[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Okay let's talk date ideas because everyone keeps asking them. Now I realize some of you aren't 18 or 21 and some of these things are expensive, but all i can really tell are the things i've done...

*Bungie Jumping. It's the best for a chick that's kind of daring.
*Go to to a spa and get a massage together. Not a good first date idea, but definatly good if your relationship starts to get a bit boring.
*Take a camera, go out to all the interesting places in town (or if there's a big city near by) and get pictures of the two of you together at all the places. Then go home, curl up on the couch together, download them and look at the pictures
*Going to the beach and laying around, always relaxing.
*Concerts are one of my favorites
*I've gone to a bar with a woman before and just shot pool, drank and talked the hole night. Was one of the most relaxing dates i'd ever been on and i got laid on the first date!

The bottom line is you can do god damn near anything. I've done some odd stuff with women. One time i simply taught a girl how to drive stick shift. I've gone to aquariums, casinos, haunted houses. Hell i remember taking my gf out on the boat fishing.

Finally if you're thinking dinner and a movie think a little more orginally. If it's dinner, try making her dinner instead or at least taking her some place really original.

One time instead of a movie i set up my buddies projector in the backyard, hooked the laptop up to it and watched a movie at night, in a hammock.



Finally, about 95% of you are not going to meet your wife in high school. But about 80% of you think you are (don't take offense this is how most high schoolers think.) Most people meet their lover or wife in their early to mid 20's.(Or at least someone who could potentially be their wife). But you don't want to be 21 and have no dating experience. So relax, you're young, think of this as practice for when you get older!

[GK @ dgs (Banned)]

As a freshmen, meet at the mall and see a movie, or something.

[felicityrose]

Oh man... I remember dating. I feel quite old now.

While there are some surefire places that are good date ideas, keep in mind that you want to learn more about the person on the dates - that's why they are dates. Movies are not ideal for first-third date: you can't really talk during the movie, and lots of times one person will just want to make out.

These are dates that I've been on that have been wonderful (and relatively inexpensive):

*Picnic at beach/park
*Watching the sunset at prime location in my area
*Ice skating
*Bowling (beware of competitive people)
*Walking/window shopping in trendy area

Keep in mind what she likes to do - eventually tailor the dates to what she likes (food type, atmosphere, activity). She'll dig you for listening to her, and you'll expand your horizons. Don't worry, most girls will do the same for guys (despite my relative dislike for cigars, I usually get my man a couple a year as small gifts).

[12345421]

Originally Posted by felicityrose

Oh man... I remember dating. I feel quite old now.

While there are some surefire places that are good date ideas, keep in mind that you want to learn more about the person on the dates - that's why they are dates. Movies are not ideal for first-third date: you can't really talk during the movie, and lots of times one person will just want to make out.

These are dates that I've been on that have been wonderful (and relatively inexpensive):

*Picnic at beach/park
*Watching the sunset at prime location in my area
*Ice skating
*Bowling (beware of competitive people)
*Walking/window shopping in trendy area

Keep in mind what she likes to do - eventually tailor the dates to what she likes (food type, atmosphere, activity). She'll dig you for listening to her, and you'll expand your horizons. Don't worry, most girls will do the same for guys (despite my relative dislike for cigars, I usually get him a couple a year as small gifts).

So that listening crap is actually true... damn.

[GK @ dgs (Banned)]

Listening ftw.

[Bobeo]

Hey, a buddy of mine was telling me about this thing called "active listening."

It is simple enough but it seems like it could give a person an edge, even if it is slight.

Basically, just repeat what the other person says to you. It forces you to actually listen an it makes the other person comfortable because it makes them feel like you are interested in what they are saying. It makes for better conversation. I figure it can't hurt.
Example:

1: So, we had a volleyball game today and we lost.
2: Awww, you lost your volleyball game? That is too bad.

Just something like that. He says it works. I figure it can't help.

[fireisgood4u]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

Hey, a buddy of mine was telling me about this thing called "active listening."

It is simple enough but it seems like it could give a person an edge, even if it is slight.

Basically, just repeat what the other person says to you. It forces you to actually listen an it makes the other person comfortable because it makes them feel like you are interested in what they are saying. It makes for better conversation. I figure it can't hurt.
Example:

1: So, we had a volleyball game today and we lost.
2: Awww, you lost your volleyball game? That is too bad.

Just something like that. He says it works. I figure it can't help.

I've heard of something that deals with 'control words.' Bleach probably can explain it better

However you ask her a bunch of questions and learn her control words. Words that get her thinking about certain things You ask her certain questions dealing with emotions and feelings. You pick up certain words she seems to 'stress' on. Then as you slip them into your conversation she subconsiously gets those feelings. I'm yet to try it.

However I find a smile and tilting and nodding your head works well.

[Bobeo]

Hva you read "The Game"?

It sounds like that "anchoring" they were talking about in it.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by fireisgood4u

I've heard of something that deals with 'control words.' Bleach probably can explain it better

However you ask her a bunch of questions and learn her control words. Words that get her thinking about certain things You ask her certain questions dealing with emotions and feelings. You pick up certain words she seems to 'stress' on. Then as you slip them into your conversation she subconsiously gets those feelings. I'm yet to try it.

However I find a smile and tilting and nodding your head works well.

yea that is simply anchoring and NPL. Ive tried both and they work okay. But to me its more like a magic trick than anything real. Ive seen NPL in action and im confident i can outgame a guy who uses NPL with cocky funny. Its interesting to read up on but i think tone and eye movement work much better than magic words.

[Hufen]

Originally Posted by 12345421

So how old was she? Illegal? Or Legal?

legal probably...hopefully...17 or 18?

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

If you're looking for a good example of the type of attitude (cocky funny) you should have this is it.

My ex sends me a text today. Anyway i find out my ex was in the hospital. Apparantly she was having terrible chest pains or something, stomach problems, i wasn't really paying attention. Anyway she was picking up a product back home for me that you can only get in chicago (can't find it up here in milwaukee). So i said to her...

"Are you okay? You better not die on me honey because if i don't get my hot peppers i'm going to be really pissed off."

she responds with, "yea i'm just having terrible stomach pains, they didn't start until i started talking to you again."

so i shoot back with, "oh that? That's just your burning desire for me, don't worry it will subside."

she says, "**** that was a good, i got nothin."

and that's the attitude you want to use towards your target. It was humorous but very cocky! I was rather proud of that one

[epikballa13]

Well Heres my story and i hope some can help me...

So this one girl i knew for pretty long ,she liked me in 7th grade and i never knew about. So anyway 2 years later , 9th grade starts up and I see her around and start talking to her, yadi yadi Her boyfriend breaks up with her, So what perfect oppurtunity to jump in for the kill, right? Well we get real close i tell her i like her and she says them same back. So times go on and we talk everyday at school and on the phone. So one day i get a call from her asking me to go to student venture. Im like hell no , but then i think about for a second.. what better time to ask her out? So I go with my friend and it was extremely gay. So at the end all of her friends are like ask her out. So i pull her to the side and ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend? And she responds No , i dont think we know each other enough. So im like ok well i gtg bye .. As im walking out i realize shes knows more about me then my parents do... So we still talk , not that much. But today i was chattin with her on aim and i ask her what happened between us? And she says that she still liked her old b/f and stuff. So im like wtf , why didnt you tell me this before i made myself look like an idiot? She said she was really sorry and yadi yadi yadi.. So i dont know what to do? I dont think i wanna be friends her anymore and stuff.. Small talk i come to you for wisdom..

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

If you're looking for a good example of the type of attitude (cocky funny) you should have this is it.

My ex sends me a text today. Anyway i find out my ex was in the hospital. Apparantly she was having terrible chest pains or something, stomach problems, i wasn't really paying attention. Anyway she was picking up a product back home for me that you can only get in chicago (can't find it up here in milwaukee). So i said to her...

"Are you okay? You better not die on me honey because if i don't get my hot peppers i'm going to be really pissed off."

she responds with, "yea i'm just having terrible stomach pains, they didn't start until i started talking to you again."

so i shoot back with, "oh that? That's just your burning desire for me, don't worry it will subside."

she says, "**** that was a good, i got nothin."

and that's the attitude you want to use towards your target. It was humorous but very cocky! I was rather proud of that one

It is funny because that is a thing I would simply regularly say. I never thought of it as "cocky/funny", I just was trying to make the person laugh.

[GK @ dgs (Banned)]

Originally Posted by epikballa13

Well Heres my story and i hope some can help me...

So this one girl i knew for pretty long ,she liked me in 7th grade and i never knew about. So anyway 2 years later , 9th grade starts up and I see her around and start talking to her, yadi yadi Her boyfriend breaks up with her, So what perfect oppurtunity to jump in for the kill, right? Well we get real close i tell her i like her and she says them same back. So times go on and we talk everyday at school and on the phone. So one day i get a call from her asking me to go to student venture. Im like hell no , but then i think about for a second.. what better time to ask her out? So I go with my friend and it was extremely gay. So at the end all of her friends are like ask her out. So i pull her to the side and ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend? And she responds No , i dont think we know each other enough. So im like ok well i gtg bye .. As im walking out i realize shes knows more about me then my parents do... So we still talk , not that much. But today i was chattin with her on aim and i ask her what happened between us? And she says that she still liked her old b/f and stuff. So im like wtf , why didnt you tell me this before i made myself look like an idiot? She said she was really sorry and yadi yadi yadi.. So i dont know what to do? I dont think i wanna be friends her anymore and stuff.. Small talk i come to you for wisdom..

You support HK, you're beyond help.

In reality, she isn't worth your time if she can't be straightforward with you. Move on.

I feel like such a hypocrite saying that, lol.

In other news about moving on- the old girl wants to hook up. Winnar!

[pokethebunnY]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

It is funny because that is a thing I would simply regularly say. I never thought of it as "cocky/funny", I just was trying to make the person laugh.

QFT.

[epikballa13]

rofl... kkk well im over her . But hey, What could i do to make her jealous?

[GK @ dgs (Banned)]

Originally Posted by epikballa13

rofl... kkk well im over her . But hey, What could i do to make her jealous?

That wouldn't be a good idea, IMO just to make her jealous. It's selfish and mean. However, hook up with another girl and definitely make it known in her presence that you are with the new girl.

[epikballa13]

yahhh well shes back with her old boyfriend now ... after she said she hated him... But ill do what you said.

[superjoo]

Originally Posted by epikballa13

Well Heres my story and i hope some can help me...

So this one girl i knew for pretty long ,she liked me in 7th grade and i never knew about. So anyway 2 years later , 9th grade starts up and I see her around and start talking to her, yadi yadi Her boyfriend breaks up with her, So what perfect oppurtunity to jump in for the kill, right? Well we get real close i tell her i like her and she says them same back. So times go on and we talk everyday at school and on the phone. So one day i get a call from her asking me to go to student venture. Im like hell no , but then i think about for a second.. what better time to ask her out? So I go with my friend and it was extremely gay. So at the end all of (1)her friends are like ask her out. So i pull her to the side and ask her if she wants to be my girlfriend? And she responds No , i dont think we know each other enough. So im like ok well i gtg bye .. As im walking out i realize shes knows more about me then my parents do... So we still talk , not that much. But today i was chattin with her on aim and i ask her what happened between us? And she says that (2)she still liked her old b/f and stuff. So im like wtf , why didnt you tell me this (3)before i made myself look like an idiot? She said she was really sorry and yadi yadi yadi.. So i dont know what to do? I dont think i wanna be friends her anymore and stuff.. Small talk i come to you for wisdom..

1. this was your first mistake the same thing happened to me i let her friends rush me into asking her out when i really wasnt ready and one of the friends who was very persistant told me this knowing that the girl had just broken up with her bf i now regard to said friend as satan
2. same happened to me
lifes tough get a helmet
3. i made a fool of myself as well and it made me feel like ****

[12345421]

Originally Posted by Bobeo

It is funny because that is a thing I would simply regularly say. I never thought of it as "cocky/funny", I just was trying to make the person laugh.

Lol, I was just going to post the same thing. Today in school a hot girl that I'm friends with was like,
"Hey, can you pick up my pencil"
"Hell no woman, you just want to look at my ***, you girls all think the same way"

I got quite a few laughs out of that one. Lol.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by 12345421

Lol, I was just going to post the same thing. Today in school a hot girl that I'm friends with was like,
"Hey, can you pick up my pencil"
"Hell no woman, you just want to look at my ***, you girls all think the same way"

I got quite a few laughs out of that one. Lol.

Yup, most people have no problem doing it.... they just somehow freeze up infront of women. If most people acted like themselves (assuming they have confidence) they would be just fine.