[orbit5454]

hey guys i got a problem
this isnt really a relationship problem but just i need help. im going to be a sophomore next year and ive never had a g/f but i really want one, i just dont know how to talk to girls or how to ask them on a date or anything. i really need some help because i just dont know how to do this whole thing, so if anybody can give me some advice it will be appreciated

[volcomstone2262]

Get them drunk and they will do more than talking

But really just talk to them its kinda sad if you are 15 or 16

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by orbit5454

hey guys i got a problem
this isnt really a relationship problem but just i need help. im going to be a sophomore next year and ive never had a g/f but i really want one, i just dont know how to talk to girls or how to ask them on a date or anything. i really need some help because i just dont know how to do this whole thing, so if anybody can give me some advice it will be appreciated

Your question is pretty vague. I could write a book on everything you need to do. I would say start by reading the last 39 pages of this thread.

Originally Posted by ynkssck16

thanx thats what i waz plannin on doin but i kinda screwed it up.....alot

Oh god, what did you do?

[lakebball89 (Banned)]

Originally Posted by orbit5454

hey guys i got a problem
this isnt really a relationship problem but just i need help. im going to be a sophomore next year and ive never had a g/f but i really want one, i just dont know how to talk to girls or how to ask them on a date or anything. i really need some help because i just dont know how to do this whole thing, so if anybody can give me some advice it will be appreciated

well first, you need to start talking to them. and when you do this make sure to talk about things that interest both of you. dont talk about things like pbn, because they will think you're gay. also, be funny, but dont make it obvious you are trying to be funny. girls LOVE it when you make them laugh.

second, you dont know how 'to ask them on a date or anything'? do you know simple english? 'hey, do you wanna go to the movies or something this weekend?' will be sufficient enough for any girl interested in you.. which leads to point three.

third, dont be afraid. everyone gets rejected. every single girl possibly could say no, big deal. soem girls will actually be impressed you have the balls to ask them out. i know the first time you ask a girl out its tough, but after that it gets easier every time.

fourth, BE A GENTLEMAN! girls love that kind of stuff... you know stuf like opening the doors blah blah, and be nice for christ's sake. tell them how nice they look. when you do this, they will smile and look down, which means, that they didnt think you'd think that, and when they say, no i dont, make sure you stress they do because, they want to hear you say it again, because it made them happy

and fifth, no matter how cliche it sounds, be yourself, and be confident about yourself, come across as confident but not cocky, and DO NOT come across as afraid

so do that and you can land girls... gaurenteed

[PBD3ATH]

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[Lathrop$]

I've run out of tips, my last 2 or 3 responses were kind of dry. All I gotta say, and this goes for all of you, is try your hardest to love yourself so you can get some confidence going on. With confidence, boldness and suaveness come naturally. All you need is confidence.

[Muffin123 (Banned)]

Originally Posted by lakebball89

well first, you need to start talking to them. and when you do this make sure to talk about things that interest both of you. dont talk about things like pbn, because they will think you're gay. also, be funny, but dont make it obvious you are trying to be funny. girls LOVE it when you make them laugh.

second, you dont know how 'to ask them on a date or anything'? do you know simple english? 'hey, do you wanna go to the movies or something this weekend?' will be sufficient enough for any girl interested in you.. which leads to point three.

third, dont be afraid. everyone gets rejected. every single girl possibly could say no, big deal. soem girls will actually be impressed you have the balls to ask them out. i know the first time you ask a girl out its tough, but after that it gets easier every time.

fourth, BE A GENTLEMAN! girls love that kind of stuff... you know stuf like opening the doors blah blah, and be nice for christ's sake. tell them how nice they look. when you do this, they will smile and look down, which means, that they didnt think you'd think that, and when they say, no i dont, make sure you stress they do because, they want to hear you say it again, because it made them happy

and fifth, no matter how cliche it sounds, be yourself, and be confident about yourself, come across as confident but not cocky, and DO NOT come across as afraid

so do that and you can land girls... gaurenteed

when im sitting in the movies when is the best time to lean over for a kiss? i mean how do i start it because i just dont want to be sitting in the movies with a girl a seat away from me doing nothing at all and just watching it and being bored as hell.

[t_mo (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Muffin123

when im sitting in the movies when is the best time to lean over for a kiss? i mean how do i start it because i just dont want to be sitting in the movies with a girl a seat away from me doing nothing at all and just watching it and being bored as hell.

Good question, I've been lurking in this thread for quite some time and no post has had the quality to garner me taking the time to construct a response.
So your going to do the typical dinner and a movie. Understandable and its actually fun. I'll list out things I think will help you suceed.
1. YOU pick the movie, dont get suckered into a movie you dont like. If you wouldnt see it with your friends than dont see it with a girl on a date. (Mind you when you are in a relationship you get dragged into many unfortunate things)
2. When you are putting cologne on before you go out, squirt some in your finger, then rub you fingers together and put some behind each ear. Only a little you dont want to smell like you are trying to cover something up. (this will make sense later)
3. Dont pay for her ticket. Go up to the ticket office first, ask for 1 and then buy yours and proceed as normal. This will throw her for an absolute loop!
4. Pick the seat, dont let her decide.
5. During the previews, begin to whisper in her ear. About anything, the people in front of you, the movie trailer. Just make conversation. Whispering allows you to be close to her. AND when she whispers back that cologne trick should make her feel all tingly in her underpants.
6. End the conversation when the movie starts, (throwing her for a loop again) watch the movie intently.
7. Now here is the part that is always in movies and books, how do you put your arm around the girl. Well its been made to be harder than it is. JUST DO IT. Dont stretch, dont pretend, be assertive and make sure you dont hesitate. When you do put your arm around her, look at her because chances are she will be surprised but not creeped out and look up at you. Look back and smile only, then continue on the watching the movie.
8. Now you are in position, she is expecting to be kissed. So what do you do, Take you arm away! sit back and act like nothing happened. If she questions it than simply tell her it go tired or that it fell asleep.
9. I think its more akward to kiss a girl when you arm is around her anyway. So now that you are sitting normally. Begin casual conversation again.
10. Have your whispering conversation, so she is close.
11. Wait for her to make fun of you somehow. After she whispers her jab in your ear she will wait for you to turn to make eye contact to gauge your reaction, this is the perfect time to swoop in for the kill.
12. While she is giggling about the crack she just made kiss her. Not a full on make out, just kiss her on the lips, and turn away after, or you can pull away and smile.
13. Now you are in, just take it from there. If you want to have a full on movie makeout session you can. It is usually good to put your arm around her after you kiss her because she will be all gitty. But once you get a kiss you are golden.

good luck.

[TeamOutcast614]

Originally Posted by Muffin123

when im sitting in the movies when is the best time to lean over for a kiss? i mean how do i start it because i just dont want to be sitting in the movies with a girl a seat away from me doing nothing at all and just watching it and being bored as hell.

umm dont expect action first date? just watch the movie, kiss after when you walk to door...

[iplaypballsometimes]

i got a problem for ya'll. so my old "girlfriend"(we both liked eachother, i asked her out, she said yes, we didnt really do that, now she's goin out with my friend) is having a friend that is visiting from out of state on friday and she wanted to hook me up with her, i said yeah i'd probably be good with that. last night i was talking to my old "girlfriend" on the phone and she described her friend as a preppy white girl with blonde hair, blue eyes, and she said that she hooks up with a lot of guys at her school. well i was just talking to this girl on aim and she gave me her myspace and she is uhhh well not at all what i was expecting. i was expecting about an 8 and she is around a 5. this girl really wants to hook up with me and i was wondering if i should just go along with it and have some fun or just give up on her.

by the way i go to private school so there arent really many chances to hook up with girls there. thanks

also, this isnt my real name on here.

[Mem]

Originally Posted by t_mo

Good question, I've been lurking in this thread for quite some time and no post has had the quality to garner me taking the time to construct a response.
So your going to do the typical dinner and a movie. Understandable and its actually fun. I'll list out things I think will help you suceed.


good luck.

This sounds liek a david deangelo type of thing.. is that where you got it from? (just wondering)

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by iplaypballsometimes

i got a problem for ya'll. so my old "girlfriend"(we both liked eachother, i asked her out, she said yes, we didnt really do that, now she's goin out with my friend) is having a friend that is visiting from out of state on friday and she wanted to hook me up with her, i said yeah i'd probably be good with that. last night i was talking to my old "girlfriend" on the phone and she described her friend as a preppy white girl with blonde hair, blue eyes, and she said that she hooks up with a lot of guys at her school. well i was just talking to this girl on aim and she gave me her myspace and she is uhhh well not at all what i was expecting. i was expecting about an 8 and she is around a 5. this girl really wants to hook up with me and i was wondering if i should just go along with it and have some fun or just give up on her.

by the way i go to private school so there arent really many chances to hook up with girls there. thanks

also, this isnt my real name on here.

Self respect is the most important kind. With that being said, it's your call, but i wouldn't lower my standards because some girl really likes me.

[s|o|u|p| my antidrug (Banned)]

I suppose my problem is comparatively simple but I'm having a hard time coming to a resolution. Last Sunday, I called this girl to se if she wanted to hang out sometime sans other people. We talked briefly because, unfortunately, she was on the other line. She said she would call back and hung up. On Monday she left for California for a month. Its now Wednesday and I have recieved no call back. I doubt she's the type to blow me off but I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I call her, I'll come off as desprate. What should I do? If I call her, how should I not sound desperate?

[doogisakdov]

Originally Posted by s|o|u|p| my antidrug

I suppose my problem is comparatively simple but I'm having a hard time coming to a resolution. Last Sunday, I called this girl to se if she wanted to hang out sometime sans other people. We talked briefly because, unfortunately, she was on the other line. She said she would call back and hung up. On Monday she left for California for a month. Its now Wednesday and I have recieved no call back. I doubt she's the type to blow me off but I don't know what to do. I'm afraid if I call her, I'll come off as desprate. What should I do? If I call her, how should I not sound desperate?

Call her. Ask her why she didn't call you and you got worried when she didn't.

Maybe if she thinks you actually care she'll go "awww that's so cute!"

Then buttsecks.

[s|o|u|p| my antidrug (Banned)]

I'm not so sure we're to the "worrying about eachother" stage being that I've talked to her a wopping two times. Any idea as to how I could make it seem like a casual call?

[~Maxpow+DarshSauce~ (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

Self respect is the most important kind. With that being said, it's your call, but i wouldn't lower my standards because some girl really likes me.

Yeah I made that mistake once. Ugh. Dont do it man. But of course after I decided that she didnt meet standards she started looking better. Life is a ho. But now I've found someone that I'm absolutely in love with so its all good

[~Maxpow+DarshSauce~ (Banned)]

Originally Posted by s|o|u|p| my antidrug

I'm not so sure we're to the "worrying about eachother" stage being that I've talked to her a wopping two times. Any idea as to how I could make it seem like a casual call?

Just be sarcastic. Say "thanks for calling me back meanie" and she'll be like "oops sorry" and then you go on with your convorsation.

If she has an excuse say "likely story" but make sure she knows you are kidding so chuckle and laugh and say "just kiddin'" if necessary.

[MikePB21]

Originally Posted by MikePB21

I've run out of tips, my last 2 or 3 responses were kind of dry. All I gotta say, and this goes for all of you, is try your hardest to love yourself so you can get some confidence going on. With confidence, boldness and suaveness come naturally. All you need is confidence.

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[joobaca]

alright i just got a new gf last night. i didnt call her all today i havent talked to her today. do i wait for her to call me or do i call her? do i act like i dont give a damn and just let her come to me? play hard to get? or do i call her and make an attempt? im not worrying about her not liking me cuz i ****ing got this chick. what do i do!?!?

[NaughtyD0gsPb]

Originally Posted by joobaca

alright i just got a new gf last night. i didnt call her all today i havent talked to her today. do i wait for her to call me or do i call her? do i act like i dont give a damn and just let her come to me? play hard to get? or do i call her and make an attempt? im not worrying about her not liking me cuz i ****ing got this chick. what do i do!?!?

Perfect situation lol I just watched Swingers and the guy never can wait the right amount of time to call. Well I wouldn't recommend calling until the 2nd day. Like tommorow don't call then the next day do it. And if you do call don't call more then one time unless she asks you to call her back ro something it looks awful and usually girls take it wrong and get creeped out. Goodluck and congrats

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by joobaca

alright i just got a new gf last night. i didnt call her all today i havent talked to her today. do i wait for her to call me or do i call her? do i act like i dont give a damn and just let her come to me? play hard to get? or do i call her and make an attempt? im not worrying about her not liking me cuz i ****ing got this chick. what do i do!?!?

well if she's your gf it shouldn't really matter. Unless it's that type of gf where you dated once and now you're together. After about the 5th or 6th date (or 2 casual sexual experiences) how often and when you call doesn't matter. I like to call at like 2 am when i get home from the bar just to be a dick!

If you've only dated like once or twice, give it at least 36 hours!

Originally Posted by ~Maxpow+DarshSauce~

Just be sarcastic. Say "thanks for calling me back meanie" and she'll be like "oops sorry" and then you go on with your convorsation.

If she has an excuse say "likely story" but make sure she knows you are kidding so chuckle and laugh and say "just kiddin'" if necessary.

You took the words right out of my mouth