[yuik (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Ly$ol

Me and my buddy are going on a date to Olive Garden then to the bar to pick up the depressed ****s

Real champs would pick up *****es at the Olive garden

[SimplySour]

Tell them to suck your garlic bread dick

[yuik (Banned)]

Originally Posted by SimplySour

Tell them to suck your garlic bread dick

That would work

[Born2PlayPaintball]

Out of 20,000 people on my college campus, how is it that I always run into my psycho exes.

For instance I was in our main library, with the current girl I'm talking to. We find a table, set-up shop, and causally begin working on our homework and outlines we need to do.Out of nowhere, my ex and two of her sorority sisters roll on by. I see her out of the corner of my eye, and then make eye contact with her, acknowledging I saw her. She decides to walk over to our table.

At this point no big deal. We didn't end on great terms and I have been ignoring her text and calls just to move on. I introduce her to the people at my table (none had ever met her), and she adds "his ex-girlfriend of 8 months" . She proceeds to make small talk about our semesters and future trips, and asks if she and her sorority sisters can sit at our table (our table was relatively empty). I interject "in about 15 minutes the rest of our project team will be meeting us here (which was true)"

They proceed to sit down. I couldn't just get up and walk away since all of our stuff was set-up. I tried to steer the conversation and be respectful at the same time, but she kept bringing up all of the vacations we had been on, stuff about us...blah blah blah. Needless to say, my ex purposely tried to make the other girl jealous and cockblock me. Luckily, I had fully disclosed to my girl that I had some exes that weren't over me, and at times, they go through cycles of jealousy prior to this whole interaction.

My ex has since called me, texted me, facebook messaged me (we aren't friends), tweeted at me and even sent a hand written note to my condo. All of which I haven't replied. No need to right?

*****es be crazy. Nothing new I suppose.

/endrant

[xFSUxlaxflip]

you must have done a serious number 9n that one! what a psycho broad. tryin gto desperately cling to the last shreds of her "good times" like wet saan wrap. Maybe next time avoid the eye contact and **** all togeather??? Though i doubt that will do anything to stop or avoid her "Jeffery Dahmer-esque" serial killer obsession with you...

[~Turtle Bus~]

This has probably been asked a million times, but I don't care:

Now I know this is lame, I honestly do, but about 8 months ago I got out of a semi-long term relationship (just shy of 4 years) with some girl I met during high school. A lot of things happened and we just went separate ways, yada yada yada.

Since we've broken up I have hooked up with two different girls, ones that I've known since high school, and neither one interested me in the least (besides for sex). Neither is what I'd consider relationship status, and even if they were, I wouldn't have been interested in a relationship at the time either way.

But now I want to start meeting some cool single ladies again. I am going to a new college where I am around a lot of new people, but my problem is, I ****ing suck at approaching a girl I don't know and trying to make conversation, I have never been quite that skilled at it.

There is some girl at my school that I find super attractive. I've never had a class with her though she is in the same degree program as myself. Whenever I am in the hallway and happen to glance over at her a good 60% of the time I find her looking at me. Which is leading me to think she may find me semi-attractive which would be a really good thing if it were true. Today I was in class and left to smoke a cig, she was also outside sitting somewhat near me. I wanted to approach her and try to trigger conversation but didn't know where to begin. After I was done smoking I started to walk inside and she followed shortly after me. We rode in the elevator standing next to eachother, which would have been the PERFECT time for me to say something, but instead I just stood there quietly staring forward and so did she.

I may be stupid to ask ST how to spark conversation with a girl I could see myself possible being interested in, but these are desperate times. I feel like I lost any form of game I ever had after getting out of the long relationship and haven't had much experience since.

How do I talk to this girl? I just want be able to have the confidence to act like I've done it before. I feel awkward when I am around her for some reason. I don't care if she ends up not liking me, but I can't just be a ***** and not make an attempt... right?

tl;dr: There is this girl, I think she is cute, I want to talk to her but don't know what to say. What do?

[Watermelondrea]

All you had to say was "Hi, how are you?"

[~Turtle Bus~]

Originally Posted by Watermelondrea

All you had to say was "Hi, how are you?"

That might make for an awkward situation. I don't see very many guys who have never spoken to a girl just saying "hi, how are you?" what if she started thinking "this guy is weird, why does he care?"

[I Have No Legs]

She is taking or has taken similar classes as you, right? Just tell her that you're new and want to know which classes are hard or which professors to stay away from. I know I can talk to any other ME for a long time because we can just sit around and ***** about stuff. That's the easiest way to do it.

[protokid72]

just remember, no means yes, and yes means anal.

[~Turtle Bus~]

Originally Posted by I Have No Legs

She is taking or has taken similar classes as you, right? Just tell her that you're new and want to know which classes are hard or which professors to stay away from. I know I can talk to any other ME for a long time because we can just sit around and ***** about stuff. That's the easiest way to do it.

This is the best advice thus far. I know she is farther along in the course than I am, in fact I think she works in part of the office at our school (ya know, how colleges offer jobs to some students), I suppose I could try and ask her what classes she is taking right now and how long she has been attending the school.


I just don't want to make an idiot out of myself.

[Watermelondrea]

Originally Posted by ~Turtle Bus~

That might make for an awkward situation. I don't see very many guys who have never spoken to a girl just saying "hi, how are you?" what if she started thinking "this guy is weird, why does he care?"

Most of the time they'll say "Good, how are you?" And from there you use your resources to continue the conversation further. Talk about class, parties, your major/degree, anything. As an opener, it doesn't matter what you say.

EDIT:

Saying something (anything) is better than standing there awkwardly.

[~Turtle Bus~]

Originally Posted by Watermelondrea

Most of the time they'll say "Good, how are you?" And from there you use your resources to continue the conversation further. Talk about class, parties, your major/degree, anything. As an opener, it doesn't matter what you say.

I'm just not THAT confident of a guy. I have self esteem, I don't think I am ugly by any means, but my social skills are subpar to be honest. I used to have major social anxiety which I have gotten over, mostly, but it still lingers.

But as I said before, I only live once. I can't just less a possible opportunity pass me by just because I don't have the balls to speak to her. I suppose I'll give it a shot, if I don't puss out.

Edit: and you're right, I felt kinda awkward today when we were in the elevator. I held the door open for her (awww, how nice, right?) and she was like "thanks!" and I let her out of the elevator before me as a "ladies first" kind of gesture. Like I said, when I glance up at her I find her looking at me quite often, but then again that could be coincidence, or she could just look at me because she knows I glance at her. What if she thinks I am a creep?

[empire112234]

Using computer of a girl I'm seeing. Youtube ads are all about drug rehab clinics.

Lol this is going to end badly.

[~Turtle Bus~]

Originally Posted by empire112234

Using computer of a girl I'm seeing. Youtube ads are all about drug rehab clinics.

Lol this is going to end badly.

hahahaha!

that is funny, but at least you have some sort of heads up

[xFSUxlaxflip]

Originally Posted by ~Turtle Bus~

How do I talk to this girl? I just want be able to have the confidence to act like I've done it before. I feel awkward when I am around her for some reason. I don't care if she ends up not liking me, but I can't just be a ***** and not make an attempt... right?

tl;dr: There is this girl, I think she is cute, I want to talk to her but don't know what to say. What do?

Like anything in life, making friends and ultimately building interest with women is a skill that requires practice. If you fear failure you will never attain success. Plain and simple as that. In the military we use this rule of thumb, "A half assed plan that is well executed is better than a perfect plan never executed!"

That rule of thumb rings true in alot of things but also with women. We can spend all day coaching you, giving you ideas, giving you things to say, etc. But if you cannot, will not, or simply fear making the attempt I could give you the holy grail of all ice breakers and it will still come off as awkward.

Originally Posted by ~Turtle Bus~

That might make for an awkward situation. I don't see very many guys who have never spoken to a girl just saying "hi, how are you?" what if she started thinking "this guy is weird, why does he care?"

A good majority of conversations you have or will have on a daily basis with random individuals starts with a simple "How are you today?" or "Hows your day been?" Its a common expression. She at first may think "why does he care?" but when you listen to her and converse with her on things she expressed in response to your question she will quickly adjust and realize that you are just being friendly. I would however, recommend that you stick to more directed questions like the ones others have already suggested. "I see you are in X major are there any professors i should avoid?" This forces an answer that will reveal something for you to converse over rather than a simple "Fine" or "Ok"

Originally Posted by ~Turtle Bus~

This is the best advice thus far. I know she is farther along in the course than I am, in fact I think she works in part of the office at our school (ya know, how colleges offer jobs to some students), I suppose I could try and ask her what classes she is taking right now and how long she has been attending the school.


I just don't want to make an idiot out of myself.

By placing this much pressure on yourself you will inevitably make a fool of yourself. Stop thinking and just go into it plain and genuine. As a child you didnt just flop out of your mother and start sprinting around and reciting shakespeare. You built up to those activities from just moving your limbs, to crawling, to walking, to running, and finally to sprinting. So why do you expect that you have to hop right back on the saddle and start dropping Don Juan on this girl you barely know? Instead lets start with simple conversations that result in QUALITY exchanges between you and her...

[~Turtle Bus~]

Originally Posted by xFSUxlaxflip

Like anything in life, making friends and ultimately building interest with women is a skill that requires practice. If you fear failure you will never attain success. Plain and simple as that. In the military we use this rule of thumb, "A half assed plan that is well executed is better than a perfect plan never executed!"

That rule of thumb rings true in alot of things but also with women. We can spend all day coaching you, giving you ideas, giving you things to say, etc. But if you cannot, will not, or simply fear making the attempt I could give you the holy grail of all ice breakers and it will still come off as awkward.



A good majority of conversations you have or will have on a daily basis with random individuals starts with a simple "How are you today?" or "Hows your day been?" Its a common expression. She at first may think "why does he care?" but when you listen to her and converse with her on things she expressed in response to your question she will quickly adjust and realize that you are just being friendly. I would however, recommend that you stick to more directed questions like the ones others have already suggested. "I see you are in X major are there any professors i should avoid?" This forces an answer that will reveal something for you to converse over rather than a simple "Fine" or "Ok"



By placing this much pressure on yourself you will inevitably make a fool of yourself. Stop thinking and just go into it plain and genuine. As a child you didnt just flop out of your mother and start sprinting around and reciting shakespeare. You built up to those activities from just moving your limbs, to crawling, to walking, to running, and finally to sprinting. So why do you expect that you have to hop right back on the saddle and start dropping Don Juan on this girl you barely know? Instead lets start with simple conversations that result in QUALITY exchanges between you and her...

THANK YOU for the advice, this helps a lot. I definitely understand what you're saying, I mean there are plenty of other girls in the world, if this time i happen to attempt conversation and things don't work out, it would ultimately become a learning experience.

I'll give it a shot next oppurtunity I have. I mean, for some reason I admire this girl and don't even have her added on facebook (for some reason), I haven't bothered adding her if I've never made conversation with her, even though I know she knows who I am (to some sort of extent.)

I'm going to give it a shot. A great friend of mine at school knows her a little, I'm going to tell him I think she is cute and ask if he knows what she is interested in. I will give it a whirl and as soon as progress is made I will post back here to see what you all think.

Personally I think she is way too good for me, but so are most of the girls I have dated in the past. So I'm going to go for it.

Also, the saying you mentioned "A half assed plan that is well executed is better than a perfect plan never executed!" is a really great way to live life, thanks for that.

[empire112234]

Originally Posted by ~Turtle Bus~

hahahaha!

that is funny, but at least you have some sort of heads up

Eh, I already knew she was crazy. Basically I ended it with her about two weeks ago but wound up sleeping with her on saturday and got thrown back into it. Sucks because we're really close as friends and she's absolutely gorgeous but it's just unhealthy to stay involved.

For some reason I always have a soft spot for the ones that need help.

[adambomb#13]

Alright fellas, let's see what you got for me, my wife and I separated last may, I found out in June that she had been ****ing her coworker, whatever **** that *****, here I am now, I've been dating this girl for maybe two months I like her, definitely don't love her though, she's finishing collage to be a school teacher, she's kinda cute maybe 6/10, sweet as can be, cooks for me, treats me good, swallows, lol. Kinda short and a few extra pounds. I've been talking to this other girl I used to know from high school, totally hot, 9-10/10 used to be a stripper, we get along great, a lot in common, also very sweet, cooks for me, and is unbelievable in the sack, like woah! So my problem is the school teacher is starting to get really serious about our relationship, and I'm not, I was with my exwife for 13+ years and don't want to be in another committed relationship, so I know I need to talk to her but tomorrow is valentines day and I don't want to have that talk until after that, so my question to you all, what do? Dump school teacher for stripper? Dump stripper for school teacher? Or try to keep both?

[R2-D2]

id have the talk today. if you do something sweet for the fat one then blindside her this weekend, she'll be pissed.

justification: you already said you don't want something serious. end it with her because of how serious she's gotten. just tell her you don't feel ready for that serious kind of relationship.

[adambomb#13]

Yeah I'm just dreading having that talk, I hate to hurt anyone, but I suppose it needs to be done sooner rather than later