[wgpplayer4340 (Banned)]

Originally Posted by PBD3ATH

np lol. and WDP (or WGP, I forgot ) if she's 15 and given oral, that counts as a hoe for her age. go with the friends with benefits.

i want to be going out w/ her tho, what should i do to get her to like me

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by s|o|u|p| my antidrug

Reluctantly, I'm back for more advice. This girl tells me to call her around whatever time. When I do she is always on the other line . She say's she'll call me back later but never does. Should I give up?

Call her out on it but be playful. When she doesn't call back tell her she's screwing up her chances with you! If i girl says she'll call me and doesn't, i give her a little time, then i call her and i punish her. "Yanno, you're lucky i think you're cute, because when a girl says she'll call back and doesn't, i usually just move right along." It's cocky, but it works. Let her know she screwed up.

Originally Posted by wgpplayer4340

ok so theres this girl that i like and she is REALLY hot and i mean really hot. im 14 and shes 15, and the school year is like basicly over now and we met like the first day of school and been friends since then. im like 99.9% sure that she doesnt like me, so im not gonna ask her out yet. she likes me as a friend but nothing more. like in my yearbook she put "im so glad we met in health and english this year, weve had some good times, be safe this summer and play lots of paintball, we will hang out for sure, you should come partying with me, i love you. <3 always, _________." so, how do i get her to like me? oh this would be my first gf, and shes had like 40 bfs, so ya shes way more experienced.

#1 I want you to go through this ENTIRE THREAD and skim it. Look for all posts about attraction and alpha male status.

#2 Refine your question. How to get a girl to like you is a huge subject that has been covered in great detail in this thread.

Originally Posted by wgpplayer4340

the farthest shes gone is given oral, no sex

Well someone's gotta be the first. You could take some initiative and do it, or you can let some other guy do it. Take a back seat or driving the ****ing the car...which do you want to do?

[PBD3ATH]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

Well someone's gotta be the first. You could take some initiative and do it, or you can let some other guy do it. Take a back seat or driving the ****ing the car...which do you want to do?

While I agree with this, he made it sound like she hadn't done it just once, but a couple times. that was the basis of me saying she might be a little too ****ty, but of course, I have very high standards

[rdsx18]

So yea, I posted here a few days ago and my gf broke up with me yesterday. She said she was interested in the kid she was going to be set up with. So I was sad, and ynckssck16, being the great friend he is, said we should go to the mall. So we did. The moment we get there, these two girls say hi to us and then started following us around. So we messed around with them by walking in circles, then eventually told them we noticed. We talked a little more, got some #'s and were up till 3 AM talking to them. Now here is the problem, I came home this morning, and my ex's away message was "Yeah I am going to have to go to work crying, I made a huge mistake and I regret it now." So, i had her call me and she was crying about it to mee, and now I do not know what to do. Should I go for one of the girls I just met or should I try to mend a relationship?

[wgpplayer4340 (Banned)]

only once...

[N00bInG 0uT]

Originally Posted by rdsx18

So yea, I posted here a few days ago and my gf broke up with me yesterday. She said she was interested in the kid she was going to be set up with. So I was sad, and ynckssck16, being the great friend he is, said we should go to the mall. So we did. The moment we get there, these two girls say hi to us and then started following us around. So we messed around with them by walking in circles, then eventually told them we noticed. We talked a little more, got some #'s and were up till 3 AM talking to them. Now here is the problem, I came home this morning, and my ex's away message was "Yeah I am going to have to go to work crying, I made a huge mistake and I regret it now." So, i had her call me and she was crying about it to mee, and now I do not know what to do. Should I go for one of the girls I just met or should I try to mend a relationship?

Sometimes we (girls I mean) do make mistakes. But how long were you two together? If it wasn't very long she probably didn't put a lot of thought into her decision and she may truly be sorry. If you two were together for a long time, she probably had to think a lot about it and thought the other guy would be better, which is more of a reason not to take her back. Find out exactly WHY she regrets it...was it the guy she was set up with or that he wasnt as good as you? If it is the first answer, DONT look back because it will only happen again. If it is because she genuinly misses you, you could consider letting her back, but what you should do is be honest, tell her you met another girl and it would only be fair for you to go out with this girl at least once. Because, really, that is what she did to you. I would say go with my second course of action, the one I just talked about with you going out with the other girl at least once. If she's great (and it sounds like you might have chemistry) tell your ex she has no one to blame but herself because SHE left YOU not the other way around. She did make the decision and she should have to live with the condequences. If you do let her back, she may think she can do this again, so if you are going to let her back, wait a while...make her think about what she did.

[N00bInG 0uT]

Originally Posted by PBD3ATH

While I agree with this, he made it sound like she hadn't done it just once, but a couple times. that was the basis of me saying she might be a little too ****ty, but of course, I have very high standards

Before you judge her as a ****, get to know her. Unless she herself has told you the stuff she's done, don't believe HALF of what you hear. Also, a lot of girls who are so called "****s" have self esteem/abuse issues. Find out if soemthing like that is going on because it may explain a little to you. I'm not saying its an excuse or anything, but it would explain some of the stuff.

[rdsx18]

Originally Posted by N00bInG 0uT

Sometimes we (girls I mean) do make mistakes. But how long were you two together? If it wasn't very long she probably didn't put a lot of thought into her decision and she may truly be sorry. If you two were together for a long time, she probably had to think a lot about it and thought the other guy would be better, which is more of a reason not to take her back. Find out exactly WHY she regrets it...was it the guy she was set up with or that he wasnt as good as you? If it is the first answer, DONT look back because it will only happen again. If it is because she genuinly misses you, you could consider letting her back, but what you should do is be honest, tell her you met another girl and it would only be fair for you to go out with this girl at least once. Because, really, that is what she did to you. I would say go with my second course of action, the one I just talked about with you going out with the other girl at least once. If she's great (and it sounds like you might have chemistry) tell your ex she has no one to blame but herself because SHE left YOU not the other way around. She did make the decision and she should have to live with the condequences. If you do let her back, she may think she can do this again, so if you are going to let her back, wait a while...make her think about what she did.

Yes I actually plan on waiting if I do even take her back. We are still friends, but her reason for regreting it was because she wished it were me and the other kid was way too quiet. We had been going out for almost 8 months, and I already told her about the other girl, I thought she should know.

[damico]

Originally Posted by rdsx18

Yes I actually plan on waiting if I do even take her back. We are still friends, but her reason for regreting it was because she wished it were me and the other kid was way too quiet. We had been going out for almost 8 months, and I already told her about the other girl, I thought she should know.

I wouldn't go back with her, if you go back with her it will just be weird. This happened to me and we went back out with eachother and it lasted for about 2 weeks. It was stupid of her to leave you for another guy, she should live with her choice and you should just move on.

[Dejavu31]

Originally Posted by damico

I wouldn't go back with her, if you go back with her it will just be weird. This happened to me and we went back out with eachother and it lasted for about 2 weeks. It was stupid of her to leave you for another guy, she should live with her choice and you should just move on.

QFT fo shodo

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by rdsx18

So yea, I posted here a few days ago and my gf broke up with me yesterday. She said she was interested in the kid she was going to be set up with. So I was sad, and ynckssck16, being the great friend he is, said we should go to the mall. So we did. The moment we get there, these two girls say hi to us and then started following us around. So we messed around with them by walking in circles, then eventually told them we noticed. We talked a little more, got some #'s and were up till 3 AM talking to them. Now here is the problem, I came home this morning, and my ex's away message was "Yeah I am going to have to go to work crying, I made a huge mistake and I regret it now." So, i had her call me and she was crying about it to mee, and now I do not know what to do. Should I go for one of the girls I just met or should I try to mend a relationship?

Listen either choice is a good one. It's how you handle each one that's important. As far as the new girl, don't worry you are pretty open as far as options. With letting your ex get back in together with you, you should not let her back into your life without giving her so much **** it tares her apart. Bottom line, she left you for another guy, that's the must unloyal thing a girl can do. Fine, she finds another guy... go be happy with him!!!! If you take her back make sure she knows this **** will not fly again. She screwed up... rub her nose in it!!!!

[judge02]

Send the ladies this they will love you forever:

[PaInTbAlLFrEaK17 (Banned)]

I shoulda talked to this girl I know at gym. just talked, whatever. we're both in a similar program at school. I don't know her really well but it wouldn't be the first time we've ever met. plus she some...

[p8ntballguy25]

ok..for those who care, she was in a really bad relationship with one of my best friends and he broke up w/ her cuz she wouldn't do anything w/ him...so i was kinda the shoulder to cry on and stuff like that, bla, bla, uk? well, a few weeks go by and i ask her out and to prom and she says she had the "best night of her life" there, we go out for another few weeks and she says i'm the "best, perfect, most understanding guy ever" and other ****...then she goes away for the weekend...comes back saying i cheated on her, that shes afraid of me, that i'm too controlling and too jealous..wtf? anyways she breaks up with me and says that she needs time to study for final exams and state tests and that she doesnt want to be in a relationship at the same time, ok, i understand that...but 2 days later she's skipping review classes with her new boyfriend, who's a complete stoner and i have no idea what she sees in him? should I just give up and move on or tell her exactly what I think about her, that I want her back and would do anything she asked without hesitation?

[NaughtyD0gsPb]

Originally Posted by rdsx18

So yea, I posted here a few days ago and my gf broke up with me yesterday. She said she was interested in the kid she was going to be set up with. So I was sad, and ynckssck16, being the great friend he is, said we should go to the mall. So we did. The moment we get there, these two girls say hi to us and then started following us around. So we messed around with them by walking in circles, then eventually told them we noticed. We talked a little more, got some #'s and were up till 3 AM talking to them. Now here is the problem, I came home this morning, and my ex's away message was "Yeah I am going to have to go to work crying, I made a huge mistake and I regret it now." So, i had her call me and she was crying about it to mee, and now I do not know what to do. Should I go for one of the girls I just met or should I try to mend a relationship?

Just tell her that just like her you wanna try something else and then go date the girls you met.

[islandboi]

Just broke up with my girlfriend.. girl problems are now non-existant for me.

[zbmoss (Banned)]

Originally Posted by p8ntballguy25

ok..for those who care, she was in a really bad relationship with one of my best friends and he broke up w/ her cuz she wouldn't do anything w/ him...so i was kinda the shoulder to cry on and stuff like that, bla, bla, uk? well, a few weeks go by and i ask her out and to prom and she says she had the "best night of her life" there, we go out for another few weeks and she says i'm the "best, perfect, most understanding guy ever" and other ****...then she goes away for the weekend...comes back saying i cheated on her, that shes afraid of me, that i'm too controlling and too jealous..wtf? anyways she breaks up with me and says that she needs time to study for final exams and state tests and that she doesnt want to be in a relationship at the same time, ok, i understand that...but 2 days later she's skipping review classes with her new boyfriend, who's a complete stoner and i have no idea what she sees in him? should I just give up and move on or tell her exactly what I think about her, that I want her back and would do anything she asked without hesitation?

Honestly what do girls see in stoners lol maybe she lost interest in u while she was away wierd huh? then she decided to make up dumb reasons to convince herself to break up with u

[zbmoss (Banned)]

Originally Posted by rdsx18

So yea, I posted here a few days ago and my gf broke up with me yesterday. She said she was interested in the kid she was going to be set up with. So I was sad, and ynckssck16, being the great friend he is, said we should go to the mall. So we did. The moment we get there, these two girls say hi to us and then started following us around. So we messed around with them by walking in circles, then eventually told them we noticed. We talked a little more, got some #'s and were up till 3 AM talking to them. Now here is the problem, I came home this morning, and my ex's away message was "Yeah I am going to have to go to work crying, I made a huge mistake and I regret it now." So, i had her call me and she was crying about it to mee, and now I do not know what to do. Should I go for one of the girls I just met or should I try to mend a relationship?

Id go with both...

[zbmoss (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

"Yanno, you're lucky i think you're cute, because when a girl says she'll call back and doesn't, i usually just move right along." It's cocky, but it works. Let her know she screwed up.

Someones a player

[The Dread Pirate]

I've taken these from another message board that definately knows their **** when it comes to females. Read these before asking a question:

This is the question: "Okay, so I figured I'd try to pick up some game by observing my friend, since I've never had a "Game Rolemodel" before and after tonight and my 0-for-10 record, I find myself second guessing my figurings.

I have ZERO game. None. I talk to women and have ZERO idea of what the hell I'm doing. I need some pointers. I need an Idiot's Guide to developing game. Can you help me out?"


My answer:
I guess I have to start from the bottom and work up. Here goes the Idiots Guide to Developing Game:

A. Confidence: Before you EVER go out and talk to a woman, before you even leave your house, you have to be confident. I cannot emphasize this enough. You do not have to be Tucker Max, but you must have some minimal level of self-assuredness and self-awareness. If you are weak or unsure, the woman will see it almost immediately and will almost always be put off by it. Nothing smells worse to a woman than desperation.

How can you be confident? That's like asking how you can be creative. There is no definitive answer. Confidence comes from within, comes from an understanding and acceptance of who you are and a belief in yourself and your abilities. If you have nothing good about yourself to believe in, then find something or do something that can give you that belief. Seriously--develop a skill or talent that you are proud of. Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING flows from your inner self. It is the foundation that all game is built upon.

Some guys have good things about them, but they can't find the courage to believe in themselves. I can understand this, it happened to me when I was playing high school basketball. I was good, but I grew up playing unorganized playground ball until high school, and never really played to the level I should have during varsity practice because I was never comfortable. I didn't have confidence in my game.

That all changed one day. We were having a ****ty ****ty practice, everything was ****ed up, and the coach decided to scrimmage, but instead of a normal scrimmage, each one of us would "imitate" another player on the team. We would be someone else, the point being to show people how they play, so people could look at themselves and see their weaknesses displayed in another player.

I was assigned to be Brian Meeney, our star and an eventual D1 player at Long Island University. I pretended I was him. I lost my inhibitions, I forgot what I was "supposed" to be good at and what my weaknesses were "supposed" to be, and played completely out of my ****ing mind--because that's how he played. The best game I'd ever had, EVER, to that point in my life in an organized setting. I dominated the scrimmage. Everyone was shocked, the coach included, and he told me that if that was what it took, I should pretend to be Brian all the time. I didn't have to keep pretending, because that one practice was all it took and I eventually started playing.

The lesson:
Develop confidence in yourself. If you cannot develop confidence on your own, if you don't know what to do, then the next time you find yourself in a situation where you would normally back down or puss out or whatever, pretend you are someone else you respect. Pretend you are me. What would Tucker do? Then go ahead and do it. Go talk to that girl, drink that drink, etc.

I am the single greatest example of how confidence conquers. Do I have talent? Yes, but it's not that great, there are plenty more with greater talent than me. Am I good looking? I'm alright, but again, nothing special. So what is it that separates me from everyone else? What makes me me? Why am I going to be rich and famous, and so many others that have more talent and looks won't be?

Complete, utter, unshakable confidence in myself, confidence that is so high it borders on delusional hubris. Everything starts there. All of my other attributes have their foundation in my supreme egotism. Mark Twain, probably the greatest American writer ever, said it best, "With ignorance and arrogance, success is assured."

If you sit down and always consider all the possibilities, if you waste your time worrying what others will think, if you ponder whether or not you are good enough, then you never will be.

You know how many times in my life I have gotten something or achieved something because I tried where others begged off, because I threw my hat in the ring when others kept theirs on their head? You know how many hot girls I have gotten because I went up and talked to them, while everyone else was scared of them? Yes I have game, but my game is worthless sitting alone at a table. It takes balls to approach a hot girl or to put your life on the internet, and friends, I have two huge ones, and this is why I am a winner and will always be a winner.

It doesn't take huge balls, but achievement does require a belief in yourself and a willingness to take risks. There is no way to cheat that part of the system.


ONE IMPORTANT THING: Confidence without ability is little more than arrogant pomposity. I am not advocating that you go out and try and do what I do, unless you have my game. It is important that you be yourself, that you do what comes natural for you, that you don't step onto a court that you don't have the game to play on. I used to play b-ball at these outdoor courts, where there were like four courts lined up in a row. Court 1 was the best players, Court 4 were the complete scrubs, and 2 and 3 there were somewhere in between. I started on Court 4, because I wasn't good enough for 1, 2, or 3. Even though I was confident in myself, I knew my limits and I understood who I was, which at that point was a crappy basketball player. I eventually became a regular on Court 1, but it took time and dedication.

At it's core, confidence comes from the internal belief that you can accomplish the task at hand, so in some ways, this is a Catch 22 for guys without game. How can you get confidence with having game? Trial and error. Follow my instructions below, and go out and talk to women and you will get better, believe in yourself more, and thereby get even better. Nothing helps you improve like a positive feedback loop.


--OK, so now you have confidence, but confidence by itself means nothing if you are sitting at home alone. Where do you go from there?

B. Make yourself presentable: You do not have to be some idiotic guido who is vain beyond Naomi Campbell levels, but at least have a minimal level of cleanliness, hygiene, and fashion. If you do not have a good sense of style, that's fine, just wear the same nondescript things that every other guy does. I dress as non-descript as possible, and it works fine.

This is pretty easy to accomplish, but you'd be surprised how many guys **** it up. Well, girls wouldn't, because they see it. You don't need to win girls with your looks or style, but your goal should be to at least not lose anyone because of how you are dressed. If you are unsure how to dress, go out, look at what the successful guys are wearing, and copy them until you develop your own style.

Alright, you are confident, dressed reasonably well, so what now?

C. Talk to women: Seems basic doesn't it--but guess what? Most guys just go out and sip beers with their friends and don't do ****. You can't get big without lifting weight, you can't get fast without running sprints, and you can't have game without talking to women.

This of course begs the question, "How?"

I am going to assume that you know the woman. This is a thread on beginning game, and I never ask beginners to go out and pick up women on their own. How to approach and pick up women is medium level game, and we'll cover that another time, here we are going to assume that you know the woman or have been introduced in some way or another, and are past the introductory phases.

You are a relatively confident, decently dressed guy, and you have the attention of the woman. Guess what--you are at least half way there. The problem is that from this point forward, you are kinda on your own. I cannot script a conversation for you, and I cannot tell you what to talk about. A conversation is a dynamic, organic thing. What I can do is tell you how to talk to a woman, but not necessarily what to talk about.

1. Be attentive: When you are talking to a woman, pay attention to her. Listen to what they say, don't just wait for your turn to speak. Engage them on the topic, do not just blabber on about what you want to talk about. BUT--do not take this too far. DO NOT fawn over her, and DO NOT act like she is your universe. On the other hand, you can play it nonchalant and cool, but even if you do that, make it clear you are interested in the conversation and you enjoy talking to her (If you don't enjoy talking to her, then don't talk to her. If you are just talking to her to get laid, then fake it).

2. Do not focus on yourself, unless it's natural: Most people, especially guys, do this; they continually talk about themselves and always relate the topic at hand back to themselves. This is because most people are blindly self-centered, and don't even realize what they are doing. Avoid doing this. Women generally HATE guys who just drone on about themselves. Focus on her or on mutually interesting topics, and talk about yourself only if it is natural to the conversation. Make the conversation about a topic, not about yourself.

[The Dread Pirate]

Continued from above

3. Be funny/witty/perceptive/intelligent/etc: There are few things worse than a boring person. If you are that guy, you are not getting laid without a credit card. Make funny observations, say smart things, have witty comebacks, etc. I'm not even sure how to explain anymore here, you either know what I'm talking about or you don't. If you don't know how to be funny or witty, then hang out with people who are and imitate them until you develop your own style. That's basically how I learned.

One legitimate question you could have here though is not "How do I be funny," but something like, "I am funny around my friends, but I just get nervous around women, I freeze up and I'm just not as funny."

This goes back to the confidence question. You are nervous because you are not experienced with women, and thus you have no basis for confidence. There IS a solution to this problem. Actually, there are two ways to get over your nervousness around women:

The Tucker Solution: Remember when you had a girlfriend? Talk to girls as if you are talking to your girlfriend's friends. When you talk to your girlfriends friends, you are funny and witty and charming because you are loose and there is no pressure. There is always that underlying sexual tension, barely felt, because you know that deep down they are evaluating you as a potential mate, but you don't approach them in a sexual manner, which drives them nuts. When you are talking to the girl, just tell yourself that you have no desire to sleep with her and you could less what comes of the interaction, but you still want to be nice. This approach to the conversation will make you loose and natural, and very attractive. Think about it: How many times have you found yourself doing great flirting with some old woman, because it was completely harmless and you had nothing to lose? Be that way with all women by pretending they are that old woman, or that woman that you have no real desire to sleep with.

The DrunkRex Solution: "Stop CARING what the woman thinks about every word that comes out of your mouth. You care because you do not want to get rejected or look like a chump when they don't buy your game or call BS. Whatever. Who cares? At the end of the night, the handful of girls you talked to that evening will have their lips WRAPPED around somebody's cock and it might as well be yours. Being confident in what you are saying and not caring about the outcome of neither your conversation nor the evening as a whole will make you more attractive most women."

In reality, the solutions are just different mental approaches to the same end--You are releasing your desire, and as a result you are not invested in the outcome and are not putting any pressure on yourself. You are reducing your stress level, and humans almost always perform better in a relaxed non-stressful environment.

Just ask yourself--how many times have you been more successful with a girl you didn't even think you were hitting on, than one you did?


4. Display your strengths: I cannot emphasize this enough. Whatever you are, whatever it is you are good at, accentuate it. Women are naturally attracted to males who display some sort of quantifiable talent, some skill or ability that is valued in society. Have you ever wondered how ******* professional athletes or **** bag rockstars get *****? It has NOTHING to do with them as people; most of them suck horribly. Women are attracted to the fact that they have highly valued skills or talents, things that translate to power.

For you, being Joe Anonymous, it means that you need to give the woman something to admire or find attractive, and it usually doesn't take much. My god, even professional Golden Tee players have groupies. I can't tell you how many times in my life I've been spitting good game at a girl and she has given me no love, but once she finds out I have a JD, or I wrote two books, or any number of other cool things about me, she does a 180 and is completely into me. Many times it has nothing to do with your game--sometimes it's all about what you have to offer, so display it.

One note--Be somewhat humble about talking about your achievements. Unless you are a douche bag jamook, and all you have to offer is your coco-butter soaked body, don't just go around talking about how great you are. It always plays better if she finds out your achievements indirectly. It is a difficult dance, but that is what good wingmen are for--to tell her about you, so you don't have too.

Why you don't have a girlfriend:

The most basic assumption of this thread it that it refers to guys who want a girlfriend but do not have one. I know far more women who want boyfriends and "can't" find one than men who want girlfriend and "can't" find one, but here is the basic problem with most men who want but don't have a mate:

1. Have realistic standards: As far as I can see, this is the biggest problem with most guys I know. Their standards are ridiculously high and totally unattainable. Guys, unless you posing for covers of Men's Health, why do you think you are going to get the girls posing for covers of Maxim? Unless you are filthy rich, why do you think you are going to get the women that hang out at [insert favorite local hot gold digger hangout]? Unless you are a truly awesome guy, why do you think you can get a truly awesome girl?

Furthermore, the women you see in magazines and on TV are NOT REAL. Do you have any idea how much work goes into even a standard photo shoot in Playboy or Maxim or any of those mags? All the make-up and lighting and wardrobe and whatnot? ANd the post-photo shoot work also? The way you see the women in those magazines is NOT the way they are in real life; that is after a graphic designer goes through and removes all their skin blemishes, or artificially lengthens their legs relative to body size, or increases breast size, or dilates pupils, or does 100 other things to make the pic better than reality. Take this from someone who has hooked up with many women who have been models of one sort or the other, I can't tell you the number of times I will see a picture of the girl I am ****ing in a magazine, and ask, "Where is this girl? I want to **** her." Don't expect women to look like something that doesn't even exist.

You need to ask yourself who you are and where you fit in the social order, and then date girls that match up with you. There is no shame in trying to date up, but if you continually fail at this, then maybe you should re-evaluate what you think about yourself and what you can get. If all you do is hit on 4-stars and get no dates, start hitting on 3-stars (or do something to make 4-stars into you), and stop expecting all women to look like the unattainable and imaginary women that are in magazines.


2. Stop being so ****ing desperate: The dudes I know that want girlfriends and don't have them tend to be desperate fools. I don't know if this is a function of who they are or their situation, but guys, there is nothing a woman hates more than a desperate guy. Act lke you already have it, and you will get more of it. Act like you don't have it and really want it, and you won't get any. Pretty simple.


3. Take care of yourself: This is a simple one also. You need to look presentable. You don't have to be super hot or dress like Samuel Jackson, but you should look like you care about yourself. If you are fat, get in shape. If you wear sweatpants to bars, stop. If your shirts have stains, clean them. Do you want to date a slob? Of course not. Then don't expect your potential girlfriend to want to date a slob either.


4. If you want to date someone, be dateable: This is a big one, and it applies equally to men and women. If you want cool people around, you need to bring something to the table that makes cool people want to hang out with you, and if you want to date someone, be someone who is dateable. Girls talk all kinds of **** about what they want in men, but at the end of the day, all most of them want is someone they are attrached to and who treats them well. For most women, this is not an impossible bar to jump.


Let me tell all of you something: If you want a boy/girlfriend, regardless of whether you are a men or a woman, and you don't have some major issue like mongoloidism or elephantitis, you can find one. All you have to do is be honest with yourself about who you are, who you can attract, and make some small simple changes to give yourself the best chance of getting a mate, and go out and meet lots of people so you can find someone you mesh with. It's really that simple.