[paintballer38-99]

ok i like this girl and i dont think she likes me but how should i tell her i like her in a sensitive way to maybe try to get her?

[so*la killer]

ok so I like this girl so much... its driving me crazy so i need help... i cant concentrate during class b\c i just keep thinking about her and when I get home i do the same. I think she might like me too but I am not %100 sure, the other day on way to class she called my name from behind and started to ask me if i was still playing soccer and that shes going to all our games this year(highschool), then like today as i was walking to my car she was passing by and she just kind of smiled at me and said "hey" real quick like if she was shy or something. Problem is she has a boyfriend so... I dont know what to do, i was thinking of just getting it overwith quick and telling her how i felt... i dontt know. help please

[Iron Daisy06]

Ok there is a girl who I have liked for years and we are really good friends.

That is pretty much the problem is there anyway to get out of the friend zone and into the pants?

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by so*la killer

ok so I like this girl so much... its driving me crazy so i need help... i cant concentrate during class b\c i just keep thinking about her and when I get home i do the same. I think she might like me too but I am not %100 sure, the other day on way to class she called my name from behind and started to ask me if i was still playing soccer and that shes going to all our games this year(highschool), then like today as i was walking to my car she was passing by and she just kind of smiled at me and said "hey" real quick like if she was shy or something. Problem is she has a boyfriend so... I dont know what to do, i was thinking of just getting it overwith quick and telling her how i felt... i dontt know. help please

Do not, do not, so not tell her how you feel. As to what to do, ask t_mo or BleachednBlonde, but don't do that.

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

ugh..I said something to piss this girl off on the phone. I didnt mean it, but she got real upset. I apologized like 20 times. She called me this morning and woke me up, and told me how upset she is. She told me she would call back in a few days, which is wierd because she usually calls me about 3 times a day. Should I try and call her back and give a sincere apology, or wait it out? I kind of have the feeling that she is trying to play games in the back of my mind, but something tells me she is serious. I dont know what to do.

You wait it out, because shes trying to guilt trip you. By showing shes not SUPERIOR to you will drive her nuts.

Originally Posted by Iron Daisy06

Ok there is a girl who I have liked for years and we are really good friends.

That is pretty much the problem is there anyway to get out of the friend zone and into the pants?

If you listen to the guy below me, that may work, but she may have feelings for someone else. Just like right now, your best bet is to find someone new, getting out of the friend zone and into a relationship is the HARDEST thing to do. I already told my experiance of doing it, and it required LONG phone conversations, talkin about sexx and stuff (basically you say you would never do anything with her and blah blah blah bull****) But im telling you now, its not worth it because if you break up, your gonna lose a piece of you it seems like, trust me it SUCKS, so your better off keeping her your friend.

Originally Posted by so*la killer

ok so I like this girl so much... its driving me crazy so i need help... i cant concentrate during class b\c i just keep thinking about her and when I get home i do the same. I think she might like me too but I am not %100 sure, the other day on way to class she called my name from behind and started to ask me if i was still playing soccer and that shes going to all our games this year(highschool), then like today as i was walking to my car she was passing by and she just kind of smiled at me and said "hey" real quick like if she was shy or something. Problem is she has a boyfriend so... I dont know what to do, i was thinking of just getting it overwith quick and telling her how i felt... i dontt know. help please

DO NOT NOT NOT TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. NEVER EVER. She has you crazy, and life isnt as forgiving as the movies, your better off playing your game and inviting her to lunch. Movie dates are weird because it sounds like you just wanna get something outta her. So taking her out to lunch/dinner on a date (if she offers to pay dont let her, if she pays its a friendship thing, if the guy pays..its a date. make sure you got cash. I'd recommend chili's, applebee's, fridays...even starbucks for coffee.) A nice place that you both can go to that requires interaction. Dont over play, but odnt show your feelings in the open either, send her mixed signals......OH, Hope her boyfriend isnt crazy!

[Bobeo]

Originally Posted by Iron Daisy06

Ok there is a girl who I have liked for years and we are really good friends.

That is pretty much the problem is there anyway to get out of the friend zone and into the pants?

Your only chance might be to cut off relations completely for a good month or two. Maybe more. That might work.

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

ugh..I said something to piss this girl off on the phone. I didnt mean it, but she got real upset. I apologized like 20 times. She called me this morning and woke me up, and told me how upset she is. She told me she would call back in a few days, which is wierd because she usually calls me about 3 times a day. Should I try and call her back and give a sincere apology, or wait it out? I kind of have the feeling that she is trying to play games in the back of my mind, but something tells me she is serious. I dont know what to do.

You said you didnt mean it, and Im sure you told her that too. But you told her in the wrong way.
You need to resume control and tell her "Stop acting like a child, I was joking when I said that and you took it entirely wrong. I apologized and you are still hung up.
vs.
"Im so sorry... I really didnt mean it... Please forgive me..."

If you think my version is a little too harsh, then tone it down, by using examples of how you feel.
"I feel really bad that you took the what I said the wrong way, but I didnt mean what I said and I dont understand why you are still upset?"

If you want to throw in a jab, "I thought you were more mature than this"

But bottomline is stop getting down on your knees and begging for forgiveness. You didnt mean what you said and you have to have confidence in yourself that you werent maliciously trying to hurt her. She is obviously found a way to have power over you and will continue to exploit it until it stops working. If she is in fact a good friend then she would forgive you and move on, if she doesnt forgive you then dont waste your time with her.

[so*la killer]

t mo help me with mine plzz

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

Originally Posted by t_mo

You said you didnt mean it, and Im sure you told her that too. But you told her in the wrong way.
You need to resume control and tell her "Stop acting like a child, I was joking when I said that and you took it entirely wrong. I apologized and you are still hung up.
vs.
"Im so sorry... I really didnt mean it... Please forgive me..."

If you think my version is a little too harsh, then tone it down, by using examples of how you feel.
"I feel really bad that you took the what I said the wrong way, but I didnt mean what I said and I dont understand why you are still upset?"

If you want to throw in a jab, "I thought you were more mature than this"

But bottomline is stop getting down on your knees and begging for forgiveness. You didnt mean what you said and you have to have confidence in yourself that you werent maliciously trying to hurt her. She is obviously found a way to have power over you and will continue to exploit it until it stops working. If she is in fact a good friend then she would forgive you and move on, if she doesnt forgive you then dont waste your time with her.

Number one rule
Theres always another girl out there, you wont be remembering her when a new one is sucking you off will you?

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by paintballer38-99

ok i like this girl and i dont think she likes me but how should i tell her i like her in a sensitive way to maybe try to get her?

If you want to tell her in a sensitive way then count out actually getting her to like you.

Originally Posted by so*la killer

ok so I like this girl so much... its driving me crazy so i need help... i cant concentrate during class b\c i just keep thinking about her and when I get home i do the same. I think she might like me too but I am not %100 sure, the other day on way to class she called my name from behind and started to ask me if i was still playing soccer and that shes going to all our games this year(highschool), then like today as i was walking to my car she was passing by and she just kind of smiled at me and said "hey" real quick like if she was shy or something. Problem is she has a boyfriend so... I dont know what to do, i was thinking of just getting it overwith quick and telling her how i felt... i dontt know. help please

You dont want to do that. In this situation only advanced teqniques would work. First you need to establish a friendship. Say hi to her when you see her, get some form of contact with her outside of school, just act like you only want her as a friend.

Then when you establish a friendship you have to start blurring the lines. Girls love to have friends that are guys, especially if they have a boyfriend because it will cause the bf to be jealous and give the girl more power. One of the first things you have to do when you are with a group and her is neutralize her bf, go up to him and act very friendly, ignore her competely when talking to him and get him comfortable with you.

After you have had some out of school contact and she is pretty comfortable with you, invite her to do something where it is just the two of you. Going to the mall, movies, something that could easily be looked at as a date but something that you would do with one of your guy friends, so the lines on what it is are very blurred.

After you have hung out with her in some situations where it is just you two, you need to start blurring the lines between friend and lover. Chances are you the boyfriend that you were once friendly with will now want to kick you ***, so be careful. When you are hanging out with just her start putting your arm around her. Hugging her more, physically flirting more. Then just keep going. When you hug her slip in a kiss on the cheek. So now you have a very close relationship with this girl and this is the make or break point.

Here is where it is all or nothing. At this point you completely cut off all contact. Drop off the face of the earth. I promise you she will be calling you like crazy, wondering where you have gone what you are doing. Just tell her you are really busy with (insert activity), and tell her you will call her when you have time. Call her on occasion and keep this up for about 2 weeks. Then call her up tell her you are done with whatever stressful activity you were doing and you wanna hang out with her. Now she is probably most attracted to you because you have been gone and this is where you tell her how you really feel, and that you want to be with her or whatever you want to say.

good luck.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

ugh..I said something to piss this girl off on the phone. I didnt mean it, but she got real upset. I apologized like 20 times. She called me this morning and woke me up, and told me how upset she is. She told me she would call back in a few days, which is wierd because she usually calls me about 3 times a day. Should I try and call her back and give a sincere apology, or wait it out? I kind of have the feeling that she is trying to play games in the back of my mind, but something tells me she is serious. I dont know what to do.

Begging for forgivness is not how it works. You say it once, and they either accept it or they don't. After the first time, you ignore the *****ing for a little while to let them cool off. If they still ***** then you start getting defensive. I think telling her off would be a bad choice but maybe you should hint towards the fact that this is getting a little ridicilous and she needs to let go.

Originally Posted by paintballer38-99

ok i like this girl and i dont think she likes me but how should i tell her i like her in a sensitive way to maybe try to get her?

Sensitive = terrible idea. You tell her nothing, actions speak louder than words. You take the next step, you don't "talk about taking the next step."

[p8ntballr1125]

Originally Posted by t_mo

You said you didnt mean it, and Im sure you told her that too. But you told her in the wrong way.
You need to resume control and tell her "Stop acting like a child, I was joking when I said that and you took it entirely wrong. I apologized and you are still hung up.
vs.
"Im so sorry... I really didnt mean it... Please forgive me..."

If you think my version is a little too harsh, then tone it down, by using examples of how you feel.
"I feel really bad that you took the what I said the wrong way, but I didnt mean what I said and I dont understand why you are still upset?"

If you want to throw in a jab, "I thought you were more mature than this"

But bottomline is stop getting down on your knees and begging for forgiveness. You didnt mean what you said and you have to have confidence in yourself that you werent maliciously trying to hurt her. She is obviously found a way to have power over you and will continue to exploit it until it stops working. If she is in fact a good friend then she would forgive you and move on, if she doesnt forgive you then dont waste your time with her.

Thanks man thats about all I need.

After reading you other posts, I think you are a genious.

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

Sensitive = terrible idea. You tell her nothing, actions speak louder than words. You take the next step, you don't "talk about taking the next step."

There you are, I got a problem, i used to be flirting with this one girl about 2 years older me, and now she just graduated from HS, should i try to make a move on her now that shes talking to me, she asked for my aim sn and stuff..

But what i wanna know, is what do you feel about girls older then you? Keep in mind i havent talked to her in a long time. So any advice would be good because she is a cutie
oh, and me and my xgf as of right now, if your wondering, are staying best friends with ..... 'benefits' she says no strings but we all know, theres always strings!!!

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by p8ntballr1125

After reading you other posts, I think you are a genious.

Cogito ergo sum.

[Iron Daisy06]

Originally Posted by Simplicity.

If you listen to the guy below me, that may work, but she may have feelings for someone else. Just like right now, your best bet is to find someone new, getting out of the friend zone and into a relationship is the HARDEST thing to do. I already told my experiance of doing it, and it required LONG phone conversations, talkin about sexx and stuff (basically you say you would never do anything with her and blah blah blah bull****) But im telling you now, its not worth it because if you break up, your gonna lose a piece of you it seems like, trust me it SUCKS, so your better off keeping her your friend.

alright thanks for the help

[paintballer38-99]

[quote=t_mo]If you want to tell her in a sensitive way then count out actually getting her to like you.

what should i do then?

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

[quote=paintballer38-99]

Originally Posted by t_mo

If you want to tell her in a sensitive way then count out actually getting her to like you.

what should i do then?

By sending mixed feelings, she wont know what to do with you, you dont TELL her your going to do this. YOU DO IT. And act like your going to kiss her, but dont. All of these little things will drive her crazy

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by paintballer38-99

what should i do then?

Reference the entire thread, there are countless detailed posts.

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

help me with my problem.. its one page back

[iplaypballsometimes]

so theres this girl that i like, we used to like eachother a while back and then nothing really happened, i think that she likes me but i think she still likes one of my friends too. i was wondering what a good way to ask her out was? any good suggestions.

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

Originally Posted by iplaypballsometimes

so theres this girl that i like, we used to like eachother a while back and then nothing really happened, i think that she likes me but i think she still likes one of my friends too. i was wondering what a good way to ask her out was? any good suggestions.

You better find out for sure if she likes you, flirt with her, dont talk about it, let your actions let her know.
edit:
look at this whole thread, theres other people wondering the same thing, we all pretty much covered everything