[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

The difference is she took the initiative, went out of her way to find you, only asked to be friends and sincerely apologized.

This ***** called him choking on tears pleading she was wrong. I bet she'd found out not even five minutes before her little fling ****ed her best friend.

See the difference? One ****ed up and learned from it, the other realized she made a bad choice and wants her bad choice amended; in other words she hasn't matured out of high school.

That is a good point, and I thought the same when I read that she called him 15 times. Seems very desperate from an over the internet viewpoint. However, I'm sure there is more to the story, including the other side. The best advice to give is to give none at all, but let the one asking for it come up with their own, on their own terms. Like I said, in my previous post, I suggested a slow phase in if he did decide to consider getting back together, as to slowly build that trust back, and get to know the real reason why she ditched him.

[Rampager2000]

I would give it a few days to see what caused her to end it for sure and what sparked her sudden interest in him again.

I can think of very few situations where her actions would have been excusable and just take her back and live happily ever after.

I'd bet money she spent the whole time drunk, high and stuff full of cock.

[Mr.Familiar]

Personally, I'd just let her go, at least for now, and experience new things, new people, new education, and new beginnings. If he feels compelled to be with her again, technology is right there to help make that happen.

[R2-D2]

I would also chime in with the let things lie for awhile. dont take her back fast. put her out in the cold for awhile and see how loyal she really is. if she wants you, she'll still be waiting. if she goes on to someone else, then she's too immature to let herself heal emotionally anyway, and she'll always have emotional baggage.

[DaytonLax14]

My ex called me three months after we broke up doing the whole crying thing and wanted to know if there was still a chance....I said no. Not much long after, she ****ed some other dude.....and about a month after we broke up she ****ed a guy. Needless to say, I made the right decision with telling her no.

I think it all just really depends on how the break up went. Was she respectful and considerate of your feelings during and after the break up? If yes, then maybe you should think about taking her back, but not right away. Was she an immature ***** who purposely did things to make you jealous? Then I would say hell no we aren't getting back together, you've already ****ed that up

[SUR3]

Originally Posted by DaytonLax14

My ex called me three months after we broke up doing the whole crying thing and wanted to know if there was still a chance....I said no. Not much long after, she ****ed some other dude.....and about a month after we broke up she ****ed a guy. Needless to say, I made the right decision with telling her no.

I think it all just really depends on how the break up went. Was she respectful and considerate of your feelings during and after the break up? If yes, then maybe you should think about taking her back, but not right away. Was she an immature ***** who purposely did things to make you jealous? Then I would say hell no we aren't getting back together, you've already ****ed that up

she rebounded when she realized she wasn't getting you back. that's not saying much

[DaytonLax14]

she did the same thing right after we broke up too. To me, that says something.

[xFSUxlaxflip]

Originally Posted by p-ballplaya1440

Girl problem thread, I need your help once more. I'm in quite the conundrum.

So I guess this girl and I have been dating for a few weeks now, since I recently was dumped by my ex. Anyways, this girl and I were on a date out to get ice cream last night before coming back to my house to watch Netflix and chill.

Note this though: my ex and I haven't talked to one another for about a month now, because she got another boyfriend and I have been seeing this girl Jen.

However...last night while we were at Cold Stone getting ice cream, guess who starts blowing up my phone? My ex. I ignored her until the end of the night with this girl, and finally called her back after about 15 missed calls from her. She's sobbing her eyes out saying how she realizes she's made a mistake by dumping me (all the while I'm thinking to myself "I told ya so you dumb ****") But anyway, now my ex wants me back...my head is telling me to just say **** her and get with this new girl, but my heart is bringing me back to her now. (Please realize that my ex and I were going out for nearly 4 years, and we did have an amazing relationship up until she dumped me...this was the girl I was going to marry.)

What the **** do, ogpt?

You are asking us to evaluate a 4 year relationship, that was then ended oddly and is looking to be picked back up from a short blurb post... this is a decision you must make not me, nor anyone else in here can make for you.

Boil it down to the basics

Pros and Cons

What was good about the relationship what was ****ty? Are you willing to live with the ****ty parts purely because of the good parts? Did she drop you just to go **** some other guy? Whats stopping her from doing that in the future. Are you just saying she was the one you were gonna marry cuz it was a long relationship or because you genuinely feel you love her and are willing to commit your whole life to this thing? so on and so forth

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

The good news; time is on your side. It's ok to sit on it for a while. Keep dating the girl you are currently seeing for a while and see if she is better for you than your ex was, or not. Slowly phase your ex back into your life and build that trust again. Or not. Drop her like she dropped you. The ball is in your court.

Exactly, i agree with your entire post winner winner chicken dinner...

[undiscoveredtalent]

Originally Posted by p-ballplaya1440

Girl problem thread, I need your help once more. I'm in quite the conundrum.

So I guess this girl and I have been dating for a few weeks now, since I recently was dumped by my ex. Anyways, this girl and I were on a date out to get ice cream last night before coming back to my house to watch Netflix and chill.

Note this though: my ex and I haven't talked to one another for about a month now, because she got another boyfriend and I have been seeing this girl Jen.

However...last night while we were at Cold Stone getting ice cream, guess who starts blowing up my phone? My ex. I ignored her until the end of the night with this girl, and finally called her back after about 15 missed calls from her. She's sobbing her eyes out saying how she realizes she's made a mistake by dumping me (all the while I'm thinking to myself "I told ya so you dumb ****") But anyway, now my ex wants me back...my head is telling me to just say **** her and get with this new girl, but my heart is bringing me back to her now. (Please realize that my ex and I were going out for nearly 4 years, and we did have an amazing relationship up until she dumped me...this was the girl I was going to marry.)

What the **** do, ogpt?

last name start with an H and end with a b?

[TheColorCute]

That girl with a boyfriend texted me a couple days ago. She's gradually been liking my posts on Facebook (means she's DTF, right? ). We talked a bit, I suggested we go get coffee the next day, along with a plan for shenanigans, which she approved of. At first, she was like "I have plans tomorrow", to which I responded "Ah, oh well. We'll figure it out.". 15 minutes later she says "Maybe I'll go to Barnes and Noble (coffee/book place) to study tomorrow and you can casually see that I'm there and then I won't feel like I'm doing something wrong". I told her that's a good plan, and she replied "Perfect".

I texted her the next day to see what's up, and she responded "Blah blah blah I already went to Barnes and Noble. My guilty conscious is telling me not to hang out with you". After a little discussion, I tell her that even though we're just honestly hanging out, I can respect that.

Her guilty conscious hasn't stopped her from sending me naughty pictures and sexting me, but that's beside the point. I'm sure she'll text me again in a couple weeks. Until then, I'm going to hang back. I'm in no rush.

[Liquid Mercury]

Quagmire avvy made me lol after reading sexting part

[Soviet Tacos]

Sounds like some dick sucking action will take place.
Bravo!

[p-ballplaya1440]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

Conundrum, great word.

Just remember, as has been said, she left you on a whim to be with another guy. She thought he was better and went with him. She is coming back to you because it didn't work. You're a fall back to her. Second best.

You didn't go into detail about the new girl. How is she? How are things with her? If you have something solid going I suggest you stay with her. Your ex is just a ticking time bomb if you go back with her. She didn't learn her lesson and she sure as hell hasn't changed. Not this quick.

The new girl is cool. We've been hanging out every weekend or two since the beginning of November. She doesn't go to my school, but she goes to a private college down the road from JMU. We've been hitting it off pretty well, but it doesn't seem like she's really interested in a physical relationship. Hell, I haven't even kissed her yet. But honestly that's not what worries me about her at all...more of the fact that she's usually swamped with work, school, and extra-curricular activities that I don't even get to talk to her that much during the week. But so far all of our dates have been great, minus the one I was talking about earlier when my ex was bothering me all night.

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Don't be so quick to take the advice of the others in here. Sure, they could be correct, but don't make hasty decisions unless you are THAT confident with it.

I had a similar experience. I dated my ex for a year and half, and then out of nowhere, she calls me and says we should break up. I too, thought this could be the girl I marry someday. I was really hurt over it, tried to kind of convince her otherwise, but eventually let her go. A few months later, she goes to a birthday party of a friend of mine, since she knows I'm going, and says that she made a mistake and wants to be friends again; i.e. wants to possibly get back together. I declined, and moved on. I knew deep down that with everything she had said to me, how she conveyed herself to be, and what I now knew what her word was worth, I could not trust her again. It took me 3 years to be able to consider trusting someone like that again.

Your ex could be completely sincere when she says that she did make a mistake. You too had been dating for 4 years, and I'm guessing you two are still pretty young. It makes sense for her to want to perhaps date or be with another guy. I'm not saying it right what she did to you, but that's what it was/is. Maybe she just didn't know how good she had it, and now she does. You are a great guy and she knows that now.

Or; on the other hand, the perspectives offered by others could be spot on. She was reckless and inconsiderate with your feelings and emotions, and shouldn't be given a second chance. She blew it, can't be trusted, and you deserve better.

The good news; time is on your side. It's ok to sit on it for a while. Keep dating the girl you are currently seeing for a while and see if she is better for you than your ex was, or not. Slowly phase your ex back into your life and build that trust again. Or not. Drop her like she dropped you. The ball is in your court.

I really like this post...you make some great points. I feel like my ex is trying to do the same as your ex did. The reason she hasn't seen me in person is that she goes to school in PA, while I'm down in VA. Long distance sucks in that regard.

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

The difference is she took the initiative, went out of her way to find you, only asked to be friends and sincerely apologized.

This ***** called him choking on tears pleading she was wrong. I bet she'd found out not even five minutes before her little fling ****ed her best friend.

See the difference? One ****ed up and learned from it, the other realized she made a bad choice and wants her bad choice amended; in other words she hasn't matured out of high school.

I also really like this. Blunt, but awesome.

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

I would give it a few days to see what caused her to end it for sure and what sparked her sudden interest in him again.

I can think of very few situations where her actions would have been excusable and just take her back and live happily ever after.

I'd bet money she spent the whole time drunk, high and stuff full of cock.

I'm dealing with giving it a few days now. I'm probably going to call her on Monday and see what's up for real. She's ****ing confusing as hell.

Originally Posted by R2-D2

I would also chime in with the let things lie for awhile. dont take her back fast. put her out in the cold for awhile and see how loyal she really is. if she wants you, she'll still be waiting. if she goes on to someone else, then she's too immature to let herself heal emotionally anyway, and she'll always have emotional baggage.

Agreed.

Originally Posted by DaytonLax14

My ex called me three months after we broke up doing the whole crying thing and wanted to know if there was still a chance....I said no. Not much long after, she ****ed some other dude.....and about a month after we broke up she ****ed a guy. Needless to say, I made the right decision with telling her no.

I think it all just really depends on how the break up went. Was she respectful and considerate of your feelings during and after the break up? If yes, then maybe you should think about taking her back, but not right away. Was she an immature ***** who purposely did things to make you jealous? Then I would say hell no we aren't getting back together, you've already ****ed that up

She was very inconsiderate of me during the time. Also, about two weeks after, she messages me saying that she's ****ing another guy (now her new boyfriend), and also made it a point to call me after Thanksgiving break and tell me that she was his girlfriend now. So, yes, she was very quick to try to make me jealous.

Originally Posted by undiscoveredtalent

last name start with an H and end with a b?

Nope. You don't know who I am, I'm sure of it.

[Rampager2000]

Let us know how the call goes

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by TheColorCute

That girl with a boyfriend texted me a couple days ago. She's gradually been liking my posts on Facebook (means she's DTF, right? ). We talked a bit, I suggested we go get coffee the next day, along with a plan for shenanigans, which she approved of. At first, she was like "I have plans tomorrow", to which I responded "Ah, oh well. We'll figure it out.". 15 minutes later she says "Maybe I'll go to Barnes and Noble (coffee/book place) to study tomorrow and you can casually see that I'm there and then I won't feel like I'm doing something wrong". I told her that's a good plan, and she replied "Perfect".

I texted her the next day to see what's up, and she responded "Blah blah blah I already went to Barnes and Noble. My guilty conscious is telling me not to hang out with you". After a little discussion, I tell her that even though we're just honestly hanging out, I can respect that.

Dude, you should have just replied with, "Well my guilty conscious is telling you to come over to my house and watch a movie with me." or something like that. She wants it so bad, it's not even funny. Pull the trigger.

Like with many girls, she doesn't want to think of herself as a whore, so she pushes and pulls at you to be the bigger man and tell her she's not and lead her into something.

If you are worried about the boyfriend, don't be. That ship has sailed.

[TheColorCute]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Dude, you should have just replied with, "Well my guilty conscious is telling you to come over to my house and watch a movie with me." or something like that. She wants it so bad, it's not even funny. Pull the trigger.

Like with many girls, she doesn't want to think of herself as a whore, so she pushes and pulls at you to be the bigger man and tell her she's not and lead her into something.

If you are worried about the boyfriend, don't be. That ship has sailed.

Normally, I would. But I tried the stubborn "make her hang out" route with her around this time last year, and all it did was push her away. So I'm treading lightly here.

When we were sexting and she was sending me naughty pictures, she started saying how she's the worst girlfriend ever and how she feels guilty, and I told her that it's "just flirting at the moment", and she was like "Yeah...at the moment. But okay". Of course I knew that it has the very strong possibility (or even probability) of escalating, but I told her whatever would make her feel less guilty.

When she was talking about her conscious and about feeling guilty, and about how she didn't want to lie to him and go behind his back, I told her that "we're honestly just hanging out". I'm going to let those words cook with her for a few days, and go from there.

Oh believe me, I'm not worried about the boyfriend. There's a strong possibility that she's going to be breaking up with him anyway. When we were sexting she was saying that she thinks she can do better, and a few days ago she mentioned that she's getting tired of waiting (it's a long distance relationship, he's been living out of state for the past 8 months or so for work).

I'm going to give her a week or so and shoot her a text, and play off the "we're honestly just hanging out" route. The thing is, she knows that if she hangs out with me, or that if she's alone in a room with me, watching a movie or something, she's going to be tempted to make a move, or at least get a little physical (cuddles, etc.). And she knows that if I make a move, she probably won't be able to say no. She's already made it abundantly clear that she wants to, but she doesn't want to be "that kind of girl", so she's on the fence about it. This means that when the time comes, I'm going to have to be the one to "nudge" it along, if you will.

She's already started liking some of my stuff on Instagram (***** wants the dick ).

Originally Posted by Soviet Tacos

Sounds like some dick sucking action will take place.
Bravo!

She's teased me plenty with talk of her dick sucking abilities. I teased her in return with talk of my "abilities".

[Bleachdnblonde]

Holy **** this thread still exists

[Rampager2000]

Guys still want ***** even though they don't want paintball.

[DaytonLax14]

wtf is paintball?

[Bleachdnblonde]

I read through the last page... damn i feel old.

[Danglous]

Originally Posted by Bleachdnblonde

I read through the last page... damn i feel old.

What have you been up to?