Sorry the basic idea of college tournament teams is that all the players go to the college. Do not worry about being ditched though alot of players at Iowa State have other teams they play with. The college tournaments have a lighter atmosphere and are a nice diversion. You would just need to decide when he needed to play with your team and when he would play with the college team. At ISU we let our players keep their commitment to their other teams except when we are going to regionals or nationals, which their other team could not attend. Once a college team gets started it is easy to have extra players to fill in when one or more people need to be absent for some reason.