[yuik (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Big_Dangerous

I don't know anything about his situation, but it seems like land lines are going the way of the VCR these days. Not many people I know still have one, and we're pretty close to getting rid of ours. It really serves little to no purpose at all.

Yes it does guy look up DOC LOVE in regard to the home phone number

[Big_Dangerous]

Originally Posted by yuik

Yes it does guy look up DOC LOVE in regard to the home phone number

I was merely pointing out the fact that not all chicks are going to have land lines, so for many of us the potential benefit(s) of calling a girl at home is moot.

[Mr.Familiar]

^lol. It was a joke Big D

[aieou]

Tonight's scenario:

-Go to bar.
-Talk to bartender who I have mutual friends with.
-*Good convo pursues, stay for about an hour and a half.
-Leaving. Ask for number.
-Me: "You seem pretty cool to talk to. We should hangout. What's your number?"
Her: "Well I don't hang out much outside of the bar, but # is blahblahblah."

Met her through a party. Went to the bar she works at about 3 or 4 times and talked to her before I asked for her number.

Opinions?

[yuik (Banned)]

Originally Posted by aieou

Tonight's scenario:

-Go to bar.
-Talk to bartender who I have mutual friends with.
-*Good convo pursues, stay for about an hour and a half.
-Leaving. Ask for number.
-Me: "You seem pretty cool to talk to. We should hangout. What's your number?"
Her: "Well I don't hang out much outside of the bar, but # is blahblahblah."

Met her through a party. Went to the bar she works at about 3 or 4 times and talked to her before I asked for her number.

Opinions?

Terrible , bar tenders are hands down the worst ****ing person to talk to other than strippers . They are there to work and make money and talking to loney guys helps tips

[yuik (Banned)]

But I'll help you out ... Anyway .

1.Go in there and immediately start talk to the first group (one of the closest groups as you walk I the door ) . Tell them your waiting for a friend so you need to get going quick but they seemed like a fun crowd so you wanted them to help you out . Then ask them something interesting or hip . The first thing that comes to mind is getting a good gag christmas gift for your overly up tight friend , however his mother will be at the holiday party .
After 3 minutes ask how everyone knows each other or say you two look like old friends (any two in the group then ask how they know each other ). Say nice meeting you the names Tom but I need to meet my friend now (this should take 5-7 minutes at most depending on the group size maybe less ).

2. Go to the bar and put yourself in and ideal situation to get a quick drink from any bar tender but your target . Ie a beer a drink with 1 ingredient (a scotch on the rocks) , maybe amaretto on the rocks if you can't handle a scotch (the goal is to get a quick drink not to impress anyone with what it is ).

3. Your doing the "rounds" as you walk through the bar you stop and talk to groups on the way or say hi . Really easy way to do this is see someone looking out into the crowd , make eye contact , as your walking over raise your glass and say cheers . 90% of Americans will say cheers and hit your glass back . Say 1 or two things if you like the group stay more but goto the next one . Only stay 5-7 minutes at most saying you need to meet up with your friend is was nice taking my name is bobby what was yours (get a name if you want to re talk to them later ).

4. People start noticing you and wonder who the **** is this guy how the hell does he know 1/3 of the bar in here . (the cheers way is an easy way to start off , another gimme is what my friend does at nightclubs he comes over shakes their hands and says something like " I wanted to thank you for coming to marquee tonight" , or i like this play for LA lounges when you have a really stuck up ***** (someone who knows she looks good or just blew a guy up) with her friend "so I have the policy of Allllwaaayyys meeting the hottest girl when I go out each night ." Shake hand. "My names Jonathan" quick pause "So do you know her ?" gesture to less attractive friend . 50% of the time it will be over the hot ones head but the friend gets it .

5. Return to the first group and get someone's attention by saying their name . So Ashley , hey PJ Ect . Hangout for 5-10 minutes , maybe find a common interest and try and set up a you should totally join my friends when we do that . What's the best way to contact you ? (get a number even if you don't want it )

6. Go to the bar tender your aiming for . Hopefully she noticed you running **** in 1-5 but make sure you weren't watching to see if she was . "oh hey I didn't even realize you were working tonight ". I was about to head over to bar / club xyz , in a bit . You should totally join its going to be really fun . What time do you get out ? Alright well what's the best way to keep in touch of you plan on coming out .

*optional - try and get someone from steps 1-5 to also go to the other bar with you . That way your not waiting for her to maybe come out with your thumb up your *** . Your enjoying yourself she comes in and sees this you wave her over she realizes she needs to work alittle impress you not the other way around and in 1-9 days you acquire the *****.


Smile dress nice and run **** .

[Big_Dangerous]

Originally Posted by aieou

Tonight's scenario:

-Go to bar.
-Talk to bartender who I have mutual friends with.
-*Good convo pursues, stay for about an hour and a half.
-Leaving. Ask for number.
-Me: "You seem pretty cool to talk to. We should hangout. What's your number?"
Her: "Well I don't hang out much outside of the bar, but # is blahblahblah."

Met her through a party. Went to the bar she works at about 3 or 4 times and talked to her before I asked for her number.

Opinions?

How's it hanging man? Long time no talk, but I told myself I wouldn't come back on here until I found a job. Mission accomplished!

[R2-D2]

lol yuik it would be easier to just show her your dick.

[TheColorCute]

That movie date a few nights ago went nicely. Texted her earlier in the day to arrange specifics. Her address, when I was picking her up, etc. Also got her a birthday present while I was at the mall. Her birthday was last weekend. Told her that I was going to surprise her with something. Got her a Big Bang Theory fuzzy blanket. One of her favorite shows

Got to her apartment building, she called me to see where I was parked. Lots of giggles and such from her over the phone, giggled at any small joke or humorous remark I made while I was guiding her to where I parked. Drove to the movies. Lots of quality conversation in the car. It all flowed very nicely. Very few silent moments.

Gave her the blanket when we got to the movie. She loved it. Told her "I was going to get you a big Ted plush teddy bear, but it was like $60, and I said to myself "I don't like her thaaaat much"", to which she responded "ohmygod thanks! ", in a worried tone.

Some good kino in the movie. She was very comfortable with me touching her, didn't pull back or make any movements away at all. Put the arm rest up and sat close with her.

Had lots more good conversation on the way home. Lots of giggles from her, giggled at almost everything I did/said. She had her hands in the blanket I got her, because it was cold as balls, so for about 5 minutes of the drive I put my hand in there with her. Kept it on her leg, with her hand on top of mine. Squeezed her leg some with good response from her.

Dropped her off, she gave me a hug, told me to text her when I got home, and that'd she'd talk to me tonight. Keep in mind that this was at about midnight

I would have gone for the kiss, but knowing her, she's not the "kiss on the first date" type of girl. She's the type of girl who makes a big deal about the girls who upload ****ty pictures to Facebook. I would have escalated and suggested that we go inside or something, but she was at her mom's house that night, not her own apartment.

Texted her later that night/morning, asked her how the cuddling was going (with her new blanket ). She replied "The best!!!", to which I replied "Next time, I want in on these cuddles.".
She replied "Haha, deal "

Haven't really talked to her since then. She clearly enjoyed herself very much, as did I, and she's clearly interested and attracted, so I'm assuming she's waiting for me to ask her out again. I'll shoot her a text within the next day or so and escalate on this cuddle invitation.

Tl;DR: Date went well. We both had an awesome time. She's definitely interested and attracted. Will shoot her a text within the next couple days to arrange a second date

[coltgibby]

Here's the scenario: Met this girl freshman year and we hung out a lot first semester. Never tried anything because I felt like I was stuck in the friend zone. Second semester freshman year rolls around and we don't hang or talk much because she joined a sorority and she's busy with that, so I go do my own thing.

Now it's sophomore year and we started talking again, which leaded to us hooking up a lot. We hooked up the weekend before finals and were talking a lot all the way till finals ended, but once she got home she seems disinterested.


Now every time I text her she ends up not responding after a bit or just gives me short responses. Idk if I'm over thinking this or not, but her attitude towards me has seemed to change and idk why. Advice/opinions would be muy bueno.

[Big_Dangerous]

Originally Posted by coltgibby

Here's the scenario: Met this girl freshman year and we hung out a lot first semester. Never tried anything because I felt like I was stuck in the friend zone. Second semester freshman year rolls around and we don't hang or talk much because she joined a sorority and she's busy with that, so I go do my own thing.

Now it's sophomore year and we started talking again, which leaded to us hooking up a lot. We hooked up the weekend before finals and were talking a lot all the way till finals ended, but once she got home she seems disinterested.


Now every time I text her she ends up not responding after a bit or just gives me short responses. Idk if I'm over thinking this or not, but her attitude towards me has seemed to change and idk why. Advice/opinions would be muy bueno.

What do you mean by hooking up?

[imped4now]

Time to go do your own thing again.

[coltgibby]

Originally Posted by Big_Dangerous

What do you mean by hooking up?

Sexual intercourse

Edit: What's weird is that we were really good friends before and I don't think she would just end things like this. Also, I can't just go and see her and talk about it because she lives in jersey and I'm from indiana.

[memorex]

just sounds like a FWB type of thing...but you want it to be more clearly.

[dam2]

Originally Posted by TheColorCute

That movie date a few nights ago went nicely. Texted her earlier in the day to arrange specifics. Her address, when I was picking her up, etc. Also got her a birthday present while I was at the mall. Her birthday was last weekend. Told her that I was going to surprise her with something. Got her a Big Bang Theory fuzzy blanket. One of her favorite shows

Got to her apartment building, she called me to see where I was parked. Lots of giggles and such from her over the phone, giggled at any small joke or humorous remark I made while I was guiding her to where I parked. Drove to the movies. Lots of quality conversation in the car. It all flowed very nicely. Very few silent moments.

Gave her the blanket when we got to the movie. She loved it. Told her "I was going to get you a big Ted plush teddy bear, but it was like $60, and I said to myself "I don't like her thaaaat much"", to which she responded "ohmygod thanks! ", in a worried tone.

Some good kino in the movie. She was very comfortable with me touching her, didn't pull back or make any movements away at all. Put the arm rest up and sat close with her.

Had lots more good conversation on the way home. Lots of giggles from her, giggled at almost everything I did/said. She had her hands in the blanket I got her, because it was cold as balls, so for about 5 minutes of the drive I put my hand in there with her. Kept it on her leg, with her hand on top of mine. Squeezed her leg some with good response from her.

Dropped her off, she gave me a hug, told me to text her when I got home, and that'd she'd talk to me tonight. Keep in mind that this was at about midnight

I would have gone for the kiss, but knowing her, she's not the "kiss on the first date" type of girl. She's the type of girl who makes a big deal about the girls who upload ****ty pictures to Facebook. I would have escalated and suggested that we go inside or something, but she was at her mom's house that night, not her own apartment.

Texted her later that night/morning, asked her how the cuddling was going (with her new blanket ). She replied "The best!!!", to which I replied "Next time, I want in on these cuddles.".
She replied "Haha, deal "

Haven't really talked to her since then. She clearly enjoyed herself very much, as did I, and she's clearly interested and attracted, so I'm assuming she's waiting for me to ask her out again. I'll shoot her a text within the next day or so and escalate on this cuddle invitation.

Tl;DR: Date went well. We both had an awesome time. She's definitely interested and attracted. Will shoot her a text within the next couple days to arrange a second date

Why would you need keep up texting? Don't be obsessed, but don't let things die down either. Set up a second date and get going.

Originally Posted by coltgibby

Here's the scenario: Met this girl freshman year and we hung out a lot first semester. Never tried anything because I felt like I was stuck in the friend zone. Second semester freshman year rolls around and we don't hang or talk much because she joined a sorority and she's busy with that, so I go do my own thing.

Now it's sophomore year and we started talking again, which leaded to us hooking up a lot. We hooked up the weekend before finals and were talking a lot all the way till finals ended, but once she got home she seems disinterested.


Now every time I text her she ends up not responding after a bit or just gives me short responses. Idk if I'm over thinking this or not, but her attitude towards me has seemed to change and idk why. Advice/opinions would be muy bueno.

Give her some room, don't make a big deal about anything and wait until she comes around. She'll end up getting in touch with you if that's what she wants. Who knows maybe when she went back home she's been ****ing an old bf or something?

[TheColorCute]

Ex texted me a bit ago saying "Happy holidays luke thinking of you. Thanks for all the things you've ever done for me."

Don't quite know how to respond to that. So I probably won't respond at all.

She's been gradually liking and commenting on my statuses/pictures and Instagram photos. I don't really respond to any comment she posts.

[Rampager2000]

Do you want her back?

If yes, respond.

If no, ignore it. Or flip ****, but if you're like me and don't like severing bonds, ignore it.

[TheColorCute]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

Do you want her back?

If yes, respond.

If no, ignore it. Or flip ****, but if you're like me and don't like severing bonds, ignore it.

I wouldn't mind talking to her, I just don't know how to respond to that

[SUR3]

"Thanks, happy holidays"

[R2-D2]

"Thanks, got a Christmas blowjob for me?"

[Strange1130]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

Do you want her back?

If yes, respond.

If no, ignore it. Or flip ****, but if you're like me and don't like severing bonds, ignore it.

This. seriously I don't know why this is so ****ing hard for guys to understand. There's no rule saying "OMG NEVER ****ING TEXT HER YOU WEAK BETA *****." If you like the girl, text her *** and talk to her because that's an activity that you enjoy. If you're just trying to game her and get in her pants, then obviously don't because that can **** with your plan. I talk to my girl every day, cuz I like her and I like talking to her and hearing about what she's up to, and we aren't even technically "dating" yet. I have absolutely no worries about it harming our relationship; quite the contrary.