[Astronomer Sol]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

Okay dude lets get you on the fast track to fixing your problems here. Bobeo is completly right. Confidence is going to be your sole key. Now i know your sitting there thinking, "okay i can't just GET confidence out of the blue" And you're right, you have to work for it CONFIDENCE AND COCKY ARE EARNED, ARROGANCE IS NOT First we have to get to the root of your problem. Lack of confidence is fear. And fear, at it's basic root is simply feeling unprepared to handle a situation. So ask yourself, what about women do you feel unprepared about? You're looks, you're social skills? Narrow it down and work on improving those. There's a simple fix to just about anything... not happy with how you look, you'd be amazed what a new hair cut, a tan and some gym time will do. Not confident with your social skills? Simply practice having improtu conversations with people you don't know.

Okay once you fixed that, don't expect any miracles. you should feel better but you won't magically have gained confidence. there's a leap of faith involved here, you've just narrowed that gap a little to feel the best you possibly can about it. Next, you're just gonna force yourself into situations with women where you're forced to sink or swim. Walk up to a woman and start talking! The first few times you may sink like a rock, but that's the learning curve! KEEP AT IT. Once you've learned to swim, you'll be amazed at the confidence boost. Then keep work on improvment


Let's talk a little about jealousy. IGNORANCE IS BLISS! Don't ask her what she's doing with another guy. You will never get over jealousy until you first stop ACTING jealous. Changing your actions is step one... eventually a change in your actions will lead to a change in your habits which will lead to a change in how you feel!

Besides that, asking her what she did simply makes you look like a tool. It makes you look insecure and inferior.

Could "ah we just hung out" mean something? Yea but anything she said could mean something, "eh not much" could mean something. IT DOESN"T MATTER... because you're not going to prode her for anymore inforation.


Well she wasn't interested before you were friends... and now you're in the friend trap... my advice.. you've made a great new friend, now go look for a girlfriend somewhere else.

OK, thanks.

Does working out help at all? I try not to overdo it, but muscles HAVE developed...

And I'm getting somewhere with one girl I MIGHT have mentioned earlier.

[Blackdog455]

[quote=Let's talk a little about jealousy. IGNORANCE IS BLISS! Don't ask her what she's doing with another guy. You will never get over jealousy until you first stop ACTING jealous. Changing your actions is step one... eventually a change in your actions will lead to a change in your habits which will lead to a change in how you feel!

Besides that, asking her what she did simply makes you look like a tool. It makes you look insecure and inferior.

Could "ah we just hung out" mean something? Yea but anything she said could mean something, "eh not much" could mean something. IT DOESN"T MATTER... because you're not going to prode her for anymore inforation. [/QUOTE]

that makes sence...i should just not worry about it...thanks!

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

Im going to my HS football game tonight with this girl. Im not really sure if she likes me or not. Should I try and make a move or what?

What? why would you not try to make a move????

Originally Posted by Bobeo

Please tell me you got pics or video:eek

I'm sure i'll get someone calling shens on this... i tried my hardest but they were having none of it. Not that i even care about getting you guys the picture as much as I WANTED a picture of it!

They both have boyfriends so there was no way they were letting me get any kind of proof of what happened. Hell i couldn't even pull the covert picture.... yanno where you give her a cumshot on the face and then take a quick picture without the flash because she can't see... but there were 2 of them so that little trick wouldn't even work.

I guess this time ST will have to take me at my word.

Originally Posted by Astronomer Sol

OK, thanks.

Does working out help at all? I try not to overdo it, but muscles HAVE developed...

And I'm getting somewhere with one girl I MIGHT have mentioned earlier.

I dunno, i guess it depends on the person. I'm 5'11" and 150 lbs... i could care less about getting muscles... as long as i'm toned. It depends on the person.

[Jae.C]

[quote=corey9430;27937735]

Originally Posted by Jae.C

What do you mean by looking nerdy? And do you want to change your look?

Some girls think I'm gay (as in homosexual, they don't realize I just dress "metro" and by metro I don't mean emo or anything close to that.), the non-important ones anyways. This can go both ways. I know I dress well, and thats the good thing. If it were other girls, then it would be bad. Good thing I don't try and hook up with these ones, let alone talk to them.

If you want tips on how to change your look, ask away.

EDIT: Don't judge the avatar in this. It's a complete joke..
QUOTE]


Dude, same thing happens to me i dress well, abercombie, a eagle, and mostley hollister... Two popped collars and such all girls think it is hot but some guys are like are you gay////

Just ignore the guys. They think its gay because girls like it, rather then how they look. I don't pop my collar, though.

[satamusic]

working out definitely helps, but girls still like rubbing my belly. its funny i always get slim girls while my slim guy friends always attract fat chicks :p

[Pretendeavor (Banned)]

okay so heres the news, out of the three ive been trying to get with, ive gotten with 2 of them. i can get pics soon. just let me know :]
Anyway, both of them are friends, and instead of them fighting over me, they are bragging to each other!
3 some here i come!

edit:
and i just met a freshmen on the bus(parking privalage suspended for a week) who has a nice *** you know what im sayin, and a nice face to. ill hit that in a week.

[felicityrose]

Originally Posted by satamusic

working out definitely helps, but girls still like rubbing my belly. its funny i always get slim girls while my slim guy friends always attract fat chicks :p

There's more of you to love!

[Pretendeavor (Banned)]

Originally Posted by felicityrose

There's more of you to love!

sometimes theres just to much love

[fireisgood4u]

Originally Posted by Astronomer Sol

OK, thanks.

Does working out help at all? I try not to overdo it, but muscles HAVE developed...

If it'll boost your confidence, go crazy. It helps a lot of people.

[rusballer]

alright guys the girl i was friends with for a bit and then i told her i liked her a month ago is now not talking to me very much and once in awhile she would approach me to say hi. we're in a class together and she doesn't really try to carry a convo or really talk to me it would be like short phrases but she doesn't act like she hates me. before then when i guess we were better friends she always greeted my had long phone convo's and now its all gone. did i loose her as a friend. now it seems shes far to reach. idk whats going on if someone would like to help me i would appreciate that.

thanks

[Bobeo]

She saw you as a friend, and when you told her you wanted more she got weirded out.

Give her time. If she was really your friend she will get over it. It might just take a couple days/weeks.

[Astronomer Sol]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

What? why would you not try to make a move????
I'm sure i'll get someone calling shens on this... i tried my hardest but they were having none of it. Not that i even care about getting you guys the picture as much as I WANTED a picture of it!

They both have boyfriends so there was no way they were letting me get any kind of proof of what happened. Hell i couldn't even pull the covert picture.... yanno where you give her a cumshot on the face and then take a quick picture without the flash because she can't see... but there were 2 of them so that little trick wouldn't even work.

I guess this time ST will have to take me at my word.


I dunno, i guess it depends on the person. I'm 5'11" and 150 lbs... i could care less about getting muscles... as long as i'm toned. It depends on the person.

*nods* Yeah.

I don't have bulk, but I'm in shape.

[Astronomer Sol]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

She saw you as a friend, and when you told her you wanted more she got weirded out.

Give her time. If she was really your friend she will get over it. It might just take a couple days/weeks.

Hopefully, you'll be fine.

It's happened to me. Experience says that hshe'll get over it.

[Crazdelight]

Originally Posted by t_mo

There is no such thing as luck.

Just chillax and everything will fall into place. I promise.

Alright, im going compleatly with your word..... Still scared, but i will get her off my mind this weekend. Go out with some other girls and not think twice about her.

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by Crazdelight

Alright, im going compleatly with your word..... Still scared, but i will get her off my mind this weekend. Go out with some other girls and not think twice about her.

There is an acronym in the PUA community. It is used when someone needs help getting over one-itis.

It goes something like GOFTOG.

"Go Out and **** Ten Other Girls."

[Astronomer Sol]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

There is an acronym in the PUA community. It is used when someone needs help getting over one-itis.

It goes something like GOFTOG.

"Go Out and **** Ten Other Girls."

*gags laughing*

[random hero]

ok...so i stopped dating this girl and have somewhat moved on...we still talk every once in a while, but we havent really talked for a week or 2....so i moved on and started talking to other chicks...like a lot. i guess she checks up on my myspace cuz when she realized the comments i was getting she instantly im'd me and has been very talkative since yesterday...my philosophy is that shes an attention whore so i'm not going to do anything with her until she trys to do something with me...than we'll go from there. am i going in the right direction with this? btw i'm still gonna talk and hit on other chicks until she makes a move...

[Blackdog455]

so i hung out with the girl i like today...i had fun but when i dropped her off at her house i felt bad for some reason...or that i forgot something. I realized this feeling when i was driving away...i wish i new what it was/is or what not...i feel bad and i dont know why...

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by Harlequin @ mysterymethod.com

The newbie mission will make an APUA of you... that's Aspiring Pick-Up Artist. Some of you have a hard time with the 3s rule & get approach anxiety. Ok so you're scared about approaching sets or even lone girls. That's ok. AA is natural. To be worried about this would have at one time ensured your survival. Mystery will tell you how we're still wired up for Tribal Society. Speak to the wrong girl, some important man's lady & BAM, you get hit with a rock in the head & his cronies are stomping on your skull... all because you chatted to his 'bird.'

Unless you're in Chapeltown, Brixton, or Redneckville things should be different now. No need to be SO worried. Let's get around this AA.

JUST GET OUT & BE AROUND PEOPLE. Or go out & do something interesting that you've always wanted to do. Something that many people would envy. Then when you get back, have a mental field report ready to tell someone about. You went rock climbing on a dry wall indoors & you thought that the rope guy had you safe when in fact he'd forgotten all about you & you'd just free-climbed 100ft. You had a day off so you pointed the car in a random direction & drove somewhere just for the hell of it... "& guess where I ended up!? Outside my old school, brought back so many memories..." (cut to story about when you were a kid & did ______ whatever. Return to innocence. She'll join you. Childhood was carefree. Talk about that.

Talk about the time you tried to bury the dog when you thought it was dead & he was just anesthetized from the vets... or when you painted the cat blue because you thought grey was boring... "I was about 19 at the time!" then show you're just playing like I did with you. No I was never cruel to animals, love your dog... just don't LUUUURVE you're dog, Capice?

Communicate. LIVE then tell someone about it. Get a girl's opinion on something it doesn't have to be canned. Find what works for you. Who are you exactly? Do you even know? Go do the WHO MEDITATION. Be aware of yourself. Sort your frame out. Know yourself. Do you react to everything or do you create it? CREATION & REACTION are the same word if you 'C' things differently. C?

If you're not ready to approach get out somewhere you're unfamiliar with, ask a HB directions to some place. Tell her how much you love being in unfamiliar territories but that you like the feeling of the unknown. Ask her if she knows what that feels like. Boom, you just approached a girl & you slung an opener in there. Do what I used to do to build up my confidence... Grab a gym bag... take your watch off approach the most gorgeous girl you can find;
"Excuse me, do you have the time?"

"2:20..."

"Damn, I'm late... do you know the way to the sports centre? I got a game starting in 10 minutes..."

She either knows or she doesn't... "It's just over there huh? Damn what a TREK... can I get a piggy back?"

I was on the way to Leeds Olympic Pool (Which had to be renamed Leeds international pool because the builders ****ed it up & made it one inch short of 50 meters) I was full of energy & enthusiasm & saw this HOT girl. I was hornier than a field of Rhinoceroses because of my WANKTIONS (Wank Sanctions) & approached her less than 500 yards from the pool on Wellington St. I asked her directions to the pool, & she didn't know... I busted her on it & then directed HER to the pool. Zany, but she loved it. Before she was stood like a tool at a bus stop & then some nutter come over & makes her laugh. She's happy I'm there. Better than being alone. I actually ended up having her IGNORE her bus & it drove past her so she could suffer all that I gave her. "What? That was yours? You just missed your bus?"

"Yeah... I'm supposed to signal"

"Wow... not only do you not know where the world's greatest non-Olympic pool is, but you suck with public transport..."

"Well I WAS kind of distracted..."

"Are you one of those chicks that stands on the street at night... waiting for taxis, or are you the sort that books one in advance?"

"Oh you should have seen me at the weekend, every taxi in Leeds was trying to pick us up."

*Arm Kino* "Well maybe I should see you next weekend when I pick you up... you'll love my ride..."

"Oh really... what ride is that..."

"Oh it's a Number 921 Double Decker Arriva..." (The bus she'd just missed.) (She belly laughed)

*Kino* "Look I'm going to Headingley on Friday, checking out town with some friends Saturday... Sunday I'm back at Hi-Fi for the bands... so which is best for you?"

"Busy boy aren't you..."

*Testiculate* (Like Gesticulate) "I work hard... party hard." (I think I adjusted my crotch as I said that... I always subliminally associate my groin area with a PARTY...) I think it works. There's a party going on in my pants & all HBs are invited to it.

*Major bodyrocking* "So I'm gonna be doing lengths in about ten minutes & you're going to stand here waiting to miss another bus or..." (There's one length that she oughta do... girls want sex, have that in your mind when you sarge.

"Well yeah I'll be out Saturday but..."

*KINO* "Forget the boyfriend, we'll keep it a secret... in fact, I could just kill him & wear his skin."

*Takes step back* "Omigod! You psycho."

*Kino* "Sorry, just watched Texas Chainsaw Massacre AGAIN... it's just that girl that runs all over she's so... yeah."

"I was just going to say it's my friends 21st..."

"Ah well, hey, good talking to ya..." with a smile I turned my back on her & started walking slowly.

One... two... three... F-

"Well aren't you going to ask me for my number?" I stop, turn around... Head tilted to the side & down but looking directly at her... lift my head up high maintaining eye contact, then break & stare at the clouds as if considering this.

*sighs* "Ahhhh, she's alive... (Walking back just two paces) I whup it out..." (My phone you perverts) "Ok what is it?"

She gives me her number...

This is EZ. All you need is confidence & confidence is built with experience & knowing yourself & what you're capable of.

Ask a chick what her favourite colour is. When she tells you, argue with her... tell her she's wrong, "Not correct sorry. It's actually pea green."

"What? It's Purple."

"Nope... it's green... sucks to be you." Play with her. Afterwards say, "OK I'm being an ******* because I'm sick of everyone LOVING me all the time. Just for a change I wanted someone to disagree with me.... would you like an argument?"

"No thanks..."

"Yes you would?"

"What is with you, I don't want an argument... why would I?"

"Because you love it... you're arguing with me right now..."

"No, YOU'RE arguing with ME..."

"You started it..."

"How?"

"Lying about your favourite colour..."

"Omigod!"

"Green! ... Hey, thanks, that was a GREAT argument... I needed that. Are you allowed to make friends?"

C / F playful. Like you played when you were a kid. Only now the first chance you get, the kino is on. Make kino your nature. That doesn't mean go around GRABBING girls. Just accompany some of the things you say with a sweet little touch of warmth. The arm, her knee if she's sitting down. Don't leer over people. Join their eye level. If she's sitting, sit also & mirror her. If she's stood then get ON HER LEVEL. Tilt your head when she speaks, show interest but don't complement her beauty unless she's a Warpig, make her feel good about something if she has LSE. If she's a 10 & loves herself, bring her down. Don't do what every AFC does. Don't try to arouse her sexually. Do arouse her curiosity. Get some NUMBER CLOSES. Get some kiss closes. Lower yourself to the Tic Tac routine if you must

You don't need to take any of these lines... live your own way & make things your own. READ some more MM ebooks & get out in the field & just talk to people. Any people. Practice opening up conversations with guys if you have to... get USED to approaching. Heck if your confidence is that bad, approach ANIMALS, freaking pigeons if you have to. Practice what you would say. Daft isn't it... they're just animals... so are girls... & you can have her gawping at you like an excited puppy when you get the approach down. APPROACH SOMETHING. Come up with your own material & field test it one night a week every week. Be INTERESTED in LIFE so you will BE INTERESTING then you wouldn't have to ask these questions. You'd live life to the full that you could enchant her pants off just by telling her about your visit to the dentists. Be like Mystery, stack routines & patterns... know so much about MM that you can sail through the nine stages... be like Juggler: MAKE THE MUNDANE INTERESTING. Ultimately... BE YOURSELF... the best version of yourself that you can be. HAVE FUN. This is game. It's fun. Enjoy it. It's like Snowboarding; no one's punishing you if you fall on your ***. You'll get better each fall. There's no failure, just lessons to learn. Obstacles to overcome. Be the prize. Let her chase you. Now go, get out & sarge, approach anything that moves. Approach every girl you see that you wouldn't kick out of bed... Why are you still here? SMASH YOUR COMPUTER! GET OUT! *Head Explodes*

What a post. Read it now.

[rusballer]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

She saw you as a friend, and when you told her you wanted more she got weirded out.

Give her time. If she was really your friend she will get over it. It might just take a couple days/weeks.

yeah its been a month and she like treats me as a friend, but things haven't gone back to how used to be. i'd rather be her friend then not talking to her at all and its pissing me off. she seems fine and acts if nothings wrong in the world. shes always a very happy person, but i just hope are friendship is gone ughhh. its very frusterating. thanks for the advice.

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by rusballer

yeah its been a month and she like treats me as a friend, but things haven't gone back to how used to be. i'd rather be her friend then not talking to her at all and its pissing me off. she seems fine and acts if nothings wrong in the world. shes always a very happy person, but i just hope are friendship is gone ughhh. its very frusterating. thanks for the advice.

Wow, I really figure that a month would have been plenty long. Give it a couple more weeks and if things don't return to normal the best course of action might be to confront her about it.

I totally feel you though. That is why I dread the day that a friend of mine starts being attracted to me like that because I don't think I could say no to her.