[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by bubbleboy016

Bleh! Was getting new contacts and flirting with both receptionists, optomotrist and assistant. Had them all at the front desk laughing and making suggestive jokes. Two of the older female customers, including one with her son, kept eyeing me, too. Dunno, was just really on top of my game tonight. Didnt make any moves, three of the four were married and the last was a behemoth of a woman. Only two were attractive enough to bang, but one was freshly married and the other was a bit shy. Even thiugh I didnt make any moves, it was good times. Definite confident booster, not that I really needed one.

Moral of the story: Flirt with everyone, don't discriminate.

[Rampager2000]

I'm so glad Bubble said that. I flirt with girls all the time, whether attractive or not, a ***** or not, whatever. You never know when making that impression will really help down the road.

[xFSUxlaxflip]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

No, if I'm going to go up there to hang out, and "catch up", it's not going to be something that I'm going to take lightly. My time and money are important to me.

Money
Woman
Time

pick 2....

Jokes aside,
It sounds like you need to look for ventures more close to home in order to have this in a "backup plan" or "wait and see" category. Its plausible and possible that you could, with minimal in person discussion or build up, land this girl as a relationship over the 1 hour distance; but the chances are slim to none judging by the limited history you have provided and general social dynamics surrounding the fact that you basically haven't had a face to face discussion with this person in years.

Look at it from a different view point. If someone you hadn't talked to in years messaged you on Facebook for a bit and then asked to borrow money would you lend it to them? Would you accept the risk of having absolutely no knowledge of their current situation or recent history and purely go off of their text based communications and nifty profile photo?

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by xFSUxlaxflip

Money
Woman
Time

pick 2....

Jokes aside,
It sounds like you need to look for ventures more close to home in order to have this in a "backup plan" or "wait and see" category. Its plausible and possible that you could, with minimal in person discussion or build up, land this girl as a relationship over the 1 hour distance; but the chances are slim to none judging by the limited history you have provided and general social dynamics surrounding the fact that you basically haven't had a face to face discussion with this person in years.

Look at it from a different view point. If someone you hadn't talked to in years messaged you on Facebook for a bit and then asked to borrow money would you lend it to them? Would you accept the risk of having absolutely no knowledge of their current situation or recent history and purely go off of their text based communications and nifty profile photo?

lol @ the pick 2. Too true.

As for the in-town prospects- meh... the chances of meeting someone are slim to non there. I live at home at the moment, don't really know anyone here as all my friends are back up at my college town, 2.5 hours away; and I pretty much just work, go to the gym, study for my grad school stuff, and don't enjoy the bars a whole lot. I go out with some friends a couple weekends a month, but picking up girls at bars is just getting old and isn't my thing. These seem like excuses, but I honestly don't have a good route to go to for finding gf material women. The city I live in is...uhhh...very hippy friendly and not many people around my age.

Your analogy for comparing relational dating to money lending was seemingly...non-relative, but good effort I suppose.

[R2-D2]

meeting girls is easy.. bars, coffee shops, lunch places, get togethers with friends (mutual friends), churches, on and on..

what I'm amazed at is my inability to make guy friends right now. I moved up 3 hours away from where I went to college to start a new job in July, and I've been hanging out with family friends who are in their 30's, as well as an even older couple (albeit crazier) who are the aunt and uncle of my good friend from back in the day. everyone moved out of the suburbs for grad school or employment out on the coast! no one ever told me I'd go off and none of my friends would be around. next year, a few of my friends will be in the city after getting their masters, so that will make things easy. but for now, wtf

[k00leo]

Mr. Familiar,

It seems like you are a little too... serious. You're wanting to jump into something you don't even have. Which would be a strong base to build on. You need to build that base whether it be by facebook or texts. That takes time. Relationships cant have time restraints, they just kinda happen. No one likes to be pressured into something.

Something i've learned over the recent months, the person who gives less ****s, simply wins. You're not going to win with women if you place all you're time and energy in them. Just let things happen, go with the flow. Talk to multiple women, let the moment take you two wherever it takes you.

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by k00leo

Mr. Familiar,

It seems like you are a little too... serious. You're wanting to jump into something you don't even have. Which would be a strong base to build on. You need to build that base whether it be by facebook or texts. That takes time. Relationships cant have time restraints, they just kinda happen. No one likes to be pressured into something.

Something i've learned over the recent months, the person who gives less ****s, simply wins. You're not going to win with women if you place all you're time and energy in them. Just let things happen, go with the flow. Talk to multiple women, let the moment take you two wherever it takes you.

Yeah, that makes sense; I'm a serious person, and that's why I came in here, because I needed help/guidance on building that base. I was joking on the time constraint thing.

Yes, I learned that same lesson with my last relationship, but I'm trying to essentially make the first move and get the ball rolling. That's the guys job, right?

[DaytonLax14]

So one of my friends who is a girl is coming up from college this weekend and bringing a couple of friends with her, one of which is attractive and I was told she things I'm attractive. She sent me a friend request on FB a couple of days ago and I habitually just clicked accept without realizing who it was. Plan is for the whole group to go to a bar/country dance club saturday night.

Tips for seducing this girl? Should I small talk with her on FB and then get her number, or just not do anything until this weekend? I only have one night to make something happen. I know there is going to be another guy in our group who also wants to get with her, so I suppose it's become a competition, as stupid as that is.


Thanks in advance fellas.

[Watermelondrea]

just get drunk, let the beer do the talking.

[Rampager2000]

Man, I'm not sure how I feel about this.

Cute girl in lab/bio has been EXTREMELY flirty the past few weeks. I capiitalized about a week ago and we kind of joked/made plans to start working out together.

So we're going tomorrow to register for gym memberships and start that.

Anyone ever done this? Commentary on how it works? She's major cute, and major flirty and showing all the right signs and accepting the moves back. But she does have a boyfriend, hardly acts like it though. Not sure how to tread here. Something I've never done, which I love and hate at the same time.

[SUR3]

Ugh, every time I went to the gym with Jordyn she'd go do her think and I'd do mine. Don't be that weird *** that follows a girl around and tries to flirt hard at the gym.

[Rampager2000]

Well we have a friendly competition of whoever "wins" the first workout buys the other dinner so that'll be together at least. It was originally proposed as helping each other get back in shape and being the inspiration. I'm just not sure how to go about it. It IS a small gym, though. And I think she's wanting to work together?

I'm enjoying the chase on this one I already know it. **** I really hope she doesn't crumble anytime soon. It's been a while since I've actually had fun with a girl and she didn't just fall apart. Girls around here are too ****ing easy.

[the beaner of ny]

I need some advice here.
So Ive been with my girl for almost a year now, we both started college this semester and I'm not sure whats been going on lately but the distance or something is tearing us apart. Granted we both have busy schedules as we both have 17 credits and both play varsity sports at our colleges ( I play football and shes a cheerleader). We barely talk anymore, maybe a few texts a day and a phone call every 3 or so days. Ive seen her twice since I have gotten to camp 2 months ago.
Now everything seems to be changing at a very fast rate. When she is at college there are constantly pictures she posts with random guys every weekend but thats not what bothers me, its the fact that there are 2 in particular. One guy is her ex that she was with for a long time a couple years ago, and another is this new guy who is a football player. He came from the same school as one of my best friends here who also plays, he told me after the first night this happened ( when the two still kept in contact ) that his friend had an attraction to my girl. Im not overly insecure but that on top of the way she acts has been getting to me like crazy. She doesnt seem as affectionate anymore, she doesnt look at me the same if that makes any sense to you guys. Im stressing over this. what do?

[Rampager2000]

Man, I hate to say it because you seem like a nice, confident guy, but she's probably cheating on you dude. Just being straight.

But, there is a plus side. You're a ****ing college football player! You've gotta be attractive, strong, confident. Believe me, no matter the final verdict, you'll be fine man. If you need help with some of it, a guy we helped named Danny was a college football player gone bad who could maybe give you some advice on how to do college and football and partying and all that. I'd assume it's a bit different for you guys?

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by DaytonLax14

So one of my friends who is a girl is coming up from college this weekend and bringing a couple of friends with her, one of which is attractive and I was told she things I'm attractive. She sent me a friend request on FB a couple of days ago and I habitually just clicked accept without realizing who it was. Plan is for the whole group to go to a bar/country dance club saturday night.

Tips for seducing this girl? Should I small talk with her on FB and then get her number, or just not do anything until this weekend? I only have one night to make something happen. I know there is going to be another guy in our group who also wants to get with her, so I suppose it's become a competition, as stupid as that is.


Thanks in advance fellas.

Seems like you are pretty much free to do whatever you want. As long as you don't get sloppy drunk and make an idiot of yourself, you pretty much already won.

[frankie says chillax]

liquor drunk > beer drunk.

i always do **** i regret on beer drunk.

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by the beaner of ny

I need some advice here.
So Ive been with my girl for almost a year now, we both started college this semester and I'm not sure whats been going on lately but the distance or something is tearing us apart. Granted we both have busy schedules as we both have 17 credits and both play varsity sports at our colleges ( I play football and shes a cheerleader). We barely talk anymore, maybe a few texts a day and a phone call every 3 or so days. Ive seen her twice since I have gotten to camp 2 months ago.
Now everything seems to be changing at a very fast rate. When she is at college there are constantly pictures she posts with random guys every weekend but thats not what bothers me, its the fact that there are 2 in particular. One guy is her ex that she was with for a long time a couple years ago, and another is this new guy who is a football player. He came from the same school as one of my best friends here who also plays, he told me after the first night this happened ( when the two still kept in contact ) that his friend had an attraction to my girl. Im not overly insecure but that on top of the way she acts has been getting to me like crazy. She doesnt seem as affectionate anymore, she doesnt look at me the same if that makes any sense to you guys. Im stressing over this. what do?

Do you want to continue dating her? If so, take her on a date... Screw the pictures she put up. Make her realize why she's decided to be with you over the last year. Be the man. If she is a ***** about it, then move onto the next great chapter in your life... College.

[BoscoTheClown]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Yeah, that makes sense; I'm a serious person, and that's why I came in here, because I needed help/guidance on building that base. I was joking on the time constraint thing.

Yes, I learned that same lesson with my last relationship, but I'm trying to essentially make the first move and get the ball rolling. That's the guys job, right?

If you are located where I think you are located then a good middle ground place would be the Tacoma Dome, they always have conventions and other stuff there. Or take her to a sounders game, a little bit further north but hey you have some entertainment if the "date" doesn't work out.

[DaytonLax14]

Originally Posted by the beaner of ny

I need some advice here.
So Ive been with my girl for almost a year now, we both started college this semester and I'm not sure whats been going on lately but the distance or something is tearing us apart. Granted we both have busy schedules as we both have 17 credits and both play varsity sports at our colleges ( I play football and shes a cheerleader). We barely talk anymore, maybe a few texts a day and a phone call every 3 or so days. Ive seen her twice since I have gotten to camp 2 months ago.
Now everything seems to be changing at a very fast rate. When she is at college there are constantly pictures she posts with random guys every weekend but thats not what bothers me, its the fact that there are 2 in particular. One guy is her ex that she was with for a long time a couple years ago, and another is this new guy who is a football player. He came from the same school as one of my best friends here who also plays, he told me after the first night this happened ( when the two still kept in contact ) that his friend had an attraction to my girl. Im not overly insecure but that on top of the way she acts has been getting to me like crazy. She doesnt seem as affectionate anymore, she doesnt look at me the same if that makes any sense to you guys. Im stressing over this. what do?

I dated a chick for ten months then went to college. it was real good for a while but then she started "slipping away" like what you have described. I tried to hang on and **** but it just didn't work in the end. I found out she had cheated on me, and your girl probably is cheating on you. If I were you I would (and this is what I did NOT do) talk to her and tell her your concerns and then if it goes on, then break up with her. You don't deserve that ****.

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Seems like you are pretty much free to do whatever you want. As long as you don't get sloppy drunk and make an idiot of yourself, you pretty much already won.

Sounds good. Do you think I should start flirting with her over facebook/text? Or just wait till this weekend?

[R2-D2]

Originally Posted by the beaner of ny

I need some advice here.
So Ive been with my girl for almost a year now, we both started college this semester and I'm not sure whats been going on lately but the distance or something is tearing us apart. Granted we both have busy schedules as we both have 17 credits and both play varsity sports at our colleges ( I play football and shes a cheerleader). We barely talk anymore, maybe a few texts a day and a phone call every 3 or so days. Ive seen her twice since I have gotten to camp 2 months ago.
Now everything seems to be changing at a very fast rate. When she is at college there are constantly pictures she posts with random guys every weekend but thats not what bothers me, its the fact that there are 2 in particular. One guy is her ex that she was with for a long time a couple years ago, and another is this new guy who is a football player. He came from the same school as one of my best friends here who also plays, he told me after the first night this happened ( when the two still kept in contact ) that his friend had an attraction to my girl. Im not overly insecure but that on top of the way she acts has been getting to me like crazy. She doesnt seem as affectionate anymore, she doesnt look at me the same if that makes any sense to you guys. Im stressing over this. what do?

Bro this is bad news 101. There's really no play other than breakup as soon as you're able to. She's either already cheating physically, or she's emotionally cheating. She's already moving on from you emotionally before it's official. No freeze out, sweet talk, fighting for her, blah blah blah is going to fix this. Time to move on. The good news, like others said, is you'll have the opportunity to upgrade in quantity of women, or quality of women.. your choice. There are letter chasers all over campus, (many of them hot), that would **** any walk-on football player just to tell their friends they banged an athlete. Many hot girls can't wait to tell mommy and daddy that their boyfriend is a football player (Liek, omg!!1!), so live that up for awhile on the rebound.

Originally Posted by DaytonLax14

Sounds good. Do you think I should start flirting with her over facebook/text? Or just wait till this weekend?

If I were you I might drop a text to her once or twice this week to keep her mind on you, but nothing overly flirty. I'd avoid the facebook stuff altogether. Sounds like you won't have an issue closing the deal in one alcohol-infused night with this chick.. you may have to seriously creep her out to **** this one up.

[Strange1130]

hm, had a date last night and the girl rescheduled at the last minute. met her last thursday, she was definitely feeling it, called her sunday night and asked her to dinner and she seemed excited about it. But last night I got to the place, called her, and she didn't answer, then ten minutes later texted me "hey sorry I got really tied up in something and I'm still stuck in bushwick. Reschedule to Friday? So sorry!" Obviously my pessimistic self doesn't believe ****. Guess we'll see what happens on Friday, I left the ball in her court by saying "yeah sure, text me friday I'm not sure when I'll be working til."