[Bobeo]

Hey, give me your read on this situation. Not a problem at all, just want opinions.

This girl who I have been gaming was talking to me in class yesterday along with a couple other people. We usually have a good 1/2 hour at the end of the day to just chill in this class.

Anyways, the subject of parties comes up. I always bust this girl because she doesn;'t like going to parties thrown by kids from our school. She says they are boring, etc. I always joke with her about it- her being anti-social and whatnot.

Anyways, for whatever reason she starts talking about how she loves to go to parties because she loves making out. Now, I am pretty sure this girl is into me, but that isn't the point. Who the **** starts talking about how much they love to make out with random guys at parties?

Thinking about it now, I think it might've been a way to demonstrate higher value to me, saying that she is attractive enough for this to happen. Often times she will tell me that she can't wait to go on vacation or whereever because there will be so many hot guys.

Anyways, I simply sat there as she was saying this thinking: what the **** is this? If this is her game, how does my game sound? Do I sound like such a jackass? I hope not.

It this was her game, it had the completely wrong effect. It got me a little pissed off (I get jealous easily- not her fault at all) and it made her sound sort of ****ty. Sure, I am all for making out with random people, but I have a double standard. Guys can do it, girls can't. I don't care how unfair it is. And then at least be discreet about it.

Oh well. Just thought I'd share. I am still attracted to her but I was just think what the **** is up with this.

OK, new story. Today, while getting my haircut, the stylist named Carrie cut my hair. I would consider her an 8. Great face, short black hair, a little too thin but no one is perfect. I would consider her an 8. Anyways, I could've swore she was flirting with me. I of course flirted back. It was pretty fun, actually, sitting there thinking/knowing that she was attracted to me enough to flirt. An ego boost I guess.

Anyways, call me a ***** if you will, but I don't make any kind of close at all. I talked myself out of it. The main thing was I am a senior in highschool, age 18. This girl must've been 21-22. Why would she want to give me her phone number? Flirting is one thing. Giving a number is another all together.

Also, I realized that these people work for tips. While this was more of an excuse than a legit reason to not make a move, it is true. I don't really believe it though.

Well, I guess you can say that I still have a long way to go, a very long way, but I feel that I can now be comsidered at least a reformed average frustrated chump.

EDIT: HOLY ****! I need to lay off the "enter" key. Sorry fellas

[|Simplicity|]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

Hey, give me your read on this situation. Not a problem at all, just want opinions.

This girl who I have been gaming was talking to me in class yesterday along with a couple other people. We usually have a good 1/2 hour at the end of the day to just chill in this class.

Anyways, the subject of parties comes up. I always bust this girl because she doesn;'t like going to parties thrown by kids from our school. She says they are boring, etc. I always joke with her about it- her being anti-social and whatnot.

Anyways, for whatever reason she starts talking about how she loves to go to parties because she loves making out. Now, I am pretty sure this girl is into me, but that isn't the point. Who the **** starts talking about how much they love to make out with random guys at parties?

Thinking about it now, I think it might've been a way to demonstrate higher value to me, saying that she is attractive enough for this to happen. Often times she will tell me that she can't wait to go on vacation or whereever because there will be so many hot guys.

Anyways, I simply sat there as she was saying this thinking: what the **** is this? If this is her game, how does my game sound? Do I sound like such a jackass? I hope not.

It this was her game, it had the completely wrong effect. It got me a little pissed off (I get jealous easily- not her fault at all) and it made her sound sort of ****ty. Sure, I am all for making out with random people, but I have a double standard. Guys can do it, girls can't. I don't care how unfair it is. And then at least be discreet about it.

Oh well. Just thought I'd share. I am still attracted to her but I was just think what the **** is up with this.

OK, new story. Today, while getting my haircut, the stylist named Carrie cut my hair. I would consider her an 8. Great face, short black hair, a little too thin but no one is perfect. I would consider her an 8. Anyways, I could've swore she was flirting with me. I of course flirted back. It was pretty fun, actually, sitting there thinking/knowing that she was attracted to me enough to flirt. An ego boost I guess.

Anyways, call me a ***** if you will, but I don't make any kind of close at all. I talked myself out of it. The main thing was I am a senior in highschool, age 18. This girl must've been 21-22. Why would she want to give me her phone number? Flirting is one thing. Giving a number is another all together.

Also, I realized that these people work for tips. While this was more of an excuse than a legit reason to not make a move, it is true. I don't really believe it though.

Well, I guess you can say that I still have a long way to go, a very long way, but I feel that I can now be comsidered at least a reformed average frustrated chump.

EDIT: HOLY ****! I need to lay off the "enter" key. Sorry fellas

I believe, just by reading this, and not knowing your game, that she is a ****, and that she is trying to get you to feel like you can take advantage of her, and then she might pull away and say no. Therefore leaving you in 'What the ****' phase.
As for the second one, as long as shes your 8-10 area, i'd take the number, and wait maybe a week to a month to call her. I like to play games with myself to see how long i can go without calling a girl. Its really personal preferance, but i wait awhile because i feel like im desperate if i do it same day. Sometimes i forget to call them entirely, which makes me wanna go grab my phone and call one of them now!

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by |Simplicity|

I believe, just by reading this, and not knowing your game, that she is a ****, and that she is trying to get you to feel like you can take advantage of her, and then she might pull away and say no. Therefore leaving you in 'What the ****' phase.
As for the second one, as long as shes your 8-10 area, i'd take the number, and wait maybe a week to a month to call her. I like to play games with myself to see how long i can go without calling a girl. Its really personal preferance, but i wait awhile because i feel like im desperate if i do it same day. Sometimes i forget to call them entirely, which makes me wanna go grab my phone and call one of them now!

As much as I hate to say it, that girl had given me the impression that she is a **** as well. Except that she doesn't drink/smoke/have sex. So I don't knoiw. I just think she was talking to make herself look cool but whatever.

As to the second girl, you would've taken her phone number? The jump from 18 years old to 21-22 is pretty big. Highschool to college. I'll admit it. Her age intimidated me. Big time. I wish I had the balls to ask her, but unfortunately I am not quite there yet. Yet

EDIT: Another thing I noticed. Simplicity, do you pick up on other guys trying to flirt with girls more now? I get it so much more now in my school. A guy will be talking to a girl and I can just tell that he is trying to get with this girl. So often now I will catch myself thinking that this guy is such a tool with the things he is saying, how hopelessly lost he is. And then I remember that I used to sound like that. It sort of feels good.

Like I will be in a group of people. Guy A and Girl B will begin talking. Guy starts flirting. I start sayng in my head what he should've done/said, what he shouldn't have, etc.

[|Simplicity|]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

As much as I hate to say it, that girl had given me the impression that she is a **** as well. Except that she doesn't drink/smoke/have sex. So I don't knoiw. I just think she was talking to make herself look cool but whatever.

As to the second girl, you would've taken her phone number? The jump from 18 years old to 21-22 is pretty big. Highschool to college. I'll admit it. Her age intimidated me. Big time. I wish I had the balls to ask her, but unfortunately I am not quite there yet. Yet

Well. She probably is trying to sound cool but she sounds like a wanna be **** as well.
and...
Hahaha, deffinately yet. I;ve been with a college chick a few weeks ago and theres nothing like watching her reaction once you tell her your 17. So yes, i would've taken her phone number, age difference isnt much of a restraint on me unless they have saggy *** and tits. I love older women.

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by |Simplicity|

Well. She probably is trying to sound cool but she sounds like a wanna be **** as well.
and...
Hahaha, deffinately yet. I;ve been with a college chick a few weeks ago and theres nothing like watching her reaction once you tell her your 17. So yes, i would've taken her phone number, age difference isnt much of a restraint on me unless they have saggy *** and tits. I love older women.

See it might not have been so bad, but she new that I was in highschool. She asked me what school I went to (I had a feeling she thought I was in college) and she seemed a little stunned when I told her the highschool in our area. Oh well. She would've been fun. But there will be others.

[fireisgood4u]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

EDIT: Another thing I noticed. Simplicity, do you pick up on other guys trying to flirt with girls more now? I get it so much more now in my school. A guy will be talking to a girl and I can just tell that he is trying to get with this girl. So often now I will catch myself thinking that this guy is such a tool with the things he is saying, how hopelessly lost he is. And then I remember that I used to sound like that. It sort of feels good.

Like I will be in a group of people. Guy A and Girl B will begin talking. Guy starts flirting. I start sayng in my head what he should've done/said, what he shouldn't have, etc.

Yeah I find that too. It's quite amusing. Also I can spot AFC's a mile away now...

[|Simplicity|]

Originally Posted by fireisgood4u

Yeah I find that too. It's quite amusing. Also I can spot AFC's a mile away now...

Yeah its quite satisfactory.

EDIT: Another thing I noticed. Simplicity, do you pick up on other guys trying to flirt with girls more now? I get it so much more now in my school. A guy will be talking to a girl and I can just tell that he is trying to get with this girl. So often now I will catch myself thinking that this guy is such a tool with the things he is saying, how hopelessly lost he is. And then I remember that I used to sound like that. It sort of feels good.

Like I will be in a group of people. Guy A and Girl B will begin talking. Guy starts flirting. I start sayng in my head what he should've done/said, what he shouldn't have, etc.

And another thing i notice, is when the girl starts to get into it and i have to break it up

[fireisgood4u]

Anyone got any quick quirky amusing pickup lines for a movie theatre? I've got a few ideas...

[P8ntLife189]

Ok i need help ASAP

this chick from my school, has a bf, but we both kinda have a thing for eachother, and she txt's me and says, her bf dumped her, how in gods name do i handle this

[Jae.C]

I need advice on "opening" a girl. This girl is really shy. She does keep up a good conversation with people she does know, though.

Also last night her (K), J, M, R, H, and me were at a friends house. M was flirting with her kind of going against what he said to me (that he wouldn't). Even though he did do that, he is my good friend and after me and him had a talk (I was sleeping over at his house, my house is 45 minutes away) and he said he felt really bad, even his sister agreed with me that what he had done was wrong. Well since he was doing that, I was flirting with J.

Should I have not done that? (EDIT: To make this more clear, should I have flirted with her friend?)

By the way, were (all of us) are hanging out again on friday... So, I'm going to try and game on her (K) that night.

EDIT: Sorry, I have a bad (very bad, I go off-topic on english papers! ) problem with not telling the story of what happened.

[12345421]

Originally Posted by Jae.C

I need advice on "opening" a girl. This girl is really shy. She does keep up a good conversation with people she does know, though.

Also last night her (K), J, M, R, H, and me were at a friends house. M was flirting with her kind of going against what he said to me (that he wouldn't). Even though he did do that, he is my good friend and after me and him had a talk (I was sleeping over at his house, my house is 45 minutes away) and he said he felt really bad, even his sister agreed with me that what he had done was wrong. Well since he was doing that, I was flirting with J.

Should I have not done that?

By the way, were (all of us) are hanging out again on friday... So, I'm going to try and game on her (K) that night.

EDIT: Sorry, I have a bad (very bad, I go off-topic on english papers! ) problem with not telling the story of what happened.

You can't tell your friend not to flirt with a certain girl when you yourself are not flirting with her. To me, I believe you were in the wrong.

[Jae.C]

Originally Posted by 12345421

You can't tell your friend not to flirt with a certain girl when you yourself are not flirting with her. To me, I believe you were in the wrong.

Thats not what I was asking. Of course I can't, the reason why I wasn't flirting with her was because he was. So, I had a "substitute" for the night.

[12345421]

Originally Posted by Jae.C

Thats not what I was asking. Of course I can't, the reason why I wasn't flirting with her was because he was. So, I had a "substitute" for the night.

Oh, ok then.

[twb]

Same girl as previous post

First off this is a horrible case of one itis.

Well it has been a while and she is still with that other David guy. She still messes with me in class and what not, but nothing more. I really want to be with her I don't even know what it is about her anymore, but some thing she has done has me hooked. Thing is I can't figure out if she still likes me (know bleached said she may have some lingering feelings, but I can't believe that they could last this long). I just wish there was a way to understand how she feels, she sends so many mixed signals I can't tell anymore. I have almost came out and told her, but then I would read this thread and bleached's posts about not revealing too much and say to myself "not a good idea" I think it was just my way of chickening out. I don't really want to keep rambling so I guess what I really want to know is should I just move on and except that it is never going to happen? Is it that wrong to tell her how I feel? Would the best way to find out how she feels just to make a move(this is the hardest because I rarely see her out of class alone)?

To all of you who help in this thread, it is very nice. You guys help out a lot of people like myself.
Thank you

[Jae.C]

Originally Posted by 12345421

Oh, ok then.

Sorry about the misunderstanding. Also, I forgot a part out and remembered it when I was taking a shower (...for fun. Boring Saturday nights ). I actually did flirt with her, with a bit of kino.

[Jae.C]

Originally Posted by twb

Same girl as previous post

First off this is a horrible case of one itis.

Well it has been a while and she is still with that other David guy. She still messes with me in class and what not, but nothing more. I really want to be with her I don't even know what it is about her anymore, but some thing she has done has me hooked. Thing is I can't figure out if she still likes me (know bleached said she may have some lingering feelings, but I can't believe that they could last this long). I just wish there was a way to understand how she feels, she sends so many mixed signals I can't tell anymore. I have almost came out and told her, but then I would read this thread and bleached's posts about not revealing too much and say to myself "not a good idea" I think it was just my way of chickening out. I don't really want to keep rambling so I guess what I really want to know is should I just move on and except that it is never going to happen? Is it that wrong to tell her how I feel? Would the best way to find out how she feels just to make a move(this is the hardest because I rarely see her out of class alone)?

To all of you who help in this thread, it is very nice. You guys help out a lot of people like myself.
Thank you

You COULD write down everything she says to you, her attitude as she says it, and I can "translate" it for you, for this time.. But you are going to need to learn to speak the "language".

Recently, I had onitis, but I got over it and have seen how much better my life is. It is indeed hard, but it is easier than you think it is! Good luck.

[PaInTbAlLFrEaK17 (Banned)]

did anyone go through HS just not.knowing.girls? I'm friendly with two that're friends but it'd be weird to call either to liek hang out...I'm not good enough friends with any girls

[dplick28]

Originally Posted by PaInTbAlLFrEaK17

did anyone go through HS just not.knowing.girls? I'm friendly with two that're friends but it'd be weird to call either to liek hang out...I'm not good enough friends with any girls

Yea i was that way. Now im in college and that has all changed. I was always shy around girls when i was in high school thats why I didnt have many friends that were girls. Dont worry about it, its only high school trust me things will get much better.

[P8ntLife189]

Originally Posted by PaInTbAlLFrEaK17

did anyone go through HS just not.knowing.girls? I'm friendly with two that're friends but it'd be weird to call either to liek hang out...I'm not good enough friends with any girls

not me, i have alot of friends that are girls...it has its pros an cons

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by moo_moo_face

i dont know if this has been asked or not, but anyway:

my girlfreind is real good girl type. shes 17 and a virgin. i wanna change that.
on dec. 2nd im goin to my schools winter formal with her. any ideas on how to get laid then? besides alchohol, cus she wont drink

Go back a few pages and read my post on one night stands. It's pretty much the same as that with a few twists.

Originally Posted by twb

Well it has been a while and she is still with that other David guy. She still messes with me in class and what not, but nothing more. I really want to be with her I don't even know what it is about her anymore, but some thing she has done has me hooked. Thing is I can't figure out if she still likes me (know bleached said she may have some lingering feelings, but I can't believe that they could last this long). I just wish there was a way to understand how she feels, she sends so many mixed signals I can't tell anymore. I have almost came out and told her, but then I would read this thread and bleached's posts about not revealing too much and say to myself "not a good idea" I think it was just my way of chickening out. I don't really want to keep rambling so I guess what I really want to know is should I just move on and except that it is never going to happen? Is it that wrong to tell her how I feel? Would the best way to find out how she feels just to make a move(this is the hardest because I rarely see her out of class alone)?

To all of you who help in this thread, it is very nice. You guys help out a lot of people like myself.
Thank you

Originally Posted by 12345421

I was out with my friends tonight and coming home we were all packed into my friends 93' Lincoln Towncar (it's 19 feet long, lol) and there were six of us. I was in the passenger seat with this girl beside me and my friend driving with my other friends in the back. Now this girl seemed to be throwing out hints, but I'm not sure. She gave me a few close hugs sometimes, but since I had no clue on how to interpret this, I made no move.

So what I am asking is what are some good strong hints that a girl makes that gives the guy the go ahead...

And hypothetically speaking, if I had made a move in the car, and we started making out/groping or something, would it have been inappropriate in my friends car, in the front seat, while he is driving?

Originally Posted by P8ntLife189

While on this note, what are some hints that girls typically give that are like the go ahead ya know? From you most experienced playas

Originally Posted by Makaveli92

I really love this girl, but I can't tell if she is shallow or not because I haven't got to know her that much. We talk every day and we're good friends but I'm afraid of rejection. How can I tell if she has interest? I doubt she does, but how can I get her to see that personality is more important than looks (if she is shallow, I'm not sure if she is or not)?

God you guys are killing me here. Okay i've said it once i'm going to say it a million more times SIGNS DONT MATTER. But i'll talk about them anyway to put all your minds at ease.

Reading a woman's actions is exactly like a poker game. But women are pro's at this game.

Women give off two different kind of signs, intentional signals and subconcious signals. The problem guys have is they want to read the intentional signals. That's why you see so many posts about, "women are so confusing, women are *****es, she lead me on etc etc!" You guys are trying to read the signals that women intentionally throw out there. But some women just like to flirt. Hell i do the exact same thing to a girl. I'll flirt and lead her on all night and then go home with someone else. The reason she's doing it may just be her confidence booster... and she may have no true interest in you. These signals are all the things you expect from typical flirting. On the other hand she may really like and be trying to show you it... but you never know. Just like in a poker game, your opponent may throw out false signs to make you think he or she is bluffing.

The trick is to read the subconcious signals. Here's the bad news. Reading a persons subconcious signals is a bit of a "6th sence." It's not something i can teach you guys. If you truly want to learn about it, it's a very intense thing. It requires talking to alot of people and constantly reading people. You have to be able to read a person like a book. When i talk to a woman i watch her eye movement, i watch her breathing pattern and her body movements. I ignore the stuff that i can tell she's doing intentionally and i look for the things she doesn't even realize she's doing. But just like in poker, every person is different. You have to put a read on the person and even then you will never be 100% sure. This is what seperates the men from the boys. The boys say, "oh i'm not sure if she likes me." and backs off. The men say, "screw it, let's see where this goes!"

Okay now here's the good news... in the end it doesn't really matter whether or not you can read a woman's subconcious because it shouldn't effect your actions. If i can clearly see that she's interested all that means is that i can put it on auto-pilot and cruise on through the night. If i can see that she's not interested that only means i haven't hooked her yet and need to stay on my toes. NOTICE THAT NO MATTER WHAT THE READ THAT DOESN'T MEAN I SAY, WELL SHE'S NOT INTERESTED I'M JUST GOING TO LEAVE NOW. It's either:
a) she's interested, time to take it easy
b) keep going and get to point a) !

THERE IS NO c)!!!!

So next time you're looking for signs, STOP and just ACT... unless you think you truly have the gift of being able to read people.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by P8ntLife189

Disclaimer, the following problem could be labeled as stupid and emo, if you are "that kid" who flames people for **** like this dont read it and just move on, if you think your mature enough not to be a dick than read it, thanks


So I met this girl in July of this year, her names Bianca, I already knew her from 8th grade (im now in 11th) and we were friends, tried going out but she was more mature than i was and it ultimately failed in like a week (yah i knw) but this summer we met up again and hit it off really good, i found out she has a bf, at that time they would have been going out for about 9 months, so im like w/e we'll see where this goes, all in all we basically fell for eachother, but she wouldnt dump the bf, and i got impatient and confronted her one day and basically said, this is really weird for me that you're still with john, but you act like your with me, whats going on, i dont want to be led on, and she freaked out, got pretty mad and that was fight #1, it was all downhill from there. But we stayed really good friends but it was a really weird friendship, cuz it honestly seemed like we were going out, i saw her like every day of the week, she slept over alot, my moms insane and lets her sleep in my room with me, but we had never had sex she refused to do anything more than like 2nd base cause of the bf, now the bf is a total dickhead, he doesnt do anything for her, and treats her like ****, shes his gf when its convenient for him, and she thinks this kids the best thing in the world, also when she started going out with this kid, she just ended an almost 2 year relationship, so the bf (john) was basically a rebound

time passes by, we stay really close, get into a couple more little fights that i just let go because i was scared if i told her how reality is, she'd ditch me and ide lose the chance i still thought i had, the boyfriend has now cheated on her, but i wasnt very sympathetic, considering that she already cheated on him with me, and lies to him weekly saying shes with a friend (insert a girls name) but shes really with me, so i ask her one morning point blank, go out with me, and she says no (continues to kiss me) and i go wait wait why, she replys she doesnt want to mess with our friendship, i go...friends? not many of my friends have me mounted and are kissing me...she couldnt reply, but she basically said no

times passes by its now like last week haha, and her and bf are broken up, and heres why...they got into a fight, he said he couldnt trust her, but they made up, then had sex, and no lie, 10 minutes afterwards, he dumps her, conclusion...yes we all know, this kid used her for sex, and dumped her, she got ****ed over big time, and i was there to pick up the pieces, couple days later he shows up at her house, she calls and tells me, i say...ill be over in 10 minutes, and so i show up, fully wanting to fight this kid, and she comes outside, and tells me to get off her property, i said bianca seriously wat are you doing with yourself, she didnt wanna listen, that night we got into a big fight where i told her how reality is, that her bf is a scum bag who doesnt give a ****, and how shes a cheater and liar, and how sometimes i feel like i cant trust her because of that, and she snapped, we were done talking for a day or so, and i begged her to talk to me, and she forgave me, but she didnt forget, its now like 2 days ago, and she says to me..."im going back to john" and i reply "good luck, see ya round" she calls me swearing at me and **** asking what the **** my problem was, i said hey listen its me or john, im not going to be part of these lies anymore, its not right to anyone involved, she says she only wants to be friends and that i should just be happy with that, i said no, we cant be just friends, i have feelings for you that get in the way of us being friends, it wont work, its me or john, you cant have your cake and eat it to, cause if i went back to the friends thing, it'd be me and her together alot, and she'd just lie to john about what she was doing, i couldnt take it, it was to weird, so i jsut told her straight up, you gotta make a choice, she picked john, so we're done talking,

but i feel like **** right now guys, like did i do anything wrong here? seriously i feel like ****, i feel empty, depressed, confused about whats gunna happen to me, cause honestly i dont know what to do with my life at this point, i dunno shes just some girl yah i know, but i think what im asking you guys is, is this my fault? should i have just stayed her friend? was i wrong in the choice i made? ide give anything right now for her to call me and say i decided your more important to me than john, but i know she wont, it sucks
if you read this whole thing i really gotta hand it to you, thats a **** load of reading right there, so please help me out, thanks


Thanks,
Justin

to the longest girl problem in the history of ST
i always knew ide get the gold for this

Okay to be honest... you ****ed everything to hell UNTIL you said goodbye. That was the right the move! Now i'm not going to go back and critique everything you did before that because it's in the past. If you truly want to know send me a PM and i'll walk you through it. Now i like that you stood up to her! But i would have done it just a little differently. I would have mixed the ultimatum (sp) with a take away. When you say to her, "listen it's me or him," you've pretty much given yourself a 50/50 chance. When you say, "listen, you need to make a decision about this, i don't care what you decide but i'm done playing games. come find me when you get this straigtened out and have made a decision." Now initially she will probably be pissed at you and say, "i choose him!" but then the second you're gone she'll start thinking... and suddenly she'll realize you're gone, and then she's going to want what she can't have. Time is you're ally, and it's her enemy. No time constraint means she has all the time in the world to think about how she made the wrong decision. BUT you can't give her an inch. You would have to refuse to talk to her until she made a solid decision!

So let's talk about what you do next. CUT HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE. This girl is young and like all young women, she's bat s*** crazy! Just don't repeat what you did with this girl. You allowed her to have control of the situation. Best of luck man, it's rough but there will be alot more.

And for future reference, notice how every boyfriend is an "jerk?" But let's be honest, you only know what SHE tells you. I'm sure there's tons of guys out there who think i'm a jerk because i treated some girl like crap... but they only heard her side of the story... they never talked to me about my side of the story did they???

Originally Posted by Blackdog455

how do you stop liking a girl? But still want to be "friends" with her? I mean i still like this girl, but she hurts me emotionally way to much, and i feel as if all she does is ignore me to...ive pretty much had it with her...

You can't be friend while you still have feelings for her. Cut her out of your life for a while, take some time for yourself to get over her and move on. Then try for the friendship.