pool in just a bra and underwear

but then about 2 weeks after that im hangin out with her and later on that night she has to get picked up so she hits me in the stomach ands says bye, and im like yur an ***(kidding around, cuz she didnt give me a hug) and she goes " do i hug my brothers, when i say bye?" and im like "no" and she goes "well your like a brother to me"

and i jsut keep on saying to myslef "mixed signals much?" lol

i dont know wat to do

You do the same damn thing. Slowly progress it so your mixed signals are more and more intense until you're beating her at her own game. And for future refrence, hooking up with a girl means you were inside of her....for more than 20 minutes

Originally Posted by contractkiller20

With my girlfriend like I know we are cool with each other, but I havent found out my bounderies with her, in the aspect like kissing, touching, etc...

What is a good way to come about finding these out, because asking her straight up would be weird. Any other suggestions?

The unknown is meant to be explored. That's half the adventure. If you know where it's going to end... that's boring! Exploring limits and new things is what makes sex fun! Be an explorer! Make like Magellan and see how far you can get around the globe.

Move at a reasonable pace, when she says stop... ya stop. Of course there's two different kind of stops. There's, "stop- i'm not comfortable doing this." and then there's "stop-go back to kissing my neck and grabbing my *** and try again in 5 minutes."

Originally Posted by P8ntLife189

lol


hey, from the big playas and pimps of ST, where, and what ways are like the best way to meet women?

i ran my town dry, and im looking but not finding anything, and im getting desprate

help me get ideas on where to find teh woman!

Hmmm i don't consider myself a "big playa" or a "pimp" but... i would suggest coffee shops, book stores... but uh leave your FUBU at home champ because women are attracted to CLASS.

[paintballer3]

me and this girl have been going out for a bout 2 weeks and this week she is surfing the crisom tide this week. i went for the first kiss last sunday while she was watching me destroy at a local turning and she pulled away and starting cryng. i like her alot about i need some kissing damn it.

[P8ntLife189]

Originally Posted by paintballer3

me and this girl have been going out for a bout 2 weeks and this week she is surfing the crisom tide this week. i went for the first kiss last sunday while she was watching me destroy at a local turning and she pulled away and starting cryng. i like her alot about i need some kissing damn it.

sounds like a nut case man...your gunna need more help than i can give

[Pattawa123]

why the **** do girls tell everyone else everything before they talk to you. How do they not know if they are gonna go out with you? omg its ****ing gay right now... sorry im really pissed

[paintballer3]

she said that she wanted to so bad just to kiss me but couldnt emoitionall do it

[diablos Remnant]

well did u ask her y she couldnt emotionally do it.. i have one girl tht i talk to nd really likes me nd shes like tht she wants to go out with me but she cant bring herself to say yes bc of her friend v.v

neway jus talk to her a little bit so u understand y

[mtfrontman23]

not really a problem but need advice. im a sophmore at college, and for the past week ive been seeing this freshmen girl. shes awesome yadadada all that and my college sucks with the girl to guy ratio. like its 7 guys to one girl, and that girl probably isnt hot. well shes one of the exceptions, and shes real social, especially with all of the boys on her floor. so like im into this girl and i can feel shes into me, we've been hooking up since the first night, and we've slept together two different nights. just slept together in my bed, not had sex. so i wanna ask her out like officially but i dont exactly know how to do that.

the big thing tho is that the first night we hung out, before we hooked up, is she said she didnt think she could date anyone at school just cause theres so many boys she doesn't wanna be tied down etc. she loves pranking all of the guys on her floor and stuff, so its kinda like idk what she wants. but other than that i know she likes spending time with me and loves just knocking on my door for a kiss stuff like that. so st, how should i go about asking her out?

[paintballer3]

dont ack dumb when you ask her
trust me i dosent matter how u word it just talk smooth

be like "babe, i wanna brink this relations ship to the next level, i really like you and i am sure you know that by now. So what you say"

[felicityrose]

Originally Posted by mtfrontman23

not really a problem but need advice. im a sophmore at college, and for the past week ive been seeing this freshmen girl. shes awesome yadadada all that and my college sucks with the girl to guy ratio. like its 7 guys to one girl, and that girl probably isnt hot. well shes one of the exceptions, and shes real social, especially with all of the boys on her floor. so like im into this girl and i can feel shes into me, we've been hooking up since the first night, and we've slept together two different nights. just slept together in my bed, not had sex. so i wanna ask her out like officially but i dont exactly know how to do that.

the big thing tho is that the first night we hung out, before we hooked up, is she said she didnt think she could date anyone at school just cause theres so many boys she doesn't wanna be tied down etc. she loves pranking all of the guys on her floor and stuff, so its kinda like idk what she wants. but other than that i know she likes spending time with me and loves just knocking on my door for a kiss stuff like that. so st, how should i go about asking her out?

Oh dear. This does not sound good... it seems she's trying to "sow her oats" while she's young (and has a multitude of men available).

Let her know you want to take her out for coffee (or dinner). You should be able to get an idea of what she's thinking by her response. If she's hesitant, then she doesn't want any sort of commitment (like friends with benefits). If she is super eager about it, she either genuinely likes you and wants to pursue something or she's looking for a sugar daddy. (That's dependent on her personality.)

Don't put pressure on her... just let her know where you stand and what you're thinking, because lots of women like to pull the ignorance card when they're leading men on and say, "oh, I didn't know you liked me that way" kind of BS down the road.

[mtfrontman23]

yea i kinda figured that she might be trying to keep her options open, but shes kinda exclusive to me, like she acts differently around me and her other friends, but do you think its like too soon to ask her out or should i go for it now

[Pretendeavor (Banned)]

Haha so yesterday i got a liitttle drunk. and i called my friend rachel to talk about the better things in life...and she goes .. oh ill call you right back!
Anyway... I get the call back and rachel bombardes me with the kier questions :
(what do you think of her? What is goin on with that note u gave me? <--yeh she lost her phone one dsay and i gave her a paragraph. big deal.<-- abd i didnt answer i was like uhhh baseball?)
So we get into talking about random things and i notice.. theres two people there!! I was on a three way thing, and i noticed because rachel would laugh and id hear someone trying not to laugh as well..And its obviously kier because of the bombardment of questions in the begining. So i got this ***** in the bag pretty much if she wants to know whats up with me haha. Pwnt.

[felicityrose]

Originally Posted by mtfrontman23

yea i kinda figured that she might be trying to keep her options open, but shes kinda exclusive to me, like she acts differently around me and her other friends, but do you think its like too soon to ask her out or should i go for it now

I'd start honing in now (though don't brand her *** and call, "dibs!")... CQ and I were sort of friends with benefits before we started dating, and that lasted a month. We didn't call ourselves "exclusive" until about 6 weeks after we officially labeled ourselves as "dating". There's no immediate jump from friends to exclusivity (well, not without issues)... you gradually work your way to that point. This is why not telling everything on the first three dates is wonderful... you take more time to learn more about each other and yield a better chance at landing sole propriety over said female.

[mtfrontman23]

Originally Posted by felicityrose

I'd start honing in now (though don't brand her *** and call, "dibs!")... CQ and I were sort of friends with benefits before we started dating, and that lasted a month. We didn't call ourselves "exclusive" until about 6 weeks after we officially labeled ourselves as "dating". There's no immediate jump from friends to exclusivity (well, not without issues)... you gradually work your way to that point. This is why not telling everything on the first three dates is wonderful... you take more time to learn more about each other and yield a better chance at landing sole propriety over said female.

so how can i tell if or when she wants to take it to the next step? and my one worry about the whole thing is that ill take it too slow and she'll get mad

[fireisgood4u]

Bah went emo over some chick this weekend. I had no power/internet due to a freak snow storm. Went over to her house Saturday night, we talked for a bit. She told me she just finished an hour long phone conversation with someone.(ex boyfriend I'm assuming). I told her I had to drop some stuff off and that I'd come over in a bit, when I got home my mom told me she called and that she had to go to her godmothers for the night. I went to poker that night with the guys and drove past her house and her car was in the driveway so I knew she blew me off. Due to lack of power and internet I just kind of spent the weekend doing nothing.

I haven't been talking to her lately and told her 'we need to talk.' So that I can tell her that I can't do the whole friends thing again and that I'm done. To see if I'm 'that important' she's willing to do more to keep me around. Whenever I set a date or something she makes an excuse. So meh **** her, I'm just ignoring her completly until she's willing to take some time and talk.

Just about done with this chick, and doing more reading just about finished Double Your Dating. Also I'm improving my image by writing down flaws I find about myself and trying to improve upon them.

[rusballer]

thanks bleached i know what your saying now.
lets just see where this takes me.

[Pretendeavor (Banned)]

Originally Posted by fireisgood4u

Bah went emo over some chick this weekend. I had no power/internet due to a freak snow storm. Went over to her house Saturday night, we talked for a bit. She told me she just finished an hour long phone conversation with someone.(ex boyfriend I'm assuming). I told her I had to drop some stuff off and that I'd come over in a bit, when I got home my mom told me she called and that she had to go to her godmothers for the night. I went to poker that night with the guys and drove past her house and her car was in the driveway so I knew she blew me off. Due to lack of power and internet I just kind of spent the weekend doing nothing.

I haven't been talking to her lately and told her 'we need to talk.' So that I can tell her that I can't do the whole friends thing again and that I'm done. To see if I'm 'that important' she's willing to do more to keep me around. Whenever I set a date or something she makes an excuse. So meh **** her, I'm just ignoring her completly until she's willing to take some time and talk.

Just about done with this chick, and doing more reading just about finished Double Your Dating. Also I'm improving my image by writing down flaws I find about myself and trying to improve upon them.

Your really serious about that arent you.
I remmeber bleached told me to pick up a book that he has read for his college social counseling course. Its called. 'The Game' by (something) Strauss
Its a good book. Helped me in all situations.

[felicityrose]

Originally Posted by mtfrontman23

so how can i tell if or when she wants to take it to the next step? and my one worry about the whole thing is that ill take it too slow and she'll get mad

Ask her to lunch and see how that goes... and insist that you pay for it and see her reaction. She should have been under the impression that it was a "date" the whole time; if she starts to get all flighty and nervous at that point, she's not ready... and you've only lost $15 for the two of you (if that). If she stays cool, ask her if she'd like to do dinner sometime (not that same day, though)... that's the logical progression, IMO.

[dj swim]

ok try this one girl is mad at you and ur drumline in band and her section hate the drumline and drumline hates them i date her and my drumline dose some mean things and i had nothing to do with it now shes mad at me... what to do...

[Pretendeavor (Banned)]

Originally Posted by dj swim

ok try this one girl is mad at you
and ur drumline in band and her section hate the drumline
and drumline hates them i date her
and my drumline does some mean thing
s and i had nothing to do with it now shes mad at me...
what to do...

Tell her you didnt do ****.
Just because your a drumline band geek doesnt mean she has to get mad at you because you prefer to beat things then blow them

[Conqueror]

Originally Posted by dj swim

ok try this one girl is mad at you and ur drumline in band and her section hate the drumline and drumline hates them i date her and my drumline dose some mean things and i had nothing to do with it now shes mad at me... what to do...

Ignore her and her stupid bull****. You don't want a girl who gets mad at you based on what instrument you play.

CQ