[Directed Jetta (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

I disagree. The push pull with small amounts of touching is an easy enough trick that i've never seen fail. If worse comes to worse then you just step it up so she clearly understands. The thing is, you are usually taking a bigger risk by comming out and saying, "I like you." more so than playing a game.

The technique does work excellent - for those of us who know how to pull it off.....

For a young guy the doesn't know how to work a girls emotions - it can be a quick way to shoot yourself on the foot. I never said to straight out tell her "I like you" - that is a huge mistake in the making - but for younger guys the best way to get a girl to know you like them is to be yourself and act like you like them. Subtle touching is a must - acting like a gentlemen is also paramount (mothers love guys that treat there daughters great!). My words of advice are just be yourself - talk - and see where it leads you....

One thing also Bleachednblonde - you and I both know how women in our age bracket work (especially milwaukee women! ) - but younger girls don't follow clues and don't respond to the same tactics older women do....

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

Too slight of a situation to make a judgement call. Could be something or you could just be reading too deeply into it. But you and I both know it really doesn’t matter if it means anything or not. It’s possible to get just about any girl to like you if you play it right. How she feels about you right now is inconsequential.

Yeah im thinkin its to early in the game to know, but she was showin signs of bein that *****y type some guys go for. but ill jus reverse that **** and see what happens, ill let you know.

[Simplicity. (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Desensitized_Fo_Life

okay i kind of get what you are saying but im still a little confused on the whole sending mixed signals thing, and making her follow me, and some of that. can you be more specific about like what i should do to send mixed signals and how i should make her follow me?

Act like your going to go in for the kiss, brush her hair away, stare her in the eyes, and then back out. She'll be at home talking to her friends about how she doesnt know what your feeling thing. Most guys go in for the kill, but if you were smart you would make her and yourself wait. You know in the end you will get her, but she doesnt, which will make her more outgoing towards you then other people.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Directed Jetta

The technique does work excellent - for those of us who know how to pull it off.....

For a young guy the doesn't know how to work a girls emotions - it can be a quick way to shoot yourself on the foot. I never said to straight out tell her "I like you" - that is a huge mistake in the making - but for younger guys the best way to get a girl to know you like them is to be yourself and act like you like them. Subtle touching is a must - acting like a gentlemen is also paramount (mothers love guys that treat there daughters great!). My words of advice are just be yourself - talk - and see where it leads you....

One thing also Bleachednblonde - you and I both know how women in our age bracket work (especially milwaukee women! ) - but younger girls don't follow clues and don't respond to the same tactics older women do....

I still think it's simple enough and won't cause enough of a stir with her to disrupt anything and will still have better effects. I'm not saying he should jump in head first and go all out. But simple push pull is something anyone can do. With this situation your talking about a slight enough push and pull that it's not going to send her off the deep end wondering about what he's doing. More than anything i think it will show he is interested but is also independant and relaxed. He feels no need to be RIGHT THERE.

But i do see where you're comming from. Younger girls are going to be alot more loopy about things.

[Directed Jetta (Banned)]

True..... Just make sure to give him some pointers first besides the fake lean-in!! I'd give him some - but I'm leaving my office early to play some golf!! BOOYA - Peace out!

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Directed Jetta

True..... Just make sure to give him some pointers first besides the fake lean-in!! I'd give him some - but I'm leaving my office early to play some golf!! BOOYA - Peace out!

Where the **** are you in wisconsin that you can go golfing? It's pouring here and it's looked ****ty all day!

[Desensitized_Fo_Life]

Originally Posted by Directed Jetta

True..... Just make sure to give him some pointers first besides the fake lean-in!! I'd give him some - but I'm leaving my office early to play some golf!! BOOYA - Peace out!

yea pointers would be cool, hey bleachednblonde ive benn tryin to catch you on aim but you always have your away message on lol

[richieboy89]

alright i got another girl problem but its last one thanks to this thread

i was introduced to this one girl freshman year and i would talk to her in the hallways eveyr once in awhile. now we're both juniors and she happens to be in my foods class and sits right across from me. we small talk during class but i wanna try and take it further however she does have a boyfriend but shes mentioned how she doesn;t like being tied down. any advice

bleached this one has ur name all over it

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Desensitized_Fo_Life

yea pointers would be cool, hey bleachednblonde ive benn tryin to catch you on aim but you always have your away message on lol

I know i saw it this morning on my way to work. I'm usually at my office all day and my away message is on my desktop at home.

[Desensitized_Fo_Life]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

I know i saw it this morning on my way to work. I'm usually at my office all day and my away message is on my desktop at home.

um ok, ive you have any pointers and you want to put them in this thread go ahead because i dont know when you get off work so i dont know what time to be on to talk to you

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Desensitized_Fo_Life

um ok, ive you have any pointers and you want to put them in this thread go ahead because i dont know when you get off work so i dont know what time to be on to talk to you

Okay women of all ages like men that they are intigued by. Now you're typical guy is going to do the same old same old to show a girl he likes her. I'm simply saying that by doing it in an untraditional way you will most likely get a better response.

Average guy is going to keep putting his arm around her and hold her hand as much as he can and things like that. And yea it will probably work but i'm holding you to a higher standard lol.

There's a fine line between being clingy and showing that you like someone. We want to show her that you like by doing as little as possible. You really want to bait her... give her just a little something to ease her mind so she knows you like her, then just a little more to get her to chase you.

First and foremost is eye contact, and facial expressions. It's not simply looking at someone it's HOW you look at someone. You want to give her this kind of seductive, i know i already have you look. A james bond look if you will. Like this but a little less evil and a little more playful.

I mean essentially at this point a woman should already know you like her. But since you guys are younger she may not be secure enough to make a move based just off of that so were going to need a little physical contact.

Now for someone my age, tickling and things like that is okay. It's that whole 3rd grade i like you so i poke you with my pencil thing. This works because i'm old enough everyone knows i've grown out of that stage and women will respond well to this. YOU SHOULD NOT DO THIS. At your age that can be taken as, "omg this kid still acts like we're in 3rd grade."

Instead your next action should be a slight touch like i talked about before. Brushing hair out of the face. if your sitting facing each other and she says something put your hand on her thigh as you tell her, "you are too much fun!" But only for the few seconds when you say that. These little phsyical interactions will kind of build up the tension (good tension!). End the night with a kiss. WHATEVER YOU DO DONT TALK ABOUT IT. Actions are much better than words. The only reason you need to talk about it is if she brings it up!

These little amounts of touching won't creep her out. Make sure they seem natural. This gives the impression that you are subconciously doing it because you're interested in her.

[Bobeo]

I was reading your post and I agree but touching a girl's thigh while talking to her *might* freak her out a little. You have to make sure it isn't too sudden because she will be thinking WTF is this. And not in a good way.

[|)ragun]

Hopefully you guys can help me with this problem I have. For a month now this is all i've been thinking about.

Bear with me.

Theres this girl that i've liked ever since I met her which was the begining of the last school year. She's one of my best friends and she lives 2 houses down from me. My problem is I feel like she is dropping hints that she likes me but every time I muster up the courage to ask her she kinda changes the subject. I was supposed to move this year and the only thing thats stopping me is the possibility that she likes me back. I really don't know what I should do, any help is appreciated.

Thanks.

[Thebeareats]

iv sord of got the same problem... like shell do things that make me say o wow mabey i should ask her out. then other times its like . then when i look back on things im like wow iv had so many chances. and then when i think about it too hard and i get all tense and worried about how to act and stuff things go wrong. yeah i kinda had to let that out

[empirejr]

alright, so I have no idea what to do about this girl.
she is the grade below me, I'm a junior, and i've had a crush type deal for her for about 3 months. We hang out weekly, some days more than others I feel that she is giving me "signs" on being interested in me, and all that ****, being all cuddly and certain looks I get, her always being jealous about other girls i'm friends with and ****. She flirts, I flirt back, and just all-around vibe i'm getting from her.
But the thing is, she sucks at datings, she never knows what she wants in a relationship and blah blah. I've heard it from many of my buddies. Most of them say that they wouldn't let me date her becuase it wouldn't last and she sucks at dating and ****. So I dont really know what to do.

[underdog_153]

So I think I finally have a problem that requires me to come here. Just a couple hours ago me and some of my freinds went to a pizza place to get some food to eat, anyways when we walk through the door I notice some pretty good looking employees. As we walk up I notice that one of them is taking a decent long look. Later on, I am playing some games in the arcade section, she comes up and asks my freinds and me if we are interested in guys???????? I was some what in to the game so I didnt really pay attention, so I didnt think she really asked that. But Later on she asks more in my direction if she can get my number for a guy she knows. WTF!?!? I keep on askin if she is ****in with me and what not, she says she not and does a little laugh that most girls are known to do. She goes back to work and Im at my game thinkin "what the hell was that about". She comes back and starts just to do smalltalk kinda, she asks me to smell her lip gloss and she says it smells good and then she says that it tingles her lips and blah blah blah. after me and my freinds leave we decide that she was just after my number, but the thing that gets me is if she wanted my number why not just ask for it instead of asking it for a gay guy she knows? Why would I give my number when she says its gonna go to a gay dude. I decided that on wednesday I am going back and talking to her, how do I talk about this to her, like im still somewhat in the WTF stage.

[P8ntLife189]

This problem is in depth, and possibly a lost cause. But I'm fed up and I'm going to try it reguardless of outcome or odds. So there is this girl...and she has a bf they've been going out for awhile, but hes a ****ing ******* and we all know it, but she stays with him, we (I and the girl) started hanging out around july 4th, and we were together alot just me and her, I spent a straight week sleeping at her house, and she sleeps over my house and stuff and shes cheated on this guy a couple times now with me. Things were going good, but I got this weird feeling that maybe I was being led on, because I was playing the role of a bf but I wasn't getting the benefits and I didnt like how she still had a real bf. I wanted him to go away. All of my friends were on my case saying shes leading me on etc etc. Well I told her how I felt about it and **** kinda went to hell. But things bounced back and it was back to normal. She told me that if I smoked weed or drank etc she'd be pissed and stuff. Well we had a fight over that convo i had with her about the bf and me and how ****s weird. And I basically figured we'd never talk again, so I got wicked ****ed up that night. And she found out, and got really mad and tells me that she was planning on dumping the bf that week because it was unfair to me and that she likes me alot and that she even looked past the smoking and ****. But because of that I lost my "chance" with her so I was ****in pissed at myself for ****ing it up. So we split off for awhile and she started hanging out with my little sister (shes 14) the girl is 17 so i was like wtf? And my sister talks **** about me to her and said I called her a whore and the girl was rip**** at me. But she was at my house the other night and we talked and hung out and things were cool. She says I lost my chance but she kept hinting at stuff that I have another chance. She is still with the bf, and hes still an *******. Things are back to normal with me and her. But I want her so bad now. I am gunna try every game in the book, I need advice ST, how in God's name am I gunna win this chick back! I need advice/tips/watever to help me fix my huge mess and win this girl back. And to top things off, my friends dont really like her, and shes going to a new public school this year and ****.

tl;dr.....i ****ed up a ton, how to win a girl back and than win her over

bleachblonde help hah

[TheBear33]

I have a girl in my class at school who sits right in front of me, (the class isn't too crowded and I sit in the way back) I don't know much about her but I want to, the problem is that the class is a study hall last period the teacher is really strick and when the class starts there is no talking so I dunno what to do.

I at least want to get her attention, she is 2 years younger than me, i know she is pretty good looking, but I can't see her personality or get to know her because there is no talking. I sometimes see her in the hallway, but I thought it would be uncomfortable talking to her there when she really doesn't even know me.

It has only been a few days of school so I think I will just continue not to persue anything right now, you know like I might as well scout out and be seen first for a week or two when she sits down. But after that I was just curious if there are anyways to get her attention. The girl also seems a little shy or something I can't tell maybe she isn't, but after class I see her walking in the hall and she sees a friend and starts talking to her friends soo idk

I was wondering if you guys have any advice

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by P8ntLife189

This problem is in depth, and possibly a lost cause. But I'm fed up and I'm going to try it reguardless of outcome or odds. So there is this girl...and she has a bf they've been going out for awhile, but hes a ****ing ******* and we all know it, but she stays with him, we (I and the girl) started hanging out around july 4th, and we were together alot just me and her, I spent a straight week sleeping at her house, and she sleeps over my house and stuff and shes cheated on this guy a couple times now with me. Things were going good, but I got this weird feeling that maybe I was being led on, because I was playing the role of a bf but I wasn't getting the benefits and I didnt like how she still had a real bf. I wanted him to go away. All of my friends were on my case saying shes leading me on etc etc. Well I told her how I felt about it and **** kinda went to hell. But things bounced back and it was back to normal. She told me that if I smoked weed or drank etc she'd be pissed and stuff. Well we had a fight over that convo i had with her about the bf and me and how ****s weird. And I basically figured we'd never talk again, so I got wicked ****ed up that night. And she found out, and got really mad and tells me that she was planning on dumping the bf that week because it was unfair to me and that she likes me alot and that she even looked past the smoking and ****. But because of that I lost my "chance" with her so I was ****in pissed at myself for ****ing it up. So we split off for awhile and she started hanging out with my little sister (shes 14) the girl is 17 so i was like wtf? And my sister talks **** about me to her and said I called her a whore and the girl was rip**** at me. But she was at my house the other night and we talked and hung out and things were cool. She says I lost my chance but she kept hinting at stuff that I have another chance. She is still with the bf, and hes still an *******. Things are back to normal with me and her. But I want her so bad now. I am gunna try every game in the book, I need advice ST, how in God's name am I gunna win this chick back! I need advice/tips/watever to help me fix my huge mess and win this girl back. And to top things off, my friends dont really like her, and shes going to a new public school this year and ****.

tl;dr.....i ****ed up a ton, how to win a girl back and than win her over

bleachblonde help hah

First off, she is not relationship material. Her willingness to have essentially two boyfriends at the same time is a huge red flag.
Second, I garauntee the fact that you "lost your chance" because you got ****ed up is complete bull****. I am 99% sure that she made that up when she found out that you did something she didnt approve of, and she needed something to make you feel bad.
I think you should drop this girl like a bad habit. You shouldnt have to change yourself if the person truly likes you. She has shown zero regard for reasonable conduct in a relationship and sounds like a head case.

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by TheBear33

I have a girl in my class at school who sits right in front of me, (the class isn't too crowded and I sit in the way back) I don't know much about her but I want to, the problem is that the class is a study hall last period the teacher is really strick and when the class starts there is no talking so I dunno what to do.

I at least want to get her attention, she is 2 years younger than me, i know she is pretty good looking, but I can't see her personality or get to know her because there is no talking. I sometimes see her in the hallway, but I thought it would be uncomfortable talking to her there when she really doesn't even know me.

It has only been a few days of school so I think I will just continue not to persue anything right now, you know like I might as well scout out and be seen first for a week or two when she sits down. But after that I was just curious if there are anyways to get her attention. The girl also seems a little shy or something I can't tell maybe she isn't, but after class I see her walking in the hall and she sees a friend and starts talking to her friends soo idk

I was wondering if you guys have any advice

You seem pretty young so Ill try and steer you in the right direction.

Use the time before and after your study hall to talk to her. Pick a class you are taking and then before class ask her if she is in (insert class). You just broke the ice right there. Then once you break the ice introduce yourself. "How rude of me, I forgot to introduce myself, Im (name)." Chances are she will tell you her name. If not then ask.

So after this conversation takes place you will probably have to be quiet because of the teachers rules. But there are some things that you can do duing the class, tap her on the shoulder and ask to borrow a calculator, or a pencil.

hope these help.

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by underdog_153

So I think I finally have a problem that requires me to come here. Just a couple hours ago me and some of my freinds went to a pizza place to get some food to eat, anyways when we walk through the door I notice some pretty good looking employees. As we walk up I notice that one of them is taking a decent long look. Later on, I am playing some games in the arcade section, she comes up and asks my freinds and me if we are interested in guys???????? I was some what in to the game so I didnt really pay attention, so I didnt think she really asked that. But Later on she asks more in my direction if she can get my number for a guy she knows. WTF!?!? I keep on askin if she is ****in with me and what not, she says she not and does a little laugh that most girls are known to do. She goes back to work and Im at my game thinkin "what the hell was that about". She comes back and starts just to do smalltalk kinda, she asks me to smell her lip gloss and she says it smells good and then she says that it tingles her lips and blah blah blah. after me and my freinds leave we decide that she was just after my number, but the thing that gets me is if she wanted my number why not just ask for it instead of asking it for a gay guy she knows? Why would I give my number when she says its gonna go to a gay dude. I decided that on wednesday I am going back and talking to her, how do I talk about this to her, like im still somewhat in the WTF stage.

Go back there and tell her that you want her number to give to one of your lesbian friends. Then when she says that she isnt interested in girls, tell her then you want her number for yourself. She should give you her number, and when she does politely say thanks and leave.

Now wait 2-3 days after to call her. Call her and say hey I'm gonna be going to (insert interesting place), if you want to meet me there Ill probably be there around (insert time).