[EvilTrix]

So I have a problem with girls....they are all dumb as hell when they are young.

The current one I dated for a month, but turns out she doubted the relationship two weeks into it but declined to tell me, but told her best friend instead. Well, she broke up with me because she felt 'rushed', we started talking a few days later and had a pregnecy scare, as her period came 3 days late (She promised me she only had sex with me, I don't believe her as she's always horny). She came over, we watched a movie and she got me off twice in a two hour period (she's ALWAYS horny), then told me she has a date friday with this Levi guy who her mom is trying to set her up with. I'm older then all of these kids, and her mom hates me because I slept at her place one night when the mother was out of town. Anyway, she's telling me she loves me (after knowing her almost two months...) and telling her best friend that she has two guys in her life, and "Levi" (who the **** names a kid levi? retards) is a lot better looking and more country. I have a tendency to trick girls into liking me, and talked to the best friend on the phone for 80 mins just now. Should I just go for the best friend JUST to piss the ex off? The best friend is better looking, but always talking and annoying, not dating material. Whatcha all think?

[Jeremy1026]

Originally Posted by AKMetal

alright.. i live in a small town, highschool population of 800, there are no neighboring schools as i live in Kodiak Alaska. So as you have said Bleachednblonde, once a friend, always a friend.

I can start conversation with girls i dont know, but i usually fall into the "friend" category... how do I avoid this? What do I do differently and let them know that I am not just interested in being only a friend.

eww stuck in the friend zone! but seriously, your best shot for not getting stuck in the friend zone is to push your way past it right away. as soon as you feel your getting sucked into it, ask her out, ask her to go dog sledding ( dont know wat all is up there). not as a "b/f, g/f date" but a "lets get to know each other a little bettee date." just my advice.

[damico]

Originally Posted by Peaches N Kreme

i have an extremely large wang, and every time i want to bone a hoe they all back out because of the size

You gotta trim that "beast" down.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by AKMetal

alright.. i live in a small town, highschool population of 800, there are no neighboring schools as i live in Kodiak Alaska. So as you have said Bleachednblonde, once a friend, always a friend.

I can start conversation with girls i dont know, but i usually fall into the "friend" category... how do I avoid this? What do I do differently and let them know that I am not just interested in being only a friend.

This is a huge topic and there's so much i could say about it. It's really all about your state of mind. You need to go into this thinking, "I have no interest in being friends with this girl, i want to BE with this girl."

Now knowing that the main problem is guys do not know how to differentiate what they should do to make a girl their friend and what they should do to get a girl attracted to them.

1) I don't care what the rest of the world tells you... women ARE NOT attracted to emotional, sensitive guys. Sensitivity to a point is good. You don't want to be like a stone, at the same time you don't want to be sitting and crying with her watching Sleepless in Seatle. How many times have you heard some "nice guy" *****ing about how he lost some girl to a "complete jerk!"

2) The complete jerk... usually isn't a jerk at all. He is just really good with women. And being really good means, confusing them and sometimes upsetting them. IT DOES NOT MEAN lying, intentionally hurting, decieving, or abusing her. Well when women are confused or upset they go and cry to their beta male friend... who then precieves the other guy as a JERK.

3) Our brains are still mechanically hard wired from thousands of years ago. A woman instinctivly goes after a man who has the characteristics that will make him a good mate and give her the greatest potential to reproduce and protect her offspring. SO THIS MEANS YOU NEED TO GET INTO ALPHA MALE STATE OF MIND.


So how do you become an alpha male...

well follow some great examples of alpha males. James bond and Tyler durden are the first ones that come to my mind. Being alpha means leading the pack... it does not mean being an *******. I can only begin to describe to you what an alpha male is like, but just think of a pack of wolves. The alpha leads the group. He doesn't take ****, he knows he's good, and he knows he has power. THIS ALL BOILS DOWN TO SELF CONFIDENCE. It doesn't matter what you look like or who you are, if you begin to act like you are top dog, you will eventually become top dog.

You can turn almost anything into "alpha status." I am a small guy, 5'11" 150 lbs... by no means do i intimiate anyone or do i instantly give off alpha status. So what makes women realize i am not to be ****ed with... my personality. The way i hold myself. The way i walk, talk, eat, and ****. I make no appologies for who i am and i step aside for no one. Now this is not me being a hard *** either. If some guy wants to pick a fight with me i'm about the last person in the world to throw down. Instead, i will use the situation to make him look like an idiot... thus gaining me the upper hand of Alpha status.

Here's an example. I hit on some girl who's got some big guy chasing her. He starts acting like a punk and implies he wants to fight. Infront of his girl i will say something along the lines of...

"Woah woah dude. First, we're gonna flex our muscles, then we're gonna see who can do more push ups, and finally we'll arm wrestle, and then let the lady decide." I then roll my eyes and turn my back on the guy and go back to talking to his girl.

All i had to do to tool this guy was take his own game, and turn it around on him to make him look like a jackass.

If he persists you keep going at him, turn everyone against him. "damn dude you really want to fight... god i feel like we're in 6th grade all over again... Why don't you take a seat there slugger and have another drink?"

So finally, here's what i do when i want to make it known that i am not interested in being just friends with a girl (this starts from the minute you meet her!)

1) She is not allowed to tool me in any way. I do not buy her drinks, i do not give in to her demands. If she says "wait here i have to use the restroom" I'll walk away and let her come find me later. It is important that she realizes you are not some puppy dog that will follow her around

2) I only speak highly of myself. I don't brag, but at the same time i don't tell her about the embarassing time i got caught jerkin' it by my mom or something like that. The stories you tell her should demonstrate that you are better than the rest... they should demonstrate your alpha side.

3) TEASE TEASE TEASE. Tell her that her hair looks awful tonight... and say with a huge smile so she can't tell if your playing around or serious.

4) After you've hooked her and she's shown that she's interesting in you (if she asks you questions, touches you) you give back... but only a little. Next time you laugh put your hand on hers and look into her eyes. Then cut the moment off.

5) PUSH PULL! Women want what they can't have. Show her what she could have, then take it away. Act like you want to be her boyfriend, then pull back and act like just a friend. Take one step backwards and two steps forwards.

Example: Tell her what great friends you're going to be... and then kiss her.

6) TAKE CHARGE! You decide whether or not you're going to give her the chance to come home with you. You decide if you want a relationship with her. AND MOST IMPORANTLY make her prove her worth to you. I ALWAYS ASK A GIRL... "so what makes you special/different from every other girl here?"


I realize that this is alot to take in and that it is kind of vague. Unfortuantly there is no outline i can give you to get a woman attracted to you. It's a state of mind and a skill that comes with practice. The best i can do is give you examples from my own life and those around me. Hope this helps.

Originally Posted by EvilTrix

So I have a problem with girls....they are all dumb as hell when they are young.

The current one I dated for a month, but turns out she doubted the relationship two weeks into it but declined to tell me, but told her best friend instead. Well, she broke up with me because she felt 'rushed', we started talking a few days later and had a pregnecy scare, as her period came 3 days late (She promised me she only had sex with me, I don't believe her as she's always horny). She came over, we watched a movie and she got me off twice in a two hour period (she's ALWAYS horny), then told me she has a date friday with this Levi guy who her mom is trying to set her up with. I'm older then all of these kids, and her mom hates me because I slept at her place one night when the mother was out of town. Anyway, she's telling me she loves me (after knowing her almost two months...) and telling her best friend that she has two guys in her life, and "Levi" (who the **** names a kid levi? retards) is a lot better looking and more country. I have a tendency to trick girls into liking me, and talked to the best friend on the phone for 80 mins just now. Should I just go for the best friend JUST to piss the ex off? The best friend is better looking, but always talking and annoying, not dating material. Whatcha all think?

Dating the best friend makes you look bitter...SO DONT DO IT. It just pisses her off and makes you look trashy. It sounds like your ex is just playing head games. play them back... and step it up. Tell her about how you enjoy being just friends with her. REFRAME HER... right now she's calling the shots and playing push pull with you. Turn it around so you call the shots play push pull with her! Date another girl and tell her about it, then kiss her and tell her she's the only girl for you.

Or if games aren't your style, cut the whole situation out of your life and start clean.

[cookie123]

Ok well i finally have a girl problem, a stupid one.

Well a little background, im a pretty shy kid so i dont meet a lot of girls. But a friend introduced me to one i really liked, and i eventually ended up going out with her. but i was super shy and didnt really know how to act around her. So I would just act like i did when we were friends, I found out that was a stupid idea when she dumped me. And I eventually got over it, but we kept in touch for a while. Eventually we started growing a part and i didnt talk to her for about 3 or 4 months.

Now for the story:
well i recently got back in touch with her, and started having feelings for her again. But again, I still dont know what i should do. I dont know how i could get her to give me a second chance. But then she told me she was moving to las vegas in a month or two. and id really like to ask her out so i could just get a second chance before she leaves. So she can see how i really feel.

sorry i know it sounds cheesy but please help.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by cookie123

Ok well i finally have a girl problem, a stupid one.

Well a little background, im a pretty shy kid so i dont meet a lot of girls. But a friend introduced me to one i really liked, and i eventually ended up going out with her. but i was super shy and didnt really know how to act around her. So I would just act like i did when we were friends, I found out that was a stupid idea when she dumped me. And I eventually got over it, but we kept in touch for a while. Eventually we started growing a part and i didnt talk to her for about 3 or 4 months.

Now for the story:
well i recently got back in touch with her, and started having feelings for her again. But again, I still dont know what i should do. I dont know how i could get her to give me a second chance. But then she told me she was moving to las vegas in a month or two. and id really like to ask her out so i could just get a second chance before she leaves. So she can see how i really feel.

sorry i know it sounds cheesy but please help.

Not my area of expertise… my ex girlfriends hate me and I’m completely content with that. I guess if I was going to game an ex though I’d do the same thing I would as if I met a new girl. I’d lay the jealousy on thick, and do a lot of push pull with her.

Put some serious thought into this though. Is it really worth your time to prove something to a woman you may never see again? Also, if this does work and you get back together, how will you feel in a month or two when it has to end? It seems to me you’re investing in something that won’t bring back a good return. You’re time and effort would be better used elsewhere.

[aK ArMy]

Originally Posted by kleivonen

ok, so the girl i like is on my lacrosse team, and we talk a lot... anyway im thinking of asking her out but my freinds say it would look weird... mainly because she is 4'11 and im 6'2...

anyway shes really nice and i think i would have a chance with her.. we are 14 and this would be my first gf...

should i ask her?

i had the same problem but she was the freshman softball pitcher on varsity, so now i go to all her games and never play paintball... but she apper\\\\

[TRD]

hey beachblonde thanx, AKA Hitch imma use some of your techniqes on a girl when i take her to the beach on saterday

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by TRD

hey beachblonde thanx, AKA Hitch imma use some of your techniqes on a girl when i take her to the beach on saterday

Sounds good, best of luck

[croix153™ (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

This is a huge topic and there's so much i could say about it. It's really all about your state of mind. You need to go into this thinking, "I have no interest in being friends with this girl, i want to BE with this girl."

Now knowing that the main problem is guys do not know how to differentiate what they should do to make a girl their friend and what they should do to get a girl attracted to them.

1) I don't care what the rest of the world tells you... women ARE NOT attracted to emotional, sensitive guys. Sensitivity to a point is good. You don't want to be like a stone, at the same time you don't want to be sitting and crying with her watching Sleepless in Seatle. How many times have you heard some "nice guy" *****ing about how he lost some girl to a "complete jerk!"

2) The complete jerk... usually isn't a jerk at all. He is just really good with women. And being really good means, confusing them and sometimes upsetting them. IT DOES NOT MEAN lying, intentionally hurting, decieving, or abusing her. Well when women are confused or upset they go and cry to their beta male friend... who then precieves the other guy as a JERK.

3) Our brains are still mechanically hard wired from thousands of years ago. A woman instinctivly goes after a man who has the characteristics that will make him a good mate and give her the greatest potential to reproduce and protect her offspring. SO THIS MEANS YOU NEED TO GET INTO ALPHA MALE STATE OF MIND.


So how do you become an alpha male...

well follow some great examples of alpha males. James bond and Tyler durden are the first ones that come to my mind. Being alpha means leading the pack... it does not mean being an *******. I can only begin to describe to you what an alpha male is like, but just think of a pack of wolves. The alpha leads the group. He doesn't take ****, he knows he's good, and he knows he has power. THIS ALL BOILS DOWN TO SELF CONFIDENCE. It doesn't matter what you look like or who you are, if you begin to act like you are top dog, you will eventually become top dog.

You can turn almost anything into "alpha status." I am a small guy, 5'11" 150 lbs... by no means do i intimiate anyone or do i instantly give off alpha status. So what makes women realize i am not to be ****ed with... my personality. The way i hold myself. The way i walk, talk, eat, and ****. I make no appologies for who i am and i step aside for no one. Now this is not me being a hard *** either. If some guy wants to pick a fight with me i'm about the last person in the world to throw down. Instead, i will use the situation to make him look like an idiot... thus gaining me the upper hand of Alpha status.

Here's an example. I hit on some girl who's got some big guy chasing her. He starts acting like a punk and implies he wants to fight. Infront of his girl i will say something along the lines of...

"Woah woah dude. First, we're gonna flex our muscles, then we're gonna see who can do more push ups, and finally we'll arm wrestle, and then let the lady decide." I then roll my eyes and turn my back on the guy and go back to talking to his girl.

All i had to do to tool this guy was take his own game, and turn it around on him to make him look like a jackass.

If he persists you keep going at him, turn everyone against him. "damn dude you really want to fight... god i feel like we're in 6th grade all over again... Why don't you take a seat there slugger and have another drink?"

So finally, here's what i do when i want to make it known that i am not interested in being just friends with a girl (this starts from the minute you meet her!)

1) She is not allowed to tool me in any way. I do not buy her drinks, i do not give in to her demands. If she says "wait here i have to use the restroom" I'll walk away and let her come find me later. It is important that she realizes you are not some puppy dog that will follow her around

2) I only speak highly of myself. I don't brag, but at the same time i don't tell her about the embarassing time i got caught jerkin' it by my mom or something like that. The stories you tell her should demonstrate that you are better than the rest... they should demonstrate your alpha side.

3) TEASE TEASE TEASE. Tell her that her hair looks awful tonight... and say with a huge smile so she can't tell if your playing around or serious.

4) After you've hooked her and she's shown that she's interesting in you (if she asks you questions, touches you) you give back... but only a little. Next time you laugh put your hand on hers and look into her eyes. Then cut the moment off.

5) PUSH PULL! Women want what they can't have. Show her what she could have, then take it away. Act like you want to be her boyfriend, then pull back and act like just a friend. Take one step backwards and two steps forwards.

Example: Tell her what great friends you're going to be... and then kiss her.

6) TAKE CHARGE! You decide whether or not you're going to give her the chance to come home with you. You decide if you want a relationship with her. AND MOST IMPORANTLY make her prove her worth to you. I ALWAYS ASK A GIRL... "so what makes you special/different from every other girl here?"


.

sorry, but if you be a complete *******, Most chicks will quickly lose interest.

In the rare case that a girl really likes you and really wants to make it work, she will keep changing what she does to try and please you, and you can really emotionally scar someone by being a jerk-off, and giving her the impression that she's not special to you, and that nothing she does pleases you.

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by croix153™

sorry, but if you be a complete *******, Most chicks will quickly lose interest.

In the rare case that a girl really likes you and really wants to make it work, she will keep changing what she does to try and please you, and you can really emotionally scar someone by being a jerk-off, and giving her the impression that she's not special to you, and that nothing she does pleases you.

Where in there did i ever say to be an *******? Infact, I believe multiple times I talked about NOT being an *******.

And no, some girl you just met shouldn't be special to you. What makes someone special is the time you spend together with them and the time you spend getting to know them. I wouldn't consider a girl "Special" until at least after the 7-10 hours of contact time required to really get to know someone... and that's a conservative time frame.

[croix153™ (Banned)]

Originally Posted by Bleachednblonde

Where in there did i ever say to be an *******? Infact, I believe multiple times I talked about NOT being an *******.

And no, some girl you just met shouldn't be special to you. What makes someone special is the time you spend together with them and the time you spend getting to know them. I wouldn't consider a girl "Special" until at least after the 7-10 hours of contact time required to really get to know someone... and that's a conservative time frame.

I realize that, but still, If I was a chick, I would interpret the way you act as somewhat 'assholic'

[it's called CLASS]

This is the most painful dilemma I've ever had when it comes to girls. This one is seriously making me feel like I have severe acid reflux or a golf ball lodged in my right atrium or something, it sucks. Anyway here it is:

I met this girl Kasey 9 months ago kind of out of the blue, I thought she was cute and more than that just really cool. Everyone liked her and she had a crowd of people around her most of the time. I became friends with her and we slowly became close over the next couple months. Some serious **** happened in her life like her dad moving out, then back in, and finding out that he has a second family with another kid who's a 3rd grader. She spilled everything to me and because of it we became closer yet.

Now let me go ahead and break in here to tell you that I had always had a crush on her, even though it wasn't exactly a big deal I always thought she was super cute. From then until now we have been best friends, and I mean best friends. We have a strange relationship in that she is very flirty, but not neccessarily attracted to the person shes flirting with, so to most people we look like a couple, and honestly asside from the PDA and official title might as well be. Here is the problem. I am a guy. I am 17. I am at a point in my life where I want something more, an at least semi-serious relationship, to have an actual girlfriend, not just a best friend who's a girl.

Now lets go to the issue that is eating me up. There's a cute girl named Lauren who I've known for a few months who I asked on a date for tonight a few nights ago. She said yes and as far as I know she's pretty into me. What the hell do I do... ?

I am in love with Kasey, my best friend, but I know she's not willing to have a relationship with anyone at this point in her life (I KNOW this because I talked with her about it for 4 hours last night), but I know if I go out and start dating someone that it will rip us apart. I just can't see how we can possibly stay best friends when theres a girlfriend in the mix, and when it comes down to it I don't think it's worth it to have a girlfriend and NOT have Kasey. What do I do in this situation? I have the date with Lauren tonight and I am definatley not backing out of it, I know I need something like it, but I also know that I am going to be thinking about Kasey the whole time. I need some major advice here on how to un**** myself.

[NaughtyD0gsPb]

I have a ton of hot chicks in my drivers ed class but I don't sit or drive with any of them or near them. I wanna approach them but don't wanna just walk up random people like that... Basically uif you can think of some way for me to approach them in a non-awkward way. We have assigned seats.

[it's called CLASS]

Originally Posted by it's called CLASS

This is the most painful dilemma I've ever had when it comes to girls. This one is seriously making me feel like I have severe acid reflux or a golf ball lodged in my right atrium or something, it sucks. Anyway here it is:

I met this girl Kasey 9 months ago kind of out of the blue, I thought she was cute and more than that just really cool. Everyone liked her and she had a crowd of people around her most of the time. I became friends with her and we slowly became close over the next couple months. Some serious **** happened in her life like her dad moving out, then back in, and finding out that he has a second family with another kid who's a 3rd grader. She spilled everything to me and because of it we became closer yet.

Now let me go ahead and break in here to tell you that I had always had a crush on her, even though it wasn't exactly a big deal I always thought she was super cute. From then until now we have been best friends, and I mean best friends. We have a strange relationship in that she is very flirty, but not neccessarily attracted to the person shes flirting with, so to most people we look like a couple, and honestly asside from the PDA and official title might as well be. Here is the problem. I am a guy. I am 17. I am at a point in my life where I want something more, an at least semi-serious relationship, to have an actual girlfriend, not just a best friend who's a girl.

Now lets go to the issue that is eating me up. There's a cute girl named Lauren who I've known for a few months who I asked on a date for tonight a few nights ago. She said yes and as far as I know she's pretty into me. What the hell do I do... ?

I am in love with Kasey, my best friend, but I know she's not willing to have a relationship with anyone at this point in her life (I KNOW this because I talked with her about it for 4 hours last night), but I know if I go out and start dating someone that it will rip us apart. I just can't see how we can possibly stay best friends when theres a girlfriend in the mix, and when it comes down to it I don't think it's worth it to have a girlfriend and NOT have Kasey. What do I do in this situation? I have the date with Lauren tonight and I am definatley not backing out of it, I know I need something like it, but I also know that I am going to be thinking about Kasey the whole time. I need some major advice here on how to un**** myself.

Sorry might I add that because I have the date tonight, it's somewhat urgent. Thanks fellas.

[PB&S]

Originally Posted by it's called CLASS

Sorry might I add that because I have the date tonight, it's somewhat urgent. Thanks fellas.

Date Lauren, and tell Kasey all about it. Then when you and Lauren call it off Kasey should be available.

[AKMetal]

Bleached you own man. I'm not emotional infront of people really, and I'm 5'8 175, blonde hair hazel eyes, i can bench 245 and squat in the 300's. so physically im confident as well. ill try some of your techniques and report back.

[Lil_Spinney]

double your dating

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by croix153™

I realize that, but still, If I was a chick, I would interpret the way you act as somewhat 'assholic'

I guess I can see how things could be interpreted that way. But here is why women DON’T interpret it like that. Communication with women is about 80% non verbal and about 20% verbal. What you say is not nearly as important as how you say it. If a girl asks me to buy her a drink and give her an annoyed look and say “I don’t buy women drinks, they usually buy me drinks!” yes of course they will think I’m an ***. Now if I say that same thing, and I say it with a big smile and be playful, they will never think I’m an *******.

Originally Posted by it's called CLASS

This is the most painful dilemma I've ever had when it comes to girls. This one is seriously making me feel like I have severe acid reflux or a golf ball lodged in my right atrium or something, it sucks. Anyway here it is:

I met this girl Kasey 9 months ago kind of out of the blue, I thought she was cute and more than that just really cool. Everyone liked her and she had a crowd of people around her most of the time. I became friends with her and we slowly became close over the next couple months. Some serious **** happened in her life like her dad moving out, then back in, and finding out that he has a second family with another kid who's a 3rd grader. She spilled everything to me and because of it we became closer yet.

Now let me go ahead and break in here to tell you that I had always had a crush on her, even though it wasn't exactly a big deal I always thought she was super cute. From then until now we have been best friends, and I mean best friends. We have a strange relationship in that she is very flirty, but not neccessarily attracted to the person shes flirting with, so to most people we look like a couple, and honestly asside from the PDA and official title might as well be. Here is the problem. I am a guy. I am 17. I am at a point in my life where I want something more, an at least semi-serious relationship, to have an actual girlfriend, not just a best friend who's a girl.

Now lets go to the issue that is eating me up. There's a cute girl named Lauren who I've known for a few months who I asked on a date for tonight a few nights ago. She said yes and as far as I know she's pretty into me. What the hell do I do... ?

I am in love with Kasey, my best friend, but I know she's not willing to have a relationship with anyone at this point in her life (I KNOW this because I talked with her about it for 4 hours last night), but I know if I go out and start dating someone that it will rip us apart. I just can't see how we can possibly stay best friends when theres a girlfriend in the mix, and when it comes down to it I don't think it's worth it to have a girlfriend and NOT have Kasey. What do I do in this situation? I have the date with Lauren tonight and I am definatley not backing out of it, I know I need something like it, but I also know that I am going to be thinking about Kasey the whole time. I need some major advice here on how to un**** myself.

I think you will be surprised how we (guys) forget about a girl as we move on. It’s good that Kasey is your best friend, but I think no matter how much you love her you should look for serious relationships in other places. I know it’s hard to think that you can love anyone else but you will. Now there’s no reason that you can kasey can’t still be best friends while you have a girlfriend. Hell I lived with my best female friend for 2 years and dated multiple women in that time period. The trick is to be honest. Tell Lauren (not tonight but eventually) that kasey is your best friend. Explain to her that you are close and are not going to sacrifice your best friend for her.

In my experience best friends do not make good lovers… simply because when you lose one, you will most likely lose both. When my last relationship ended, I lost my girlfriend who became my best friend during our relationship. Losing the girlfriend part wasn’t hard. Losing my best friend was terrible. Appreciate Kasey for what she is… your best friend and look for love in the right places. Remember this girl isn’t the end all… there are other women out there that you will love just as much.

As for your date tonight… GET YOUR MIND OFF OF KASEY! I don’t care what you have to do but focus on Lauren. If you’re going to have that special kind of best friend and a girlfriend you are going to have to learn how to dedicate your attention to each girl when you spend time with them. The same goes for dating multiple women. So before you go out with Lauren tonight go cruise around the internet and read some interesting stuff. I like to read about hypnosis and lucid dreaming because girls love that stuff. Do your homework. For the first few dates you should do 1-2 hours of research on interesting topics to talk about.

Originally Posted by NaughtyD0gsPb

I have a ton of hot chicks in my drivers ed class but I don't sit or drive with any of them or near them. I wanna approach them but don't wanna just walk up random people like that... Basically uif you can think of some way for me to approach them in a non-awkward way. We have assigned seats.

It’s not awkward, you’re just imaging that it’s awkward. If you walk up to a woman and say something that doesn’t make it seem like you are hitting on them they will most likely be very receptive. Most importantly be confident, eye contact and good posture. Don’t fidget and speak clearly. Women can pick up on the little things that will tell them you are not confident.

There is nothing I can tell you that will make you feel better about this. It’s like skydiving. Yea you’re going to be scared and nervous but you just do it! And eventually you do it enough and you become desensitized to it.

Originally Posted by AKMetal

Bleached you own man. I'm not emotional infront of people really, and I'm 5'8 175, blonde hair hazel eyes, i can bench 245 and squat in the 300's. so physically im confident as well. ill try some of your techniques and report back.

Let me know how it goes

Originally Posted by Lil_Spinney

double your dating

Amazing book, david deAngelo is a very talented guy. Neil Strauss’ book is amazing too. That’s where I learned most of this.

[it's called CLASS]

I get what you are saying about moving on and getting over her, its just strange because she has been talking about trying to go to the same college and I know her parents really well, and her sisters, etc. It's just a very difficult situation, but I think I am going to do the following and pray for the best:

I'm going to go on the date tonight with an open mindset, afterall Lauren is a great girl my friends are really jealous. I'm going to depending on how things go explain to her how much Kasey means to me, as a friend, and that I am not going to ditch her just because I have a girlfriend. I think she knows that its just plutonic, except of course in my head, but it shouldn't be too much of an issue for Lauren. For Kasey, she will be really upset. She is afraid to come out and say it, but I think she loves me just like I love her. She just replaces love with "mean the world to me" and "care so much about you." Point being, it will hurt like hell to see me, a guy who means so much to her, HER guy for the last 9 months, regardless of g/f or b/f title, go off and find another girl who means as much to him as she does (if not more, in theory). Even though it will hurt her, I have to do it for me. If she really cares about me, she'll be upset, but she'll deal with it. Assuming Lauren is as complient as I assume she will be (she's really just too nice of a girl to ***** about something like that), I should be able to keep things close to the same as they have been with Kasey. Sure, we may talk a little less, hang out a little less, but as I told her last night, "regardless of what happens, I'd do anything for you, you know that." She is still my girl, but just more of my sister if you will. She is out of town a lot this summer, she told me if I'm going to do something to do it while she's away, and thats what I plan on doing if its possible.

Yes/No?

[Bleachednblonde (Banned)]

Originally Posted by it's called CLASS

I get what you are saying about moving on and getting over her, its just strange because she has been talking about trying to go to the same college and I know her parents really well, and her sisters, etc. It's just a very difficult situation, but I think I am going to do the following and pray for the best:

I'm going to go on the date tonight with an open mindset, afterall Lauren is a great girl my friends are really jealous. I'm going to depending on how things go explain to her how much Kasey means to me, as a friend, and that I am not going to ditch her just because I have a girlfriend. I think she knows that its just plutonic, except of course in my head, but it shouldn't be too much of an issue for Lauren. For Kasey, she will be really upset. She is afraid to come out and say it, but I think she loves me just like I love her. She just replaces love with "mean the world to me" and "care so much about you." Point being, it will hurt like hell to see me, a guy who means so much to her, HER guy for the last 9 months, regardless of g/f or b/f title, go off and find another girl who means as much to him as she does (if not more, in theory). Even though it will hurt her, I have to do it for me. If she really cares about me, she'll be upset, but she'll deal with it. Assuming Lauren is as complient as I assume she will be (she's really just too nice of a girl to ***** about something like that), I should be able to keep things close to the same as they have been with Kasey. Sure, we may talk a little less, hang out a little less, but as I told her last night, "regardless of what happens, I'd do anything for you, you know that." She is still my girl, but just more of my sister if you will. She is out of town a lot this summer, she told me if I'm going to do something to do it while she's away, and thats what I plan on doing if its possible.

Yes/No?

Welll she needs to realize that you want a relationship. If she's not ready for that then she will have to see you with another girl and deal with it. If she loves you this will be a good way for her to determine exactally how much she loves you.