[alex456]

yeah i looked, apparently he deleted his facebook but hopefully he still lurks around here.

[shiboboo]

Send him a pm? Perhaps he gets email notifications when he receives a pm?

[aieou]

Do you guys usually try to exchange names at the beginning of the conversation, or more towards then end? Or do you wait for that awkward moment when you are swapping names&numbers at the same time?? Which has been more successful for you?!

[Rampager2000]

Uhh, you want the name early so you can say it again a few times to be sure you have it down and be more personable. However, if it was awkwardly placed then you can stop yourself at one point and just say, "By the way, I'm Mr. ******."

Think of a car salesman. A good one, rather. He will memorize your name and be sure to call you by it whenever he can. "Okay Riley, let's go look at this car." "How'd you like the car, Riley?" "Lemme ask my boss what I can do, Riley."

It's all about connecting, and chicks dig the idea that a guy can listen to them. It's like, if buying a small gift, think of something small she said once and get that. She will adore it.

[bubbleboy016]

For me, I rarely ask for names/numbers except for in a professional setting. I talk to every new person like I already know them and I don't ask people I already know for their names/number at any set time in a conversation. Whenever I see a decent opportunity to ask for a number, I'll take it. IE: The girl from last night, I didn't end up "asking" for her number until she was writing something for me.

M: Is the DMV also here?
H: No, do you know where <some neighborhood> is?
N: No I don't, I'm still kind of new to the area. If you can, write down the address... along with your number

[aieou]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

Think of a car salesman. A good one, rather. He will memorize your name and be sure to call you by it whenever he can.

It's all about connecting, and chicks dig the idea that a guy can listen to them.

If someone listens to a girl very genuinely, and is actually interested in what she says, are the names that important at the beginning of a conversation as you presume? Or could be getting it later after showing enthusiastic interest be just as effective?

Originally Posted by bubbleboy016

For me, I rarely ask for names/numbers except for in a professional setting. I talk to every new person like I already know them and I don't ask people I already know for their names/number at any set time in a conversation. Whenever I see a decent opportunity to ask for a number, I'll take it. IE: The girl from last night, I didn't end up "asking" for her number until she was writing something for me.

M: Is the DMV also here?
H: No, do you know where <some neighborhood> is?
N: No I don't, I'm still kind of new to the area. If you can, write down the address... along with your number

That is what I do. The power of a command is much more effective, from my experience, versus Rampager's tactic to get a girl's name and sell the fact that he appears semi interested in them just because he knows their name. That doesn't seem too sincere to me.

[bubbleboy016]

Originally Posted by Rampager2000

Uhh, you want the name early so you can say it again a few times to be sure you have it down and be more personable. However, if it was awkwardly placed then you can stop yourself at one point and just say, "By the way, I'm Mr. ******."

Think of a car salesman. A good one, rather. He will memorize your name and be sure to call you by it whenever he can. "Okay Riley, let's go look at this car." "How'd you like the car, Riley?" "Lemme ask my boss what I can do, Riley."

It's all about connecting, and chicks dig the idea that a guy can listen to them. It's like, if buying a small gift, think of something small she said once and get that. She will adore it.

Double-edged, yeah it's a good method for memorizing names... But think about it, car salesmen, and sales people in general, do this because they meet/greet so many potential clients per day it's their way of forcing the image of a personal bond when it's still purely about business. Do you really want to project the salesman image when you're trying to attract a girl?

In most situations that I can think of, I'll use a girls name max of two times in an entire, initial conversation. Once when she says it, if I need to, I'll repeat it to make sure I'm pronouncing it correctly. Then i'll return the greeting with my name, and then continue on with the conversation like it never happened. Then secondly, and always, when I'm done talking to her. That was something I picked up from some book I read a long time ago. Something about the most flattering word for people to hear is their own name and when combined with the idea that first/last impressions are the most important, using their name as the last thing you say to them can leave a good memory. This has an even better effect if she introduces herself early in the conversation and you rarely use her name and then when you're parting ways, you use her name as you say good bye. That shows more than anything that you are a good listener, she told you once before the entire conversation and you remembered it. Not that you memorized her name because you used it more often.

[alex456]

whenever is fine as long as its not right when you leave, because then she will feel like "this guy came to get my number and left when he got it" it make you look like every other guy and she will think that however long it took you to ask makes you a vagina.

[davidtory66]

A pic from my phone would save me money

[Rampager2000]

Honestly, it doesn't matter if you get name or not. The way you talk or hold yourself will dictate how the conversation goes.

I sometimes do, sometimes don't. I'm horrible with names so I tend to not ask.

[alex456]

Was talking about number not names.

Come on brahs gimme some info about Germany. I'm leaving for munich in 14 days.

[james bond 007]

oktoberfest?

[fock0]

Bands will make her dance. All these chicks popping *****, i'm just popping bands.

[alex456]

Originally Posted by james bond 007

oktoberfest?

Sadly I'm going to miss oktoberfest, it starts in september and ends in early october.

[Watermelondrea]

Originally Posted by aieou

Do you guys usually try to exchange names at the beginning of the conversation, or more towards then end? Or do you wait for that awkward moment when you are swapping names&numbers at the same time?? Which has been more successful for you?!

whenever you feel necessary. usually, if i open a conversation with a girl and it starts to go somewhere, i'll introduce myself.

not always, though... example;

i was walking back from the d-hall with a buddy just a minute ago and ran into a buddy of mine smokin' a bog with a few girls - one from italy, one from toronto (found out tonight). i have run into these two girls before in the same circumstance, and actually had lunch with both of them yesterday, but i haven't formally introduced myself.

long story short, i killed my bog with them, and as my buddy and i left, my buddy chilling with the girls said "i'll see ya tomorrow, ____." as soon as i was walking away i heard the hot toronto chick say, "ohh, so his name is ____!"

now she knows my name, we've know who each other are (i don't remember her name), and she's the type of girl i go after, so i'ma take my chances next time i see her.
i didn't have to introduce myself.

i'm drunk because of this debate, so what i just said might make no sense.

[DaytonLax14]

I went out with this chick a couple of times and haven't talked to her in a couple of weeks. She just texted "so when are you taking me out again?"

My reply: "well i'm mighty busy but I'll see if I can fit you into my schedule "

[p-ballplaya1440]

Hanging out with a girl this weekend for the first time since my girlfriend broke up with me. I'm not expecting much to come of it, but I think it'll just be good for me to do since I need to get back out there. She's Asian, and I love me some Asian girls.

[Volumes]

Originally Posted by p-ballplaya1440

Hanging out with a girl this weekend for the first time since my girlfriend broke up with me. I'm not expecting much to come of it, but I think it'll just be good for me to do since I need to get back out there. She's Asian, and I love me some Asian girls.

Got my yellow belt about a month ago, it was awesome. Good luck sir

[Mr.Familiar]

Originally Posted by DaytonLax14

I went out with this chick a couple of times and haven't talked to her in a couple of weeks. She just texted "so when are you taking me out again?"

My reply: "well i'm mighty busy but I'll see if I can fit you into my schedule "

Not bad but since she is clearly interested, make more of a joke out of it.

"Well I'm extremely busy this week, between homework, spelunking, pilot lessons, and volunteering at the animal shelter for disabled puppies. But we can snag some ice cream on this day at this time."

[DaytonLax14]

Originally Posted by Mr.Familiar

Not bad but since she is clearly interested, make more of a joke out of it.

"Well I'm extremely busy this week, between homework, spelunking, pilot lessons, and volunteering at the animal shelter for disabled puppies. But we can snag some ice cream on this day at this time."

Good advice

Going to the movies with a new chick tomorrow night

[aieou]

"You can't be the answer to someone's prayers until you know what they are praying for."

Amazing quote from a friend tonight.