[blaker615]

ok so i made the post about this girl a few pages back. the one with the guy friend who i used to be really good friends with

well she told some of my friends that she hated me, and that i never mattered to her at all, even as a friend. I asked her and she was like i don't hate you. and i was like im soo tired of talking to you through other people. im just as tired of this whole mess as you are. (i guess you could say we're both pretty popular so the whole grade was talkin about this). She said well you can always talk to me. So on the last day of school, we hadnt talked for like 2 weeks. I went up and I said im sorry that this year was so weird (alot of weird stuff did happen). And she said its ok we can start over next year. So i was emailing her and stuff and i was like so when are you gonna call me and talk about this like you said you were? "idk, ive been really busy lately ill try to when i get the chance"
So a couple days go by and I realize that i wasted so much time on this girl. Like she told me about how she used to cut herself and how she isnt ready to make a commitment with any guys or anything and she really opened up to me.
I sent her this email: alright but last time you said you'd call me whenever you could, you didn't.
so since you said i could talk to you about it, yea.....

but its your decision. if you dont care then dont call.


This was about 8 days ago and she hasn't called. Idk if this is why or if shes just bad about calling people. I saw her today at the movies, she was in the group i was with. I talked to everyone there, there was 5 people. The only time I said anything to her was when she asked why I was getting my hair cut and i just said because i wanted to. But if what shes tellin me is just bull and what she tells everyone else is the truth, she has been playin and acting like she was friends with me all year. hell i even told her awhile ago that i wanted something more to happen between us next year and she said yea u can keep that as an option.

The reasons she has for "hating" me as I have gathered: i am cocky because alot of girls like me, I told people I made out with her, I told people i was dating her.

Now, I love to have fun and some others said I'm cocky, but thats who i am and im not making any apologies. The rumors about us making out surfaced when she told people we went behind the vending machines. We went behind there to talk. she just said we went behind the vending machines.

Should I waste my time trying to keep our friendship or is it too far gone, and I should respect her decision that she made by not calling to work our friendship out? Like I said, I spent way too much time worrying about this and my friends spent too much time worrying about it.

I want a resolution, it may not be what I'm looking for, but I want this over.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by blaker615

ok so i made the post about this girl a few pages back. the one with the guy friend who i used to be really good friends with

well she told some of my friends that she hated me, and that i never mattered to her at all, even as a friend. I asked her and she was like i don't hate you. and i was like im soo tired of talking to you through other people. im just as tired of this whole mess as you are. (i guess you could say we're both pretty popular so the whole grade was talkin about this). She said well you can always talk to me. So on the last day of school, we hadnt talked for like 2 weeks. I went up and I said im sorry that this year was so weird (alot of weird stuff did happen). And she said its ok we can start over next year. So i was emailing her and stuff and i was like so when are you gonna call me and talk about this like you said you were? "idk, ive been really busy lately ill try to when i get the chance"
So a couple days go by and I realize that i wasted so much time on this girl. Like she told me about how she used to cut herself and how she isnt ready to make a commitment with any guys or anything and she really opened up to me.
I sent her this email: alright but last time you said you'd call me whenever you could, you didn't.
so since you said i could talk to you about it, yea.....

but its your decision. if you dont care then dont call.


This was about 8 days ago and she hasn't called. Idk if this is why or if shes just bad about calling people. I saw her today at the movies, she was in the group i was with. I talked to everyone there, there was 5 people. The only time I said anything to her was when she asked why I was getting my hair cut and i just said because i wanted to. But if what shes tellin me is just bull and what she tells everyone else is the truth, she has been playin and acting like she was friends with me all year. hell i even told her awhile ago that i wanted something more to happen between us next year and she said yea u can keep that as an option.

The reasons she has for "hating" me as I have gathered: i am cocky because alot of girls like me, I told people I made out with her, I told people i was dating her.

Now, I love to have fun and some others said I'm cocky, but thats who i am and im not making any apologies. The rumors about us making out surfaced when she told people we went behind the vending machines. We went behind there to talk. she just said we went behind the vending machines.

Should I waste my time trying to keep our friendship or is it too far gone, and I should respect her decision that she made by not calling to work our friendship out? Like I said, I spent way too much time worrying about this and my friends spent too much time worrying about it.

I want a resolution, it may not be what I'm looking for, but I want this over.

I was reading over all of these and thinking about how I was going to wait until tommorow at work to answer them becuase i'm so tired but i read this and instantly i thought, "HOLY ****! this kid is me, when i was in high school! and i know EXACTALLY what's going on here!!!"

#1 she doesn't hate you! I'm almost positive this girl has a lot of feelings for you and "hates" you because you give any other girls attention. Now this could be in part because this girl is very jealous and in part because she's a bit of a basket case. Now if your highschool worked like mine, she is popular because she's attractive and it kills her that you don't give her 100% of you attention to her and that as friends you're not completely chasing her!

This girl is really good at playing games, i mean she sounds like she knows her college level bull**** to me! You gave in a little, and made it sound like she hurt you when you called. That's probably why she hasn't called for 8 days... so damn she's good.

Now to the point! I'm going to consider myself a 21 year old version of you for the most part here. I had girls JUST like this in high school and every now and then i run across one! Let me tell you that if you get too close to this girl she is going to be a thorn in your side! She'll be a good "distant" friend! Maybe some drunken casual sex if you'd like, but as far as trusting her and being close, cut her off and let her loose!

By the way, i had a gf who was just like this, who cut herself, and all that bull****, and let me tell looking back on it... leaving her was one of the best decisions of my life! hang in there man. Date some new girls, trying to find a new best female friend! They're out there

Originally Posted by WGP_TN

So me and my gf broke up about a week or two ago. Ive been trying to flirt with this other girl, but she cant decide if she likes me or not becuase she thinks im just on the rebound. How long does it take bafore im not on rebound mode?

Different times for different people. Depends how long you were with your gf.

Originally Posted by Pb_Herman

yeah i know exactly what i did wrong. I don't know many ppl, so to get attached on a personal level to someone is a definite big deal. I todl her everything in my life. it's true. basically i got too close to her and it begun to change my personality just for her cause i was afraid to lose her. haha how ironic. yeah i havent given up hope, i was just talking in the heat of the moment. like i said though i am glad this has happened. it gives me some new outlook on reality and some experience in dealing with girls. I also found out to never listen to their advice over your own.

Well you need to revise your game then. There's no need to put your heart and soul into every girl you meet. And letting a girl take control of you is the first step to losing her. You're right though, listening girls on girl advice is a terrible idea!

Originally Posted by Eagle_Eye_4426

also another problem is the more i think bout stephanie the more i want her back

If you were with S then you'd be thinking about T all the time. You need to stop focusing on what you don't have!!!

[blaker615]

that makes sense. There are a couple kids from my school who live out near her and they hang out like everyday and about half of those people are really good friends with me.

thanks man.

[Redneck_with_a_gun]

i gotsa a prob. Well i like a good friend of mine. we have been friends for a few years and its really easy to talk to her. she is currently dating a guy that treats her like a huge pile of ****. every day he is telling her what she can and cant do. he freaks out if she talks or is even any where near someone he doesnt like. Finally today she just got sick of it and isnt talking to him even though they are still going out. He makes her cry almost everyday and i really want to beat his *** but i restrain myself so she doesnt get mad at me. Do you think i should go for it and just ask her out? ive always been there for her and i would never treat her that bad.

Well ST should i go for it?

[blaker615]

Originally Posted by Redneck_with_a_gun

i gotsa a prob. Well i like a good friend of mine. we have been friends for a few years and its really easy to talk to her. she is currently dating a guy that treats her like a huge pile of ****. every day he is telling her what she can and cant do. he freaks out if she talks or is even any where near someone he doesnt like. Finally today she just got sick of it and isnt talking to him even though they are still going out. He makes her cry almost everyday and i really want to beat his *** but i restrain myself so she doesnt get mad at me. Do you think i should go for it and just ask her out? ive always been there for her and i would never treat her that bad.

Well ST should i go for it?

i was in the same situation with a girl.

unfortunately, I think the girl likes you as a friend. Even though he makes her cry etc etc, I think that is the kind of guy she is interested in dating. Girls hate jerks and cocky people, but they can't help but be attracted to them.

You can go for it, hell I might be wrong since I don't know this girl, but there is always a possibility that she will feel she isnt able to talk to you anymore because she will be wondering if you actually care or just bull**** through it to get some ***.

its your call.

[komodo117 (Banned)]

Cant believe Im doing this, but hey...why not. Go with the flow I guess...

Ive known this girl for like a long time. Since 2nd grade. While we havent always been like super tight buddies, we would occaisionaly say hi and have the whole "whats going on in your life?" conversation. Well, awhile back, about 2 summers ago (the summer before last), she starts to really start talking to me. I learn a lot about her and whatever, and we are interested in each other. Then she meets some ***-hat junior the same summer, and goes out with him instead. Well, time goes by, we still chat, and then school starts. It would be my freshman year. We hang out a LOT, and you can tell she is still really into me, and I am still into her. She knows I dont like her boyfreind, and she is a bit torn on what to do. Well, I find out that the same summer she hooke dup with him, they had sex once, then like a week later, he went off to some camp, and banged some other completly random girl he know for 3 days. She finds out about this and doesnt break up with the guy. WTF!? Our little "mini-relationship" kinda goes on for the rest of that year, and we litterly almost are to the point where we would make-out in the back of the room, be we would always stop ourselves. End of school hits, we dont see each other all summer. We still talk. Sophmore year, the whole thing over again, except now, her boyfriend has become a complete and total dickhead. She also finds out about him screw yet ANOTHER chick while he is with her. She cries for maybe like a day, and forgives him again. Once again, WTF!~!@? After awhile, she starts to mention to me about her step-sister, who is very hot (the girl I've been talking about isnt bad either, I guess the word here would be "very do-able"), and quite single. I start to think maybe it would be better to just forget her, and go after the step-sister. But, suddenly, now she starts putting off setting me up with her, having me meet her, even giving my phone number and IM screen names to her. I still have feelings for her, but, as long as she is with that jerk loser boyfreind of hers, I dont have a chance. Now, not to mention, he litterly makes her cry every da from the stupid **** he does to make her made, yet she wont leave him. She keeps saying she is in love with him, and that she likes him for the better part of who he is. I can understand that, but my god...with the amount of crap he has done to her in the past, wouldnt she start to see something wrong here?

Well, anyways, he has graduated now, and turns 18 in a few months. I keep telling her that there is no way he will stay with her now, as she is considered jailbait to him. Yet, she has no signs of letting him go. So here I am, another boring summer, without her or even her step-sister.

And if you can help me with this, Im going to start calling you Dr. Love, Bleachednblonde.

[kilroy_with_a_nerve]

Redneck with a gun- same advice applies to komodo to.

no, she'll say that she doesnt want to ruin the frienship or some other bs like that. After they break up you might catch her on the rebound but its unlikely if shes sticking with him even though he treats her like crap then im assuming that she likes him too much.

move on and find another

[Redneck_with_a_gun]

the thing is i dont know if i can stand to see him do that **** to her. im really good friends with her and even though she might now like me i shill hate to see her cry.i may be able to move on and find another but i will still have feelings for her and i think that might drive me insane.

[blaker615]

you will get over her and realize that she is a good friend, but there are girls out there who would be better girlfriends.

[komodo117 (Banned)]

Originally Posted by kilroy_with_a_nerve

Redneck with a gun- same advice applies to komodo to.

no, she'll say that she doesnt want to ruin the frienship or some other bs like that. After they break up you might catch her on the rebound but its unlikely if shes sticking with him even though he treats her like crap then im assuming that she likes him too much.

move on and find another

Actually, no. She already said she would most definatly go out with me if she wasnt already with him. I just need something, anything to get her away from him and over to me. Its like Im almost there, but something is stopping her from dropping him.

[NaughtyD0gsPb]

Originally Posted by komodo117

Actually, no. She already said she would most definatly go out with me if she wasnt already with him. I just need something, anything to get her away from him and over to me. Its like Im almost there, but something is stopping her from dropping him.

Be the better guy. The "one upper" like he climbs hills you climb mountains. Anything he does, do it better.

[Muffin123 (Banned)]

This is a honest straight up answer

why does it seem like fat guys get less love then just regular average slim guys?

[komodo117 (Banned)]

Originally Posted by NaughtyD0gsPb

Be the better guy. The "one upper" like he climbs hills you climb mountains. Anything he does, do it better.

Already doing that. Only thing he has going for him now is that he is older and works at a greasy pizza restraunt(that sucks on so many levels).

[NaughtyD0gsPb]

Originally Posted by Muffin123

This is a honest straight up answer

why does it seem like fat guys get less love then just regular average slim guys?

Well, do you give fat girls more love then average sized girls? I'm guessing not, although I can vouch for the majority of guys and say no one wants a super skinny girl atheltic build is what most guys like. Soccer girls mmmm big built legs and butts!

[NaughtyD0gsPb]

Originally Posted by komodo117

Already doing that. Only thing he has going for him now is that he is older and works at a greasy pizza restraunt(that sucks on so many levels).

Well I can't think of much else you could do. Telling her she should get rid of him might work but that might be showing her to much interest.

[~Maxpow+DarshSauce~ (Banned)]

Ok me and my girlfriend are really great together, we both want to have sex, and today I was like literally a centimeter away... BUTTTT she said no last minute. And the reason shes hesitant is shes worried about pregnancy. So how do I tend to this fear and take the proper precautions to pretty much make it 0% chance of conception. And has anyone heard about the effectiveness of the dude birth control pills that are supposed to make you steril?

[komodo117 (Banned)]

yea...dont take those. Heard bad stories of how they make you sterile for a LONG time to come. If you dont want children ever, then go for it. Otherwise, just wear a condom, and make sure she is on birth control. Really, the chances of it happening when both of those are used is so slim, the percentage of people that have gotten pregnant that way either lied about the contraceptives used, or their body was immune to the birth control pills (highley unlikely).

That or get your tubes tied

[schwizzcheez]

Originally Posted by schwizzcheez

I met this girl a few weeks back, and we hit it off pretty well. I didnt think she was intrested in me though, but lately for some reason I have been around her family some, and they keep talking to me about her. I feel like I must be a major conversation subject at her house, which is strange. I definately wouldnt mind getting to know her better, but I am not sure of how I need to procede from here. I recently got her number, but again, she didnt seem to excited. (didnt ask for mine, and such)

Yea, so... I just joined a new paintball team a few weeks back that one of her siblings is on (coincidence). They want to go practice at a field that is 3 or 4 hours from where we all live, but the family of the girl and teammate have a second home right by it. The plan is to crash there. It's going to be awkward. basically I have no idea what to do. I just want it to be as un-wierd as possible.

[TheTippMann]

girls are way to high maintenanxce i hate playing mind games.

Heres a problem: all u idiots are acting like girls and are too ***** to just ask one out!

[98customplayer1]

Originally Posted by TheTippMann

girls are way to high maintenanxce i hate playing mind games.

Heres a problem: all u idiots are acting like girls and are too ***** to just ask one out!

STFU or GTFO noob... Dont call someone a ***** until youve taken a stroll in their shoes.... you suck

[Brandon Kraus]

i never knew ST had such drama in their lives