[aieou]

Start talking to more girls, dude. You're fishing in the wrong pond. There are tons of places you can cast your line, you're in college for ****s sake. Girls is a number game, go out there and talk to 5 new girls tomorrow. Gain some confidence!

Today I had probably 8 or 9 conversations with women, made them all smile and left them with a good impression. Get out there and put on a helmet scooter.

[raidenssj10]

Here we go:

So I have known this girl for about a month. We both really like each other, we've kissed a few times, gone on a few dates, things are going well. One of my good friends also has pretty much the exact same thing with one of her good friends, so us four hang out a lot. However, both of us guys leave on LDS missions. Him in less than a month and myself in two months. He doesn't want to get too serious with this girl before he leaves, so he's going to cut it off in a few days. I, however, still want to date this girl even though I'm leaving. I don't really expect her to wait for me, mostly because we just met and two years is a really long time, but like I said, I really like her. Once this other guy leaves and or breaks of his relationship, it will just be me and her, as all of my other friends leave on missions within 2 months and aren't looking for relationships.

wat do

[Mr.Familiar]

so you are asking us, to tell you, how to convince this girl to wait two years for you?

[andrevask]

I am in a long term relationship with my girls for the past 8 years and she us perfect....I love her but I have also been with this other girl for the past few months since we meet and it has been insanely amazing....I think I might be on love with her as well.... What to do

[R2-D2]

probably not good to date other girls when you've been committed so long to a "great girl." break up with your current as you're obviously not faithful. if the other girl doesn't know about your current girl, she won't be happy. if she does, well then, you're both at fault and I wish you a happy relationship that will likely end in infidelity.

[SuMaC]

so i started talking to my ex that i broke up with a few months ago. we talked about getting back together and she told me that she wasnt sure, and that she was still in love with me but cant fully trust me, is afraid to commit to me again, and that id have to "work for it" if i wanted to be back together with her. its been about 10 days and it started off great but now im starting to feel like im bothering her. I realized that once we started talking and hanging out, i was treating her like my girlfriend even though shes not, which all its done is made me fall back to being really attached and now im starting to freak out and get nervous and wonder what she is doing if she doesnt answer a text. so my question is: is backing off the right thing for me to do in this situation? the last thing i want to do is come off as desperate and clingy but at the same time i dont want her to think that ive given up.

[SimplySour]

Originally Posted by SuMaC

so i started talking to my ex that i broke up with a few months ago. we talked about getting back together and she told me that she wasnt sure, and that she was still in love with me but cant fully trust me, is afraid to commit to me again, and that id have to "work for it" if i wanted to be back together with her. its been about 10 days and it started off great but now im starting to feel like im bothering her. I realized that once we started talking and hanging out, i was treating her like my girlfriend even though shes not, which all its done is made me fall back to being really attached and now im starting to freak out and get nervous and wonder what she is doing if she doesnt answer a text. so my question is: is backing off the right thing for me to do in this situation? the last thing i want to do is come off as desperate and clingy but at the same time i dont want her to think that ive given up.

You're an idiot for trying to get back with her, back off and just **** her. The break up will be worse this time around if u manage to keep her. I imagine you guys have ****ed in the past so you should probably keep it that.

[SuMaC]

Originally Posted by SimplySour

You're an idiot for trying to get back with her, back off and just **** her. The break up will be worse this time around if u manage to keep her. I imagine you guys have ****ed in the past so you should probably keep it that.

ha yea we were together for 4.5 years, its kind of hard to back off..for both of us realy. everyones calling me an idiot. i talked to her around 6pm the first night we talked...she went out to a bar with her friends and at 1 called me teling me to come over to "hang out"....but ever since then she barely will kiss me. im assuming it was cuz she was drunk but its a giant mind**** lol.

[R2-D2]

did you cheat on her?

[Watermelondrea]

Originally Posted by raidenssj10

Here we go:

So I have known this girl for about a month. We both really like each other, we've kissed a few times, gone on a few dates, things are going well. One of my good friends also has pretty much the exact same thing with one of her good friends, so us four hang out a lot. However, both of us guys leave on LDS missions. Him in less than a month and myself in two months. He doesn't want to get too serious with this girl before he leaves, so he's going to cut it off in a few days. I, however, still want to date this girl even though I'm leaving. I don't really expect her to wait for me, mostly because we just met and two years is a really long time, but like I said, I really like her. Once this other guy leaves and or breaks of his relationship, it will just be me and her, as all of my other friends leave on missions within 2 months and aren't looking for relationships.

wat do

Maybe you should follow what you're friends are doing. I mean, you can't really expect this girl that you've known for a month to wait for you for two years. And, even if she said she would, she'd end up cheating on you within a few weeks.

[yuik (Banned)]

Originally Posted by SuMaC

so i started talking to my ex that i broke up with a few months ago. we talked about getting back together and she told me that she wasnt sure, and that she was still in love with me but cant fully trust me, is afraid to commit to me again, and that id have to "work for it" if i wanted to be back together with her. its been about 10 days and it started off great but now im starting to feel like im bothering her. I realized that once we started talking and hanging out, i was treating her like my girlfriend even though shes not, which all its done is made me fall back to being really attached and now im starting to freak out and get nervous and wonder what she is doing if she doesnt answer a text. so my question is: is backing off the right thing for me to do in this situation? the last thing i want to do is come off as desperate and clingy but at the same time i dont want her to think that ive given up.

Become an islanders fan the the ***** will flow from the heavens .

#kovalchuk army

[yuik (Banned)]

Originally Posted by andrevask

I am in a long term relationship with my girls for the past 8 years and she us perfect....I love her but I have also been with this other girl for the past few months since we meet and it has been insanely amazing....I think I might be on love with her as well.... What to do

I would mess around with a guy if I was you .
If the girl was perfect yet you needed more I might go as far to say maybe a woman can't provide everything you need . Try something out with a dude and then report back in and we can take it from there.

[SuMaC]

Originally Posted by R2-D2

did you cheat on her?

nope

[R2-D2]

then what's with her trust issues?

[SuMaC]

basically her trust issues are that she doesnt believe me when i say that i'm committed and that she's afraid i will do the same thing again.

[phantommaggot]

In my experience, girls that have trust issues for no apparent reason have them because of their own lies. In her head, she is lying to you so you have to be lying to her too. That's just what I've dealt with.

You need to move on and let that one go. Probably should skip the friends thing too. When you see her with some other guy, and you will, it will absolutely SUCK. If shes distancing herself, shes probably trying to make you go away on your own anyways. Probably so she wont hurt you with the guy shes seeing elsewhere.

[R2-D2]

what'd you do to her

[Mr.Familiar]

Sumac- back off for a while. Whenever she calls, just say you are busy and will call her back, then don't. If she texts, ignore it. Then about a week or two later, call her back, ask her how she's been, and if she wants to hang out. This will give you a chance to start over, essentially, and that part is up to you. Other than that, do your thing and concentrate on school, hobbies, friends, anything but her. She obviously doesn't like you as much as you like her, and IF, and that's a giant if, this were to even spiral into something greater, she has to miss you and realize what a great guy you are.

[giants57]

ST:Girl Thread, you'll be proud. Today I initiated conversation with 5 different girls randomly and they all ended nicely. All about getting my confidence levels back up, small steps but I'll take it.

[SuMaC]

Originally Posted by R2-D2

what'd you do to her

i broke up with her. and then after about 2 months we started talking again. then her dad got sick and wound up in the hospital, and since i hated seeing her so upset, i started sleeping over at her house for like 2 weeks straight while her dad was in the hospital. so we basically were back together, but it was something i didnt really want yet, it just happened. she started to notice this and when she confronted me about it, i didnt want to lie to her so i told her how i was feeling like this was forced and i wasnt ready for it. naturally she bugged and we didnt talk for a few weeks, bringing us up to now.

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Sumac- back off for a while. Whenever she calls, just say you are busy and will call her back, then don't. If she texts, ignore it. Then about a week or two later, call her back, ask her how she's been, and if she wants to hang out. This will give you a chance to start over, essentially, and that part is up to you. Other than that, do your thing and concentrate on school, hobbies, friends, anything but her. She obviously doesn't like you as much as you like her, and IF, and that's a giant if, this were to even spiral into something greater, she has to miss you and realize what a great guy you are.

you know its funny, i decided to not text her all day to see what her reaction to it would be. she just now texted me going "so where'd you vanish to all day" . i guess ignoring girls really does work lol.

[R2-D2]

yeah ignoring does work. are you in high school