I'm a junior in high school and I guess I would say that I'm pretty popular. I've been hanging out with my friends on weekends forever, and since like seventh grade I've been attending "parties" regularly on weekends. I guess around mid-eighth grade we started drinking and since then, although it has been a little rocky now and then with kids learning how to drink and all, our parties have become "legit," and up until about two months ago I loved going to parties.
Parties are a good time. For a while I loved nothing more than getting drunk and high with my friends and then getting with random girls who meant nothing to me. It was only recently that it occurred to me that parties are just large, organized popularity contests. A large fishbowl, if you will, which enables people to check out other people and judge them based on their presence. I am no longer able to just show up at a place and chill with my friends and have a good time. Now I feel like I am being judged from all angles and competing with my so called friends for some intangible prize every time I go out. I feel as though all the guys are competing over who can get with more of the hottest girls, and the girls are all just competing over who can be noticed and gawked at by more of the "cool" guys.
I don't know if I am going crazy or not but I legitimately have lost the urge to be surrounded by a bunch of people. Maybe it is just because most if not all of my friends are insecure, social climbers. Maybe I have just matured past this stage in my life too soon; or maybe I am just over-thinking the whole dammed thing. Bottom line is, I can not enjoy myself when out at a social gathering due to the fact that I feel that I am being sized up and sampled by the rest of the party-goers.
Some background on myself is that I used to be a huge party animal/womanizer and I have recently stopped drinking due to the fact that I am too stupid and impulsive when drunk. Also, I have lost the desire to hook up with random girls for no meaning. I smoke a lot of weed and am usually high at parties, so maybe I'm just being a paranoid high kid even though many of the feelings carry on with me into school. I have been smoking pot regularly for a while now so I can handle myself when stoned now pretty well too. I've never given a **** about what anyone thought of me and I still don't, but now I just feel as though I am being judged constantly and I do not like it. I am not going to change my ways, but I need to stop getting these uncomfortable feelings. Plus, these uneasy vibes that I'm getting are starting to drive me insane. In school and out, I constantly get this feeling that I'm being sized up and I really don't like it.
So ST, what do you think? Am I over-thinking it? Are parties just not for me anymore? or do my friends just suck?
tl;dr: I used to like parties and now I don't because I feel like they are just large popularity contests.
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but to go ahead and actually help you. you are a junior, what are you 16-17? trust me you have plenty of time to get some drinking/ one night stands in. and anyone that says that high school are the best years of your life are liars, you have all of college, and pretty much all of the time after your 21st b-day to be a "party animal". if parties just aren't your thing then parties just aren't your thing, that part is completely up to you. but then again you really don't want to be a social shut-in. if your friends are at a party or you just get invited to a party then go to it. it is entirely possible to go to a party and not get wasted or high or **** something, and still enjoy yourself.
well stop thinking you are being judged first of all. In reality no one gives a ****. Second everything changes ... slightly when you leave highschool. You will quickly learn that highschoolers are the lowest form of intelligent life on this planet and have no idea what being social is about. You seem to have had an intelligent thought and I urge you to hold on to it. Its easy enough to fit in with all the stupid popular people but never forget just how dumb worrying about being popular is. Hook up with all those hot chicks all you want but here's a real test. Find one that looks good AND doesn't make you want to blow your brains all over the ceiling every time she opens her mouth.
Edit: this is a form of social control. You do whatever the hell you want. I just hate you and all of your friends because they are the same group of my friends that have their heads so far up their ***** that even when i show them how dumb they are they still think they have to work at being cool and popular.
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but to go ahead and actually help you. you are a junior, what are you 16-17? trust me you have plenty of time to get some drinking/ one night stands in. and anyone that says that high school are the best years of your life are liars, you have all of college, and pretty much all of the time after your 21st b-day to be a "party animal". if parties just aren't your thing then parties just aren't your thing, that part is completely up to you. but then again you really don't want to be a social shut-in. if your friends are at a party or you just get invited to a party then go to it. it is entirely possible to go to a party and not get wasted or high or **** something, and still enjoy yourself.
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i can not even comment on how tough you just tried to sound.
like seriously.
you are a pathetic post high school ****.
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I don't know how it is in the East, but at parties on the West Side, nobody judges you. At least I don't (Not Sure About Compton Parties). I did the same things you did and never once thought people were judging me. And another thought,
WHO GIVES A **** WHAT PEOPLE THINK
High Schoolers Are ******s And You Learn To Deal With It.
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Mr. Madison, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
hey don't worry about what happens in high school. Once you graduate you will only hang out or talk to the ones that were really your friends. Don't worry if people are judging you, it wont matter in a year or so.
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i didn't realize this. Go on with the ridiculousness.
